posted February 22, 2015 08:11 AM            

I have this in my 9th house and I feel like I have been more affected by it lately more than usual. Such as being sad that I do not have a significant other in my life.

I can also say that I have never been in love with a man. Lately I have been feeling like I will never find someone. It is always some guys is into me but I am not in to them or vice versa.

posted February 22, 2015 12:39 PM            

I just moved to my old neighbourhood and when trSaturn was conjunct Venus last year, it was the loneliest I have felt EVER.

The good news is that this aspect DOES get better. Just look at it as transiting Venus in 12th for most of your life; shy, reclusive and unable to express itself openly.

Then when it moves to the 1st house( around ages 30 onwards),then you suddenly start to really get the hang of this "love" thing.

I read an article of a woman in her 50's who recently got married. And what stood out about the article was how spectacularly beautiful the woman was(still after all this time) and that this was her 1st marriage.

When asked why she waited for so long to get married she said "I had a choice to wait until the best one came. Or settle with the lot available. I chose to wait."

Looking at her chart, there it was; Venus/Saturn conjunct.

Now I am not saying that you will find love at 50 But what I am saying is that Saturn tends to set very high standards of whom one should settle down with.And many rarely digress from the initial ideal.

Life gives as many options to you as the next person. The only difference really is that for the Venus-Saturn people,love is not a feeling that comes easily.

We just don't fall in love that easy. And that is that.

Now eventually we come to a point of decision. The same point that the above woman came to; do we settle for what is available or wait for what we want?

posted February 22, 2015 01:22 PM            

I have it (4dgr orb). I did a lot of research about that aspect (my Venus is very aspected) and at the end of the day I LOVE IT! For real. I am not saying that it is pleasant aspect, but for sure is an aspect that can give you an amazing connection with someone later in your life (after first Saturn return - after you are 29/30 yrs old).

For me it is true - I just don't fall in love that easy. And that is that! I could get 10 guys right now with a snap of my finger (Seriously!) but none of them feels right to me. I need someting more and I WILL get it. It will maybe take longer than it takes for my friends to get BFs and GFs but at the end of the day I choose quality over quantity. And you should too!

p.s.: Koniucha, how old are you? Have you already experienced first Saturn Return?

posted February 22, 2015 02:19 PM            

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Originally posted by LostSoulRebecca:
People, people! Don't hate Venus and Saturn together. They are acctually pretty fine. Well they get better along with time

I have it (4dgr orb). I did a lot of research about that aspect (my Venus is very aspected) and at the end of the day I LOVE IT! For real. I am not saying that it is pleasant aspect, but for sure is an aspect that can give you an amazing connection with someone later in your life (after first Saturn return - after you are 29/30 yrs old).

For me it is true - I just don't fall in love that easy. And that is that! I could get 10 guys right now with a snap of my finger (Seriously!) but none of them feels right to me. I need someting more and I WILL get it. It will maybe take longer than it takes for my friends to get BFs and GFs but at the end of the day I choose quality over quantity. And you should too!

p.s.: Koniucha, how old are you? Have you already experienced first Saturn Return?

BTW: Watch this video about Venus/Saturn conjunction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yOmea5kH7j0

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I am 34. I have no idea about the Saturn return. How do I know that?

I agree with the many guys thing. In fact, I have one at work that will never give up, I am afraid lol. But like you said, doesn't feel right.

posted February 22, 2015 06:19 PM            

OTOH, I am an aging spinster. It's not that I lack relationships, including sexual ones. It's just that I haven't found anyone I want to marry, or vice versa. I'm okay with that most of the time.

posted February 22, 2015 07:19 PM            

My female friend is an Aries Sun, Gem Moon - Saturn Gem conjunct Venus/Mars.

She's getting married for the first time @ 42 years old.

We used to work together and we were inseparable, she's one of the coolest people I have ever known.

*I have Venus trine Saturn.

posted February 22, 2015 08:12 PM            

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Originally posted by Koniucha:
Awe, I am happy I posted this. You guys have made me feel much better and less lonely

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We both loved each other very deeply but we were so different. We would defend each other to death.

posted February 22, 2015 08:52 PM            

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Originally posted by Koho:
My good friend has Venus trine/sextile Saturn.. I forget which.

Maybe there's something to it because he really hasn't made too many romantic connections in his life despite being handsome, athletic, smart, and overall a good person. It's always been my astrological mission to find out why he doesn't get laid as often as he should

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When you're born with a trine, you'll experience the square half way your 1st Saturn return(by progression).

You get to see how that feels then you mature to be who you're meant to be.

posted February 22, 2015 11:33 PM            

Our daughter has her Sun and Saturn conj his venus/saturn......

More about him. In a relationship, he was till death parts us. Break ups are forever and an ex is never allowed back. Once it's done, it's 100% over.

It has been 13 years since I left him. He has had a brief fling for a few months and then a May to December romance. Beyond that he has not been in any relationship that I know of.

He goes to work and is a single Dad. Maybe that is where he puts his energy into.

posted February 25, 2015 01:54 PM            

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Originally posted by Virgo28:
When you're born with a trine, you'll experience the square half way your 1st Saturn return(by progression).

You get to see how that feels then you mature to be who you're meant to be.

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This is interesting. Could you explain more? I have Venus trine Saturn and for the past decade (so since around 18 years of age) I have been in back-to-back long term relationships so finding love hasn't been an issue for me. I have always had a very serious attitude about love though - I generally "pick a person and that's it for me" type thing - but perhaps that is signified by my dating history. I have never been the type to "date" or entertain multiple suitors.

I will go through my 1st Saturn return at the end of this year - does that mean I am already past the difficult stage? Experiencing the square?

posted February 25, 2015 02:47 PM            

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Originally posted by GemBird82:
Another prejudice imho.

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posted February 26, 2015 03:26 PM            

This is sorta the double-edged sword if you have such a Venus-Saturn aspect. You take love seriously and don't jump it or broadcast your desire for it. But if you don't have a relationship by a certain point in your life it is too tempting to see it as just not happening for you. "Looks like doom," says the voice of cosmic Eeyore.

No, you have to be proactive. Change the frequency you are putting out if the results have not been to your liking. Birth charts give default starting places only. You will always have windows of opportunity during certain transits/progressions to change, even override an old tendency with a new energy. I am telling you because I did this and I'm married to my best friend today.

Venus-Saturn aspects like this (unless there are other Jupiter factors to alter it) means generally 'mature first' - more than the norm. Saturn acting upon Venus tends to slow down fulfillment, but that means you are just on a different schedule, not that it is preventing you from getting there.

If you agree that you take love/relationships seriously and want something to last, then take the time you have while single to develop relational skills like active listening, compassion, etc. Then you are ready. This adds to attraction on a psychic level.