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Topic: How long would you wait before having sex in a new relationship?
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Leo-Cancer98
Knowflake Posts: 93
From: Toronto,Ontario,Canada
Registered: Nov 2014
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posted May 16, 2015 02:33 PM
  
I would wait three years at least cause some of these guys be going with women just cause they want sex.------------------
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midnightvenus
Knowflake Posts: 447
From: outerspace
Registered: Sep 2014
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posted May 16, 2015 02:51 PM
Most guys won't wait 3 years in a relationship to have sex.
Or they might pretend to wait, while cheating in the "background"IP: Logged |
starr33
Moderator Posts: 544
From: Does it matter?
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 16, 2015 02:52 PM
Three years! I've heard of the 90 day rule, but three years? Personally, I would wait 3-6 months to see if we pass the friend test. Of course, I'd have to take a look at the merchandise.  I think a courtship is VERY important, and if the person can't wait a few months, than they're not really looking for a serious relationship. Then again this is coming from a Capricorn 5th house cusp. IP: Logged |
confusedaseff
Knowflake Posts: 336
From: somewhere between saturn and pluto
Registered: Feb 2015
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posted May 16, 2015 02:57 PM
cap stellium here with venus scorpio and mars in virgo = i go by the 90 day rule as well.. but 90 days as in 24 hours/90 days = 2, 160 hours. yup i have to have spent that much time with the man to shag him oxytocin is a hell of a drug and i'm not going to let myself catch feelings for any ol' boy. i have things to do. ------------------
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starr33
Moderator Posts: 544
From: Does it matter?
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 16, 2015 03:04 PM
I mean you'll want your mate to be the whole package,right? And it takes time because you don't just want to be Moon/Wife material and leave him desiring the Venus/Girlfriend relationship. Same thing with the Jupiter/Sun/Husband and Mars/Boyfriend dichotomy. I want my mate to be reliable and responsible, but also fun and attractive, at least to me. Someone I LIKE to be with. IP: Logged |
the89freespirit
Knowflake Posts: 599
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Registered: Jan 2012
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posted May 16, 2015 03:06 PM
OP, three years is very excessive. How do you even know the relationship will last three years?Personally, I don't like "rules" when it comes to when you first have sex in a relationship. Do it when it feels right. Some people wait for a few dates or a little while. But, many people have hooked up on the first night/date and then reported having a very long, successful relationship. Whatever works. Specific rules regarding when you'll have sex is an attempt to control another person and that's not possible. Who's to say that, even after waiting that allotted amount of time, that they won't just leave then? You never know what can happen and can't try to determine how it all will unfold. You can't let fears about the other person possibly using you or leaving you control how you have your relationship with them. Btw, this isn't very astrology related unless placements are discussed, as well. I have Venus and Mars in Virgo but in the 8th. I would not want to wait more than a few dates. Not because I'm just after sex but because sex is such an important part of the connection for me that it'd just make me feel like I was dying if I had to wait that long. It'd feel way too sterile and devoid of passion to me. ------------------
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Aquarian Moon
Knowflake Posts: 128
From: USA
Registered: Jan 2015
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posted May 16, 2015 03:09 PM
If we're just dating, maybe the third date.A relationship where we have established we are together, immediately. IP: Logged |
midnightvenus
Knowflake Posts: 447
From: outerspace
Registered: Sep 2014
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posted May 16, 2015 03:16 PM
Please, everyone, keep in mind that OP is still a teenager >98<
She's in the phase where she's teached by society about how girls who "give it all away" are ***** , but if they don't, they're "prudes"
This makes it easier to understand where she's coming from.IP: Logged |
starr33
Moderator Posts: 544
From: Does it matter?
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 16, 2015 03:32 PM
Teenager? Then it's very important to know what your values are. It's never too early for that, although they'll probably change over time. Your main value is always yourself. Establish a friendship first, don't EVER be anyone's plaything. Is there someone specific you have in mind? Do you trust him? IP: Logged |
next to neptune
Knowflake Posts: 2577
From: The Moon
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted May 16, 2015 04:36 PM
Even though I wanted to be with someone on the first date, I would never go all the way, except for kissing a little... but I would never have sex on the first couple dates. But when I feel like I know the guy and I want him, then why should I wait? I don't get why someone would wait 90 days or 3 years? That is just really unnecessary in my opinion.. if you like the guy and he likes you, then theres no need to hold yourself back that much:P speaking from a virgo sun, with scorp venus lol
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Ami Anne
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From: Pluto/house next to NickiG
Registered: Sep 2010
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posted May 16, 2015 04:51 PM
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Einfühlung
Knowflake Posts: 203
From: Lily of The Valley
Registered: Feb 2015
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posted May 16, 2015 06:26 PM
It's nice to know someone your age knows how some guys think. For me, I would do it when it feels right. But it will take me awhile to actually open up to someone. I wouldn't give it away too quick and easy. I want to be secure first and make sure he likes me for me. Have a heart to heart moment. Then I will make love. I like to call it "making love" and not having sex just for the sake of having sex. It's just too.. Primal. But if course I'd consider having fun with my sweetie after making love, because I'd be comfortable with him.
Are you willing to wait 3 years because you want to be sure he's the one? To test him? I notice you have a lot of cancer placements.IP: Logged |
starmoon
Knowflake Posts: 1664
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Registered: Sep 2011
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posted May 16, 2015 07:08 PM
i don't think her age really matters cuz men at all ages will chase women in the hopes of getting sex. this is something all woman deal with regardless of age. but, the longer you wait the longer you give yourself to see who the person is as an individual and whether you like their qualities or not. you should at least be at the point where you know their time of birth to do a proper synastry chart!IP: Logged |
Astra
Knowflake Posts: 664
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 16, 2015 07:27 PM
It's important to set your boundaries when you are in a relationship. Whether you are comfortable sleeping with someone on the first date or you want to wait until marriage or something in between, then you need to make this known. The other person will also have their own boundaries. If the person you are dating wants to have sex on the fifth date, but you want to wait three years, then make it clear. If neither one of you wants to compromise, then the relationship will end. If this happens, treat it as a blessing. That just means you two were not meant to be.In my personal experience, a man who truly wants to be with you, will do whatever it takes to be with you. If he has to wait 3 months, 3 years or until marriage, then he will wait. The caveat is if he truly wants you. If he just wants to have sex, then you are merely interchangeable with any other woman. He will promptly leave and find a woman who is "easier." Sex should always be your choice. If a man doesn't like it, then he can find someone else. Never have sex with someone because you are afraid that they will leave you if you don't put out. IP: Logged |
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