posted May 18, 2015 12:18 AM            

I've been wondering a lot lately about having this aspect natally. It seems to me like it brings the individual some sort of sexual power, which in a way is a gift, but a curse in disguise. I've always been unaware of the power I have over men until my friend pointed it out to me. I was telling him the one time I almost punched this dude in the face for trying to hump me while I was dancing at prom. He then told me I was sort of a sex magnet and admitted he himself is attracted to me in that sense.

Now, this may not sound like a curse to a lot of people, but for the minority like me who value being appreciated for things other than physical appearance, it's kind of a big problem. You get people coming at you just wanting to "get it on" with you and you don't get to pick who can or cannot be attracted to you because everybody just is. It's not something that I want for myself. I even want to go to the extreme of suppressing my sexuality just for the sake of not getting sexualized by men.

posted May 18, 2015 01:18 AM            

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Originally posted by Solar_Leo_Queen:
Hey guys

I've been wondering a lot lately about having this aspect natally. It seems to me like it brings the individual some sort of sexual power, which in a way is a gift, but a curse in disguise. I've always been unaware of the power I have over men until my friend pointed it out to me. I was telling him the one time I almost punched this dude in the face for trying to hump me while I was dancing at prom. He then told me I was sort of a sex magnet and admitted he himself is attracted to me in that sense.

Now, this may not sound like a curse to a lot of people, but for the minority like me who value being appreciated for things other than physical appearance, it's kind of a big problem. You get people coming at you just wanting to "get it on" with you and you don't get to pick who can or cannot be attracted to you because everybody just is. It's not something that I want for myself. I even want to go to the extreme of suppressing my sexuality just for the sake of not getting sexualized by men.

For others who have or know someone who have this aspect, how do you (or they) deal with it?

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You know what I have this at a tight orb, but it's inconjuct. I'm a guy so I really don't know how this could register with me? I have a libra rising, so I always pay attention to the Venus aspects in my chart.
Venus can mean your friends to , so I do notice that I do get people trying to control me in a way. I can't explain it though. I think with women it must be hard because of some people might think they can control you and look at you like a sex object.

posted May 18, 2015 06:16 PM            

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Originally posted by Geminiyoungster:
You know what I have this at a tight orb, but it's inconjuct. I'm a guy so I really don't know how this could register with me? I have a libra rising, so I always pay attention to the Venus aspects in my chart.
Venus can mean your friends to , so I do notice that I do get people trying to control me in a way. I can't explain it though. I think with women it must be hard because of some people might think they can control you and look at you like a sex object.

Are you a leo sun or pisces? Do you have any pisces placements?

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I am a Leo sun and don't have any Pisces placements, unless you count MC.

posted May 18, 2015 06:21 PM            

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Originally posted by bansheequeen:
My boyfriend has this aspect and he said he kind of was chased by girls before he was even ready for that kinda stuff. I had a Venus conj Pluto friend tell me they kind of were introduced to sex and relationships before he was ready or even interested in them...

I have another friend with Venus and Pluto in Scorpio but not conjunct and she is just one of those people that are aware of their sexuality and have the power to use it to her advantage lol. She wears very very sexy outfits but somehow it seems empowering with her and not crude while normally it seems crude to me..

I am female and I have them sextile. I do get a lot of unwanted attention. I also blame that on my Lilith on the ascendant. I'm why so it's hard to deal with. But it also kind of just seems like men are really creepy and it socially okay.

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posted May 19, 2015 07:20 AM            

i dont actually have venus/pluto BUT i had transit pluto square my venus a few years ago and i experienced all the things that have been mentioned here (creepy guy magnet, sexualisation, manipulation, feeling imposed upon, guys crossing boundaries and behaving in a generally disrespectful manner). if looks could kill i would easily have been a serial killer. cant remember another time where i wanted to beat the **** out of the creepy ******** who tried to take advantage of me (pls note i am like this all the time = sun square lilith )

posted May 19, 2015 07:34 AM            

I would say that I am anything but very attractive for men but often I would hear that I am....which embarrasses me.

posted May 19, 2015 08:07 AM            

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Originally posted by Solar_Leo_Queen:
Hey guys

I've been wondering a lot lately about having this aspect natally. It seems to me like it brings the individual some sort of sexual power, which in a way is a gift, but a curse in disguise. I've always been unaware of the power I have over men until my friend pointed it out to me. I was telling him the one time I almost punched this dude in the face for trying to hump me while I was dancing at prom. He then told me I was sort of a sex magnet and admitted he himself is attracted to me in that sense.

Now, this may not sound like a curse to a lot of people, but for the minority like me who value being appreciated for things other than physical appearance, it's kind of a big problem. You get people coming at you just wanting to "get it on" with you and you don't get to pick who can or cannot be attracted to you because everybody just is. It's not something that I want for myself. I even want to go to the extreme of suppressing my sexuality just for the sake of not getting sexualized by men.

For others who have or know someone who have this aspect, how do you (or they) deal with it?

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I have venus opposite pluto and I have the same problem. There's really not much you can do. You can't control how someone feels about you. What you can control is your actions. If a guy is putting the moves on you and you are not interested, then tell him bluntly that you don't see him that way. Just be careful about rejecting certain guys who don't handle rejection all that well. If you are getting a bad vibe from the guy, I might be better to just say you are sorry, but you have a boyfriend. In my experience, guys seem to handle this form of rejection much better than simply being told "I don't like you."