posted June 01, 2015 09:43 AM
When Pluto crossed my DC, I met and married my first husband. It was definitely a "Plutonic" relationship- lots of obsession and abuse. I was also disowned for choosing to move in with my ex (under pressure from him) and my relationship with my family did not improve for a number of years. Admittedly, I moved in with my ex within a few months of meeting him, and my father always had a bad feeling about him. However, my father was also controlling and he had been abusive so it seemed like the lesser of two evils at the time. When Pluto had almost finished transiting my 7th house and formed a conjunction with my Sun (7th/8th house), I decided not to tolerate the abuse any longer and chose to leave my ex-husband. My friend had a room available in her apartment so I immediately moved there and took no furniture or belongings aside from my clothes and books, so I had very little with me when I first moved in.
I fell in love with a friend of my ex and our relationship ended up being very Plutonic as well. He had major addiction issues and there was a lot of betrayal and during that time I began to have panic attacks. I knew that he had been lying to me and I was suspicious, so I was terrified knowing that he wouldn't tell me the truth.
Eventually, after continuing to ask him to tell me the truth, he told me everything, and I was devastated. I may have known what was going on, but confirmation of this was my worst fear realized. I was completely betrayed and lost everything, so it was the most difficult time of my life.
However, when I found out and he finally told me everything, he immediately told me that he had hit rock bottom and that, even if I dumped him, he needed help and didn't know who else to turn to. He had hit rock bottom with his addictions and felt that I was truly the only positive thing he had in his life. I helped to set him up with a therapist and 12 step groups, and he completely changed his life. He immediately quit his addictions, ended up moving in with me after he had been in recovery for a while, and ended friendships with those who had enabled him or participated in his addictions.
He continues to see a therapist to this day (we see a couples' therapist as well) He is now my husband and I know I made the right choice to help him rather than cut him out of my life- I could see who he really was and knew he was worth it. He has proven me right over and over again. We have now been married 3 years and together for 7.
I also realized that I had serious "Plutonic" problems of my own and my lesson was to learn to not give my power over to others. I also attended 12 step groups for codependency and love addiction, and got to the point where I knew I had the power to choose whether I wanted to stay with my then-boyfriend or create a life of my own. In this way, I had the power to make a decision rather than others leaving me "no choice."
Anyway, long story short, during the time that Pluto transited my 7th house, I completely transformed my life and helped my husband to transform his as well. I can say it was terrifying and that I had to really call upon my inner strength to see past the pain and fear I was experiencing in order to move forward.
With Pluto as a significant planet in my chart(7th / 8th house Sun, ruling planet Mercury in the 8th house conjunct Sun, Scorpio Moon and Jupiter)and such significant transits taking place, I chose to leave my old life behind and(much like a phoenix)I rebuilt my life from the ground up and found the right partner for me.
So, this transit may bring Plutonic people into your life, but it may be exactly what you need. My advice would be to listen to your intuition and be open to the lessons that Pluto has to teach you. Seems like obvious advice, but either way, the theme is about personal power. YOU have the power to decide whether to accept these people and influences into your life and Pluto helps to show you this.
I hope that helps! I'd be happy to look at your chart if you're interested, too. :-)
Nelys