posted April 29, 2015 11:46 PM
I've been lurking this forum for ages now... you guys always give fantastic responses! (apologies in advance for the long post)
I'm a Gemini(Aquarius Moon, Cancer ASC)the guy is a Scorpio-Saggitarius cusp (Nov 21).
Not sure if it was Intuition or something else but as soon as I spotted him at my friends party I knew we would end up together(Can't believe I wrote that, how lame!!).
We had been hanging out alot over the past couple of months (he's always the one to organise things) when a few weeks ago Scorp found out that I liked him via a friend.
After that he was quick to organise a "date".
During this date I asked him if he liked me back. He quickly said he didn't like me 'that way'. I was a little confused, as his actions always said otherwise and being the emotional sponge I am, I had a feeling he was lying, so I laughed it off.
My reaction threw him a bit because he gave me this intensely sad look and after that kept his distance and was deep in thought.
He would keep asking why I liked him (I never told him)and would watch me out of the corner of his eye.
I sensed he was hesitant about getting into a relationship, so I just casually brought up the fact that I'm also scared about getting into relationships and told him about some of my previous ones and he opened up and told me about his. I also asked him why he didn't want me to like him and he goes "I just don't want to hurt you if things go sour blah blah".
After our date he still wanted to hang out some more, so we went back to his place to watch movies and it was clear he was still analyzing everything.
I told him that I had been over-thinking this a lot too (he seemed happy to hear that) and to stop thinking and just go with how he feels, I also mentioned that we could just take things really slow and if we decide it's not right we'll just be friends. He went quiet again.
During that time randomly burst out with "I think about you alot..." and I got the sense he didn't really want to say that out loud hahaha
A little later he asked if I wanted to date him. I told him I only date guys that like me back. He says lied earlier because he was scared. So we agreed to start dating.
It's been a couple of weeks and he's already calling me his Girlfriend and once said so quietly that I almost didn't hear it, that he misses me when I'm not around. but some other things he says make me feel like this is just something casual for him.
He says he likes me because I asked him out??
Maybe it's because I'm treating this relationship pretty casually (I don't want to let my guard down if they don’t like me back) and that's why he's saying those things but… he acts like the perfect gentleman…
He lends me his bus pass/ gives me change for the bus if he knows I've run out. I always catch him watching me and is quite protective.
Oh and he facebook stalks me as he’s always mentioning the flirtatious comments my male friends make.
I feel with this particular guy/sign actions speak louder than words …but his words are bothering me (although "I thought about you a lot" is screaming good things) and making me question whether he really likes me and what his intentions are.
I'm so conflicted. Part of me feels like he does genuinely like me…but the other part says I'm deluded and that he's only dating me because it’s convenient.
He says that he doesn't want people to know about us yet because he doesn't want to answer awkward questions. I'm not sure what to make of this…before we started dating, every time we ran into his friends, he'd introduce me and tell them a bit about me. When I asked him when he'd tell everyone he goes “oh in a year…” (he has a dry sense of humour and normally I'd laugh everything off but… I'm scared and therefore everything is being taken seriously).
The other day I mentioned that I was having dinner that night with a male friend (who everyone knows likes me) and he starts asking all these probing questions.
I reassured him that we're just friends and that I'm not interested. Scorp didn't seem reassured...and started to act like he would rather be sleeping than hanging out with me. Later on during dinner he was constantly calling and messaging me to see where I was and seemed overly concerned about me catching the bus home by myself.
Once I got home I sent him a text thanking him for his concern and that I was really happy to see him today. He then sent one back saying that he loved me.
What? I don't use/take the words "I love you" lightly. Is he only saying that because he thinks I'll have sex with him (likely, I haven't given into him yet!)? Is he saying that to gauge how much I really like him? Is this normal scorpio intensity?
And why via text. Surely it cant be sincere if it's via text and 2 weeks into the relationship....
My instant reaction was to check if he was kidding but now I'm not sure what to say. I'm a Gemini, you can't pin me down with "love you". I like him enough to be in a relationship with him...but it's only been 2 weeks.
This guy is confusing! Some of the things he says are so casual then other times he's so intense. I don't mind the intensity...but gee I wish he'd be more consistent.
Please tell me more about Scorp-Sag cusps and help me decipher this confusing guy!