posted February 13, 2015 06:03 PM            

When the aspect is -significant- in the synastry, the way I've seen it play out is not very positive. It works better when the woman is Mars and the man is Venus.
But generally... things still go downhill over time. It starts off with a bang. The Mars person is very attracted and in pursuit. The Venus person is flattered. This lasts maybe a few weeks or a couple of months. As they get closer they end up arguing a lot, the Mars person comes accross as selfish and aggressive. The Venus person feels misunderstood and sometimes even harassed.
Venus eventually feels like Mars is a bully and too self-centred for them. There is only so much arguing a couple can do before they break up.

posted February 13, 2015 07:01 PM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
If this aspect is close, 4 degrees or less, and applying - so Venus has to be at an earlier degree than Mars - then it will be felt. If it's not close and separating, it will probably be overshadowed by other aspects in the synastry.

When the aspect is -significant- in the synastry, the way I've seen it play out is not very positive. It works better when the woman is Mars and the man is Venus.
But generally... things still go downhill over time. It starts off with a bang. The Mars person is very attracted and in pursuit. The Venus person is flattered. This lasts maybe a few weeks or a couple of months. As they get closer they end up arguing a lot, the Mars person comes accross as selfish and aggressive. The Venus person feels misunderstood and sometimes even harassed.
Venus eventually feels like Mars is a bully and too self-centred for them. There is only so many arguing a couple can do before they break up.

This is just how I've personally seen it play out. I'm guessing things would be better if the Mars person had a very positive, well placed Mars and if they were very mature and spiritually aware.
Even so - in the absolute best case scenario - this aspect is mostly just about sex. If you want something long-term,rather than casual, Saturn trines/sextiles, Mercury aspects, Moon/Moon aspects and Sun/Moon aspects are more important to have.

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I agree that Mars is the pursuer. When someone touches our Mars, it awakens our desire and Venus conjunct Mars certainly does that. But when Mars is the woman, she can be seen as too aggressive which can turn men off, unless they're the submissive type.

posted February 13, 2015 07:06 PM            

When you have a bunch of planets conjunct - it's not really possible to separate them and only look at your Mars on his Venus.
All these planets are interacting! It's probably very energetic and fun to be around each other. You should do something physical together - like go out and dance.
Can you invite him somewhere? Are you in the same circle of friends?

posted February 13, 2015 07:12 PM            

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Originally posted by Koho:
It is my favorite synastry aspect for attraction. My best experience has been the conjunction near exact. My favorite sex partners are Mars in Libra women conjunct my Venus in Libra (IM A MAN)

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So, you don't find with the exact or close conjunction that Mars on your Venus is too aggressive? Maybe not in Libra.

posted February 13, 2015 07:16 PM            

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Originally posted by Nine:
Agree with everything said above. This is a purely sexual aspect. Without other combinations it will lead to conflict later.

When the Goddess of Love meets the God of War - first they make love, then they make war. Always.

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posted February 13, 2015 07:17 PM            

Venus square Saturn double whammy? Tough. My experience and it has been frequent because I have Venus squaring the Saturn of the late 1990 crowd which I hang out with a lot and no matter how great the synastry is and how clear the attraction is something gets in the way. Either they move away, or something else in life blocks everything. The universe is quite creative with it's Venus sq Saturn blocks

posted February 13, 2015 07:18 PM            

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Originally posted by LexusVirgo:
Thank you odette I should ask him. But the thing that is scaring me most about our charts is our venus square saturn double whammy. I hear awful things about this aspect. from Unrequited love to all sorts of things.

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posted February 13, 2015 07:19 PM            

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Originally posted by peony:
So, you don't find with the exact or close conjunction that Mars on your Venus is too aggressive? Maybe not in Libra.

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posted February 13, 2015 07:23 PM            

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Originally posted by peony:
I agree that Mars is the pursuer. When someone touches our Mars, it awakens our desire and Venus conjunct Mars certainly does that. But when Mars is the woman, she can be seen as too aggressive which can turn men off, unless they're the submissive type.

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Well from what I've seen - when the woman is Venus she can feel harassed by Mars. Mars seems too macho in a way that can become upsetting.

When the man is Venus - it's actually better - because women on average, are not as aggressive as men. So a "Mars"-woman will be more toned down than her male counterpart. It's a more balanced interaction overall and works out better.

posted February 13, 2015 10:17 PM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
Well from what I've seen - when the woman is Venus she can feel harassed by Mars. Mars seems too macho in a way that can become upsetting.

When the man is Venus - it's actually better - because women on average, are not as aggressive as men. So a "Mars"-woman will be more toned down than her male counterpart. It's a more balanced interaction overall and works out better.

I've almost never seen the conjunction work in a relationship when the man is Mars. The woman sees him as violent and eventually leaves him :/

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Oh, I have no doubt what you're saying is valid.

But, I recently had an experience where my Mars was conjunct (0 degrees) their Venus in Scorpio. It was a revelation to discover that my Mars in Scorpio can be aggressive! It scared the guy.

posted February 13, 2015 10:20 PM            

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Originally posted by Koho:
Nope. Aggression isn't really an issue in the Libran world. I find the conjunction under this sign quite pleasant.

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So, the sign placement is a key factor, not just the aspect. Thanks!

posted February 13, 2015 11:24 PM            

The conjunction to me is a double-edged sword. And is both an advantageous as well as a challenging aspect between the two.

The aspect of a conjunction between Venus and Mars suggests that when you two agree, you TOTALLY agree. And this can create intense feelings-which this aspect is famous for.

But where there is absolute agreement, there will surely one day come ABSOLUTE disagreement. And herein lies the problem/ "Achilles heel" with this aspect.

I personally advocate the trine/sextile aspect between the two. Its less volatile IME and can have the benefit of sex and friendship together.

Maybe it burns with less intensity at the beginning and feels really "safe". But in the long-term it shows its competence. Really!

If Venus aspects Mars and there is Sun/Asc /Moon interactions or Sun/Asc/Moon/Jupiter aspects.Then we can breathe a sigh of relief that the partners may have a chance.

Lets also hope Pluto/Uranus do not sit on Mars/Venus too by a challenging aspect )

A couple with Venus/Mars conjunct very prominent or in a double whammy often argues a lot and then has sex. Argues then sex. Sex then an argument. And around and around it can go.

The couple starts to associate their fights with being in-love.If they are not fighting or disagreeing about something then they are not in love etc.