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Topic: Aquarian males and their bad rep
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MoonBunny
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posted March 04, 2015 12:31 PM
  
I felt like I wanted to post this since I have 2 aquarian males in my family and also have dated a few.
I feel like these guys always get painted as cold and fickle, but it simply isn't always true. Especially for aquarian males with a lot of water in their chart. Watery aquarians in my experience have been the kindest, forgiving, most empathetic people I've ever encountered. My brother and nephew are both watery aquarians, and are just like the above mentioned qualities. I think the mixture of water and air can be a very powerful one. I am mostly a watery person, and I know first hand that watery aquarians usually outshine me in terms of forgiveness, letting go of grudges, and kindness. They are truly inspiring to me. I would love to hear what others think about this, especially other aquarians!! IP: Logged |
theunknown
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posted March 04, 2015 12:34 PM
also the earthy aquarians  IP: Logged |
MoonBunny
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posted March 04, 2015 12:36 PM
Can you elaborate??  IP: Logged |
Jo B
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posted March 04, 2015 07:12 PM
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Originally posted by MoonBunny:
I feel like these guys always get painted as cold and fickle
I had one Aqua guy who was exactly that, it was such a contrast to his initial charm! lol I'd even go on to say he was actually a bit of a psycho in disguise! hehe Three other Aqua boyfriends (errm, guess I've been around the block a few times!) weren't cold/fickle at all though, all were quite into me and demonstrative with their affections. But they all displayed controlling behaviour in a very subtle way which eventually made me rebel and literally chuck them out the house. Aww aren't I nice! I have Aqua moon so I suppose what attracted me ultimately led to clashes of will. IP: Logged |
PixieJane
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posted March 04, 2015 07:24 PM
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Originally posted by MoonBunny:
Watery aquarians in my experience have been the kindest, forgiving, most empathetic people I've ever encountered
I'm close to someone exactly like that though she's a woman rather than a man. Unfortunately some take advantage of that...which I'll step in over though she won't always let me. IP: Logged |
MoonBunny
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posted March 04, 2015 09:05 PM
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Originally posted by Jo B:
IBut they all displayed controlling behaviour in a very subtle way which eventually made me rebel and literally chuck them out the house. Aww aren't I nice!
Can you describe how they were controlling? The only thing I can reference is that my ex aquarius bf (who was a very airy aquarius) was very controlling in what we actually did together, i.e. movie selection, restaurant selection etc etc. Lol and don't worry I have been around the block too hehe. IP: Logged |
MoonBunny
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posted March 04, 2015 09:07 PM
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Originally posted by PixieJane:
I'm close to someone exactly like that though she's a woman rather than a man. Unfortunately some take advantage of that...which I'll step in over though she won't always let me.
That reminds me of my brother :0/ he gets taken advantage of a lot. She won't let you stand up for her? I know the feeling! I think sometimes getting used doesn't even phase them, I really think sometimes they are okay with it because its for the 'greater good'. IP: Logged |
frankie2912
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posted March 04, 2015 09:17 PM
I love Aquarian men. I don't think they are icey and cold at all. In fact, it's the exact opposite...they just don't wear their heart on their sleeve. They're able to detach themselves from a situation to see it all, like a high-up observer. It might make them seem aloof. But, like every other person on earth, they have the capacity for very deep feeling.IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted March 04, 2015 09:25 PM
My two male Aquarian cousins are usually great. The younger one is a good man; the older one used to be, but he cheated on his wife, and I lost respect for him. IP: Logged |
lalalinda
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posted March 04, 2015 09:29 PM
Hello MoonBunny! Welcome to LL  ------------------
"There ain't no revolution, only evolution, but every time I'm in Georgia I 'eat a peach' for peace." Duane Allman IP: Logged |
MoonBunny
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posted March 05, 2015 11:40 AM
Thank you lalalinda ^__^!
From observing my brother and other aquas, I just feel like they also just aren't as concerned with jumping into a romantic relationship. It just seems like its not at the top of the list of things they really want to accomplish. Its not that they don't want it, Its just that they aren't as concerned with it happening or not as much as a lot of people. Of course depending on other placements this could be different from aqua to aqua, but this is just what I have observed with the ones that have come in my life.
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theunknown
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posted March 05, 2015 06:28 PM
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Originally posted by MoonBunny:
Can you elaborate??
Earthy Aquarians are among the most reliable. And since its earth, they definitely tend to be humbled because they can't verbalized their feelings yet still have to see the practical pictures of things. They are aware if their limitations more than anyone else and yet are really forgiving towards others' mistakes. Dating an earthy Aqua means you won't get the BS and the drama. I'll admit Libras are more emotionly intuitive but they also keep score. For Aqua men and women, when you have their heart you'll have them for forever IP: Logged |
madgoulding
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posted March 05, 2015 07:51 PM
I think aquarian males are great as family members, as lovers...well...I'm an Aquarius too and they're right about when you have our heart you have us forever. I'm still trying to get over this Aquarius male. He had a Taurus moon and pisces venus. I thought he was a cancer at first. I don't know if i had his heart but he was the one who approached and pursued. Our sun and moons are conjunct. And yes they can be very controlling. My Aquarius was controlling in the way he reacted to me. I could see the disapproval in his face and demeanor when I acted a certain way. He liked it when I sat there and was quiet and looked pretty. I blame his moon sq Mars, his dad used to hit his mom and I think he has a warped view of women. I still miss him though, he was still a frickin great person and I think about him everyday IP: Logged |
Nine
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posted March 05, 2015 08:01 PM
I know two "watery" Aquas - both with Venus conj Mars in Pisces, moon in Taurus & Virgo. Nah, they're stereotypical Aquas. At first approach they were so friendly, polite, gentle. Just don't hang around them too much, or you'll start feeling like **it. The message was always the same - 'you're bugging me, I need space, get out of here.' the Moon in Taurus one would simply flee, or hiss. The Moon in Virgo would start criticizing and nit-picking over dumb irrelevant things.By default I keep a guard up around Aquarians because I know how they like to make people feel like crap. When I first met these two my guard melted away and I took them in. Pretty soon, however, I was reminded what zodiac sign they were and I needed to step back a few paces. I will add that it is true they are very forgiving people, the watery ones. But they do like to play games and mess with people's heads/feelings. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted March 05, 2015 09:05 PM
As a guy that has an aqua sun, ascendant, and venus I really do think we have an undeserved reputation for being cold. All the Aqua guys I know (myself included) are capable of being very loving and supportive towards their families, friends, romantic partners,and children.
However, it's important to remember that Aquas are introverted and need time to recharge and be alone with their thoughts. If you can't respect that you'll never be able to have a relationship with an Aquarius. They'll drop you like a bad habit if you become emotionally demanding and needy when they need their alone time. But if you can handle and respect their need for space you'll have a loyal friend/partner that will stick with you through thick and thin. IP: Logged |
MoonBunny
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posted March 05, 2015 11:11 PM
Wow so much input!!! Thank you the unknown about the info on earthy aquas, I wish I could meet one!Wow I am taking all this in. I guess its hard for me because I may be biased towards sympathizing with Aquarius males, because I am very close to my brother. Im am trying hard to look at this objectively lol, and I will say that as far as him in relationships.....don't expect to be his 'world'. You will be a very important piece of it, but it will NEVER be centered around you. Simply because he has so many other things that he gives his attention to. And also, I do know that he has always be into thinking of relationships as 'teams.' As in equal weight being pulled. And I will say the thing about the alone time, VERY TRUE! I think they just need someone who will ultimately accept that they will never dominate their world. I still think the watery ones can be super forgiving. I mean jeez the stuff my brother has forgiven people of x-x and all the chances he gives them!! He may get aggravated sometimes but cools down so fast. Im not just asking about sun sign, but I wonder what energy in general is best for them in a romantic sense. I've personally seen it go terribly wrong with Gemini dominant females surprisingly enough, twice at that. Any thoughts on this? IP: Logged |
EmGem
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posted March 06, 2015 01:45 AM
i love Aquarian men! I find them SO funny. We tend to bounce off one another. Very quick witted.I have come across a controlling'ish one before. IP: Logged |
theunknown
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posted March 06, 2015 06:27 AM
Every sign is controlling in their way. Fixed signs are in your face about it but gem and libra are freaking manipulative. I'm heavy fixed so if I don't like something, I just spell it out. But Virgo or Gem or Libra would try to "persuade" you. Pisces are fleeting, Cancer are clingy, aries are selfish, capricorn are the most controlling of all, ... Any sign can go down hill in its own way and you just have to decide the kind of crap you can deal with.I have taurus Asc so I attract tons of Scorpios who just want me to think the world of them. And I can, but I can't lol. I have the world to save. I have to say this again and again, if you are not compatible with Aqua energy, don't bother yourself. I know I'm not compatible with libras even when at the beginning they'd go after me and bend over backward for me. If your emotional needs mean you want someone stable who has your back, who will tell you what they think, believing that honedty is more important than emotional reassurance, then you will be fine with an aquas. We tell you what we think because we are fixed and we are not BSing around but at the end of the day, Aquas remember you are your own individual  IP: Logged |
MoonBunny
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posted March 06, 2015 01:26 PM
Theunknown....perfectly put!!! Lol agreed. And yes Pisces are fleeting ;0; (I am a Pisces) we are total flakes, it totally sucks lol. EmGem Aquas are really funny! They really have no limits to how far their humor goes. IP: Logged |
DeepFreeze
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posted March 06, 2015 02:23 PM
This is the chart of a very good friend mine. (Noon chart - unknown bt) He treats his wife wonderfully! Granted, he was married before, burnt and hurt so I think he's not taking anything for granted.
He comes off very stern and kind of mean. He's Asian (I'm Caucasian). The very first thing I ever heard him say was, "I hate white people" with a very straight face. He's known for never smiling, though I've seen him laugh. I knew immediately that he was joking as well as did a few others who knew him. But I could see how someone would have believed him. We became good friends. LOL Here's the thing. He's very kind, generous, funny. However, if you burn him once then he's done with you and forever. Of course not trivial things. He'll get mad and let it go. I guess I mean that he's more unforgiving than the average person I think.  IP: Logged |
theunknown
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posted March 06, 2015 02:38 PM
@DeepFreeze: you take a chart of someone with moon, venus, Mars, saturn hard aspect to Pluto... My sun to Pluto already makes me less forgiving than average Aqua.... This guy is plutonicIP: Logged |
caramel
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posted March 07, 2015 06:21 PM
I am ONLY an Aqua magnet. I don't know why. With friends and relationships. I have not had a problem with any of them.. love them all but the one with moon in Leo hurt me.IP: Logged |
PixieJane
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posted March 07, 2015 08:22 PM
I've been trying to find out what happened to a boy I dated when I was 17 (as he was then) but haven't been able to find anything. He was Aquarius sun, but I don't know anything beyond that though since he was born the same year as me I can reasonably assume (though not with absolute certainty) that he had a Scorpio Jupiter, Libra Saturn and Pluto (Scorpio cusp), and Sag Uranus and Neptune. We were both neo-pagan idealists (he was specifically Wiccan, similar to his parents but he had his own ideas about it) at that age, though we had a different focus. His was the environment, and he got arrested for sitting in trees to keep them from being logged (and there was police brutality--though he only endured being pepper spray rubbed in his eyes despite that he wasn't resisting arrest, but it was much worse for others--to which I tried to get some anti-government radicals to help the tree sitters and like on but to no avail), and as an unschooled kid they tried to slap him with truancy as well (his parents were supportive though, if concerned what would happen to him, and even they didn't like him wearing shirts that loudly proclaimed pot to be a miracle plant fearing that it, along with his blue hair, was a cop magnet, especially after his parents filed suit--class action, IIRC--on the cops for the pepper spray incident). In retrospect I realize we were more FWB, though we ATTEMPTED dating. It was mutual experimentation but we were already friends (we went to the same unschooling group) and I was told I should explore my sexuality so as he talked openly and maturely about sex (he may have been 17 but he had more maturity and impulse control--and consideration--than many men twice his age) I explained it to him while he was flirting with me and he was surprised but agreed to it. We weren't sure what to do about the whole dating thing because we both were trying to find out who WE were rather than imitate everyone else and as we were already friends it didn't feel like date by doing stuff together as we usually did so we'd come up with some sexual experimentation which was the point anyway. It was fun (and I don't think he regretted it anymore than I did) but we finally decided to just be friends again. Still, I remember him fondly and he was sweet (but not passionate, his ideals were his primary concern rather than a woman which I know many women wouldn't care for)...but in any case it seems unlikely he'd be the same person today as he was when he was 17. I wonder if he settled down like I did or got even more radical (he was fascinated with some of the eco-anarchists in the area, especially the nomadic ones who resisted becoming part of the system) and/or imprisoned. I can't find any FB on him and those I emailed from that area say they haven't heard anything in over 10 years either (not that they knew him that well, only OF him save when he was with me). IP: Logged |
ikja
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posted March 07, 2015 08:36 PM
Aquarians as friends are ok.
Aquarians as lovers or anything more i.e. a close live in relationship = stressful.
My brother is a NIGHTMARE.IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted March 08, 2015 12:55 AM
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Originally posted by theunknown:
@DeepFreeze: you take a chart of someone with moon, venus, Mars, saturn hard aspect to Pluto... My sun to Pluto already makes me less forgiving than average Aqua.... This guy is plutonic
I am an aqua and have pluto aspecting: sun (exact quintile), ascendant (square), venus (square), and moon (opposition). To make matters worse i'm triple fixed (sun,moon, and ascendant) so I can hold a grudge like nobody's business. Fortunately, I have jupiter aspecting my sun and moon and neptune trines my moon and that softens me up abit. I'd hate to see how unforgiving I'd be if I didn't have those aspects to balance out all the pluto stuff.IP: Logged |
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