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Topic: Venus in Gemini man? Experiences?
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babybull82
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posted March 01, 2015 05:51 PM
  
I have never dealt with one on a romantic level. One has decided to show interest in me. Everything I've come across on the interwebs say I should walk away and fast. He has these placements: Asc: Sagittarius
Sun: Taurus
Moon: Libra
Mercury: Gemini
Venus: Gemini
Mars: Cancer
Jupiter: Gemini
Saturn: Capricorn
Uranus: Capricorn
Neptune: Capricorn
Pluto: Scorpio After my bit of research ( I know I shouldn't base this decision solely on his astrological placements) I think I'm leaning more towards just automatically sending him to the friendzone. Which is a bummer because I find him attractive and I'm sure we'd vibe very well as I have some Libra and Gemini placements too, but man I'm just really not in the mood for another quick 2 second fling. I'm craving something stable and long lasting possibly a yr or more. Does anybody have any personal experience with these folks? Was it long term or short term? Did they dump you first, or you them? I'm specifically looking for reports on the men, but I wouldn't mind hearing from the women with this placement as well. If I do decided to explore this romantically I'm going to go very slowly. I'm sure that there will be a risk of him getting bored and moving on if I go slowly, but I really don't care. I refuse to get caught up in another whirlwind romance only to be left holding the bag..NOPE!! IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted March 01, 2015 08:50 PM
I know two Venus in Geminis, one's a woman and one's a man. The man is pretty smart / definitely nerdy but he hates confrontation (I blame his Mars in Pisces more for that though). He's prissy. He cuts corners. And he flirts even though he's in a long-term relationship (he's unhappy in it but not enough to break it off I guess.) He's friendly too but you can tell he gets a little nervous. He doesn't seem to think in advance about things other than learning. IP: Logged |
Nine
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posted March 01, 2015 09:40 PM
Is Neptune in his 1st house??Chances are he's hard to read, and is not how he appears. Smart move to take things slowly. Put him in friendzone, and keep an eye on him for a while. IP: Logged |
lisalisa
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posted March 01, 2015 10:12 PM
Yes, i dated a guy for 1 month with gemini venus
Week 1 was amazing, after that he lost interest fast because i was too slow with him.. I didnt want to keep up with him so he got bored, after 1 week he said he slept with another girl and he hoped it wouldn't change anything.. LOL. IP: Logged |
ScandinavianCrab
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posted March 02, 2015 12:08 AM
Look for aspects to outer planets. My moon and Venus in Gemini has no problem with comitment and exclusivity. But theyre both aspected by Pluto and Saturn.A Gemini Venus only aspected by Uranus would hit my "only friends"-list in a sec. IP: Logged |
babybull82
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posted March 02, 2015 02:00 AM
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Originally posted by Nine:
Is Neptune in his 1st house??Chances are he's hard to read, and is not how he appears. Smart move to take things slowly. Put him in friendzone, and keep an eye on him for a while.
Yup! He has Uranus, Neptune and Saturn in the first house. Just from what I've seen on his fb he's had a LOT of girlfriends. Or it would appear that way, because like you say Neptune may be playing a part in how he appears to me. The thing is wouldn't Saturn in Capricorn in the first ground him a bit? OH! And I should probably mention he has like 3 planets in his 5th..so yea & one of them being his sun. So he'll pretty much never turn down an opportunity to have fun. I'm already feeling like we wouldn't be a good fit. He seems very spontaneous & goes out a lot. He does have a 1yr old son so maybe that slowed him down a bit. But the fact he's not with the baby momma says a lot. He probably just jumps into things too fast cuz it's fun & gets caught up in the moment, then feels trapped when realizes he made a mistake. Hmm, I may just walk away completely idk... IP: Logged |
babybull82
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posted March 02, 2015 02:11 AM
Let's just do this...  So what do you guys think? IP: Logged |
the89freespirit
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posted March 02, 2015 01:04 PM
I think you should never refuse to date someone because of their chart placements. Ever. No offense but it's just silly. You're trying to predict what this person's behavior will be like because of his ONE placement. People are more complex than that. Don't forget that many astrologers thrive on stereotypes. So, you've probably been reading many descriptions of Gemini Venus that are lacking in nuance and rely on the old "shallow, fickle, love and leave" stereotypes of Gemini.His Venus in conjunction to Jupiter is a good sign, for example. This usually shows a big heart, lots of generosity in romance, and this generosity will be expressed in a Gemini way. Basically, you can read this guy's chart all day but you'll never know until you actually go for it. Take the risk. Just use his chart to understand him more, instead of writing him off. ------------------
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babybull82
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posted March 02, 2015 01:57 PM
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Originally posted by the89freespirit:
I think you should never refuse to date someone because of their chart placements. Ever. No offense but it's just silly. You're trying to predict what this person's behavior will be like because of his ONE placement. People are more complex than that. Don't forget that many astrologers thrive on stereotypes. So, you've probably been reading many descriptions of Gemini Venus that are lacking in nuance and rely on the old "shallow, fickle, love and leave" stereotypes of Gemini.His Venus in conjunction to Jupiter is a good sign, for example. This usually shows a big heart, lots of generosity in romance, and this generosity will be expressed in a Gemini way. Basically, you can read this guy's chart all day but you'll never know until you actually go for it. Take the risk. Just use his chart to understand him more, instead of writing him off.
I understand what you're saying, but I'm not the only person who has walked away from something they felt wouldn't have worked. Astrology aside, just based off of his lifestyle I don't think we'd be a good fit. I mean sure I could see us being friends, but ultimately in the end, I think he'd get bored with me anyway, so why not save myself from being hurt and just protect my heart. He can't hurt me if we're just friends. If after I awhile I feel differently then I'll give it a shot but until then my guard is all the way up. Sorry if that's unfair, but I've been through too much to not have my reservations about men in general at this point. I'm sorry if I offended you not my intention, but there are sincere reasons why I feel this way. IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees
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posted March 02, 2015 02:11 PM
Lots of girlfriend you say? Well, I think that Moon in 9th could be the culprit  Planets in 3rd/9th always need a variety of choices or stimulation. I have Moon in 3rd and so, I should know  Also since Moon is in Libra,it could make a person quite the charmer  : Able to get people to do what they want them to do or go along with them etc. Mars in 7th complements this strongly; he goes after relationships with "gusto". Usually Mars blazes through them as quickly as they have made them. A very active social life. Mars in Cancer is however a lot more emotional and sensitive about "loyalty". They take offense easily and can get defensive when distrusting.This is also supported by the trine aspect to Pluto He does need a lot of mental stimulation for sure (Mercury/Venus/Jupiter conjunct in Gemini). And all this in 5th suggests a very playful individual indeed. All in all, he seem like fun.That Venus in air mixed with Mars in water is an interesting mix of sexuality. Mars in Cancer suggests security matters on a primal/instinctive level whilst Venus in Gemini suggests that mental connections are wanted and make life worth living. IP: Logged |
the89freespirit
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posted March 02, 2015 04:02 PM
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Originally posted by babybull82:
I understand what you're saying, but I'm not the only person who has walked away from something they felt wouldn't have worked. Astrology aside, just based off of his lifestyle I don't think we'd be a good fit. I mean sure I could see us being friends, but ultimately in the end, I think he'd get bored with me anyway, so why not save myself from being hurt and just protect my heart. He can't hurt me if we're just friends. If after I awhile I feel differently then I'll give it a shot but until then my guard is all the way up. Sorry if that's unfair, but I've been through too much to not have my reservations about men in general at this point. I'm sorry if I offended you not my intention, but there are sincere reasons why I feel this way.
Oh, no. You haven't offended me at all. I was just giving my two cents. And I can completely understand where you're coming from. No one wants to get hurt, ideally. BUT, I also hear you making assumptions about this guy without even giving him a chance. How do you know he'll get bored with you? How do you know it'll just end up in heartache? You don't. Why not take the risk? I can tell that you want to. If you were just all "oh, whatever, I don't care", you wouldn't take the time to make a thread about him, asking other people's opinion, and you wouldn't have slipped in that "well, maybe I'll change my mind..." To me, it sounds like it's not really about his Gemini Venus. It's about your own fears and you're projecting them on to this "troublesome" placement. And it's giving you a convenient excuse to say, "Ah, see, I knew he was wrong for me!" What's the harm in trying? Say he does he get bored with you. Well, at least you found out. Then, you can move on. Don't let fears of getting hurt get in the way. If everyone who ever got hurt became scared of dating, then no one would date ever.  And what is it about his lifestyle? Is he a slob and you're neat? Does he smoke or something? Things that can be worked out in a relationship?
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babybull82
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posted March 02, 2015 04:32 PM
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Originally posted by the89freespirit:
Oh, no. You haven't offended me at all. I was just giving my two cents. And I can completely understand where you're coming from. No one wants to get hurt, ideally.BUT, I also hear you making assumptions about this guy without even giving him a chance. How do you know he'll get bored with you? How do you know it'll just end up in heartache? You don't. Why not take the risk? I can tell that you want to. If you were just all "oh, whatever, I don't care", you wouldn't take the time to make a thread about him, asking other people's opinion, and you wouldn't have slipped in that "well, maybe I'll change my mind..." To me, it sounds like it's not really about his Gemini Venus. It's about your own fears and you're projecting them on to this "troublesome" placement. And it's giving you a convenient excuse to say, "Ah, see, I knew he was wrong for me!" What's the harm in trying? Say he does he get bored with you. Well, at least you found out. Then, you can move on. Don't let fears of getting hurt get in the way. If everyone who ever got hurt became scared of dating, then no one would date ever. And what is it about his lifestyle? Is he a slob and you're neat? Does he smoke or something? Things that can be worked out in a relationship?
Well for one, I think we're like 7yrs apart. I am a mother with 2 kids. My days of going to the clubs and bars are over. He seems really spontaneous and likes to go out all the time and that is soo not me. I'm comfy chillen at home with a good book or hanging out with my kids. He has a 1 yr old who he gets often, but he still pretty active socially. Also it would appear that when he's in a relationship he makes it pretty public and takes pictures and all that at bars and clubs. I'm a very low-key kind if chick, who likes to keep her relationships pretty quiet (less drama that way). I mean it's fine if people know but I'm just not blasting all of my stuff on fb or whatever else. It could just be an age difference thing, but also it's probably just his personality.
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awakemer
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posted March 02, 2015 11:30 PM
every venus in gemini person i have met is a big flirt the last guy i liked goes through one girl after another and i think he gets bored easily and fears commitment. he has a lot of leo planets w/ scorpio rising.. oh well IP: Logged |
babybull82
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posted March 02, 2015 11:34 PM
Well this one, I think was with his kid's mom for about 2 yrs..but I'm just REALLY curious about how all of these relationships ended..did he do it or did they. I noticed a post awhile ago where he said he was tired of being hurt and that he was going to focus on himself..but well we see how that worked out lol. Perhaps he's the one wanting something lasting and he's attracting women who don't? Not sure...IP: Logged |
Einfühlung
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posted March 03, 2015 02:42 AM
Here's my experience. I've met a venus in gemini man who says he liked me but then liked someone else and started dating her in a flash. Most likely because I wasn't interested, but boy did he move on fast. But he has gemini and sag placements too.. And aspects saying he likes variety. He gets along with everyone. I haven't really met other venus in gemini men. I'm sure they are different in their own way despite what charts say.I have venus in gemini too but I'm not a big flirt at all.. By the way, what is flirting? Lol. I do like people who has different backgrounds and interests than me. Makes things interesting because I love to learn about them. IP: Logged |
margym0o
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posted March 03, 2015 09:37 AM
Having Venus in Gemini does not automatically compel someone to be disloyal or dishonest in a relationship. They can be just as loyal as the next sign depending on the rest of the chart and the person's individual willpower and morals. I knew a man with Taurus, Scorpio and Sag placements and he was SHAMELESS about his infidelity with his now-wife so I find generalizations unfair.My best friend and her long-term boyfriend are both Gemini Suns and BOTH have Venus in Gemini and have been completely faithful to each other and are looking to get married. I see it as more of a love style - they like to keep it light, fun, and playful. They appreciate a fun mate. They are also endlessly fascinated by people and learning about others - true "people watchers." Again I think this is either intensified or dampened depending on the aspects to Venus and the rest of the chart. Be flirty, funny and a little wacky and you will be sure to catch (and hold) his attention. Maybe save any deep emotional conversations until you know him better
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