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Topic: How do I get my Cancer man back?
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babygirl1270
Newflake Posts: 6
From: Las Vegas, NV
Registered: Jun 2015
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posted June 16, 2015 02:53 PM
  
I am a Sagg, I met a Cancer man back in December 2014, we were so perfect together, we could never get enough of each other. then al of a sudden he got a job working in Cali we lived in Vegas, and he had to move there. I thought I was going to lose my mind. I wanted to go see him but he said with union construction jobs he would be working all the time and studing for a license he has to get so he won't have time for me. So i thought I would just keep the communication open by always reaching out to him. And the told me he would be to busy some time and he understand he would have to make time, so i kept trying i told him i understood. and then i didn't hear from him for about 3 days i lost it and was calling and text like crazy and then i got a text that said "this is not working i think we should call it quits before things get out of hand. I apologize". he said he think it would be the best thing to do, that it wasn't me he just don't have time for a relationship anymore. I want him back, want can i do. ------------------
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athenegoddess
Knowflake Posts: 4364
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Registered: Aug 2011
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posted June 16, 2015 02:56 PM
Sounds like you scared him off by how you reacted to not hearing him for a mere three days. I don't think there is much you can do but stop talking to him and hope that one day he would want to see you again after some absence. IP: Logged |
babygirl1270
Newflake Posts: 6
From: Las Vegas, NV
Registered: Jun 2015
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posted June 16, 2015 03:02 PM
I kinda knew why it happen i just was just hoping that he would come back if i give him some time. He told me I was perfect for him and he like everthing about me and how i treated him and not he just ups and leaves. ------------------
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Aquacheeka
Knowflake Posts: 3243
From: Toronto
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted June 16, 2015 03:19 PM
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geminigal2805
Knowflake Posts: 1253
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Registered: Sep 2013
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posted June 16, 2015 03:26 PM
Awww! Most important thing to do is -Give him some space and see if he reaches out to you. It is always a good idea to let a guy miss you a bit.
Meanwhile you can stay busy with your work/studies, catch up with some old friends/make new friends, learn a new craft, etc... Thing is to stay busy and avoid thinking about him non stop.Simple things to make yourself busy and not obsess over his new life.So get busy with your life and maybe one day you can let him catch up with you. Only if you want to : ) IP: Logged |
babygirl1270
Newflake Posts: 6
From: Las Vegas, NV
Registered: Jun 2015
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posted June 16, 2015 03:30 PM
Thank you, so much for that. Just hurts like heck. But i get it. ------------------
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geminigal2805
Knowflake Posts: 1253
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Registered: Sep 2013
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posted June 16, 2015 03:46 PM
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Originally posted by babygirl1270:
Thank you, so much for that. Just hurts like heck. But i get it.
Dont worry about it.
Let him wonder what you are upto....
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charlie
Knowflake Posts: 3129
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Registered: Jun 2012
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posted June 16, 2015 04:17 PM
This is coming from a REALLY tricky Cancerian: do NOT contact him again!!!!! He will come around IF he likes you.IP: Logged |
athenaia
Newflake Posts: 17
From: USA
Registered: May 2015
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posted June 16, 2015 04:54 PM
In this case I cannot highly recommend this book enough http://www.amazon.com/Ignore-Guy-Get-Survival-Mastering-ebook/dp/B00C7VJ1KA I just got it for my mom and she can't put it down!IP: Logged |
babygirl1270
Newflake Posts: 6
From: Las Vegas, NV
Registered: Jun 2015
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posted June 16, 2015 05:05 PM
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Originally posted by athenaia:
In this case I cannot highly recommend this book enough http://www.amazon.com/Ignore-Guy-Get-Survival-Mastering-ebook/dp/B00C7VJ1KA I just got it for my mom and she can't put it down!
Ok looks like a good I just downloaded it I will get started on it right away.
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peony
Knowflake Posts: 890
From: U.S.
Registered: Dec 2014
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posted June 16, 2015 11:48 PM
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Originally posted by charlie:
This is coming from a REALLY tricky Cancerian: do NOT contact him again!!!!! He will come around IF he likes you.
Charlie, would you elaborate? Why tricky? IP: Logged |
charlie
Knowflake Posts: 3129
From:
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted June 17, 2015 01:14 AM
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Originally posted by peony:
Charlie, would you elaborate? Why tricky?
With tricky I mean that had I been the cancer guy in this situation, and I have been in a similar situation, I would start analyzing every move other person makes. If I request little to no contact and it continues, it will put me off FOREVER. If person shows absolutely no interest in me, I will-probably if I like him still-slowly come around with a small sms here and there to keep contact open. But one mistake and it's doomed. I haven't met one Cancer that actually likes being chased. We are Cardinal and will most likely come forward when time is right. Not like an Aries who might spontaneously combust of excitement but we will do it our way. IP: Logged |
peony
Knowflake Posts: 890
From: U.S.
Registered: Dec 2014
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posted June 17, 2015 02:02 PM
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Originally posted by charlie:
With tricky I mean that had I been the cancer guy in this situation, and I have been in a similar situation, I would start analyzing every move other person makes. If I request little to no contact and it continues, it will put me off FOREVER. If person shows absolutely no interest in me, I will-probably if I like him still-slowly come around with a small sms here and there to keep contact open. But one mistake and it's doomed. I haven't met one Cancer that actually likes being chased. We are Cardinal and will most likely come forward when time is right. Not like an Aries who might spontaneously combust of excitement but we will do it our way.
Thanks, Charlie... IP: Logged |
margym0o
Knowflake Posts: 458
From: Ontario, Canada
Registered: Jul 2014
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posted June 17, 2015 02:13 PM
One thing you can guarantee with a Cancer man (at least in my experience) is that if there are still lingering feelings, they WILL come back. Once someone has made an impression on their heart, they have a VERY hard time letting go.I sense as well that when they've detached themselves, that's pretty much it. They aren't ones to revisit something once they've mentally decided it's over because to get to that place was probably a very painstaking process. Do as the others have suggested and just leave him be and see what happens. If he never comes back, then you know it's time to move on. IP: Logged |
babygirl1270
Newflake Posts: 6
From: Las Vegas, NV
Registered: Jun 2015
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posted June 17, 2015 05:33 PM
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Originally posted by margym0o:
One thing you can guarantee with a Cancer man (at least in my experience) is that if there are still lingering feelings, they WILL come back. Once someone has made an impression on their heart, they have a VERY hard time letting go.I sense as well that when they've detached themselves, that's pretty much it. They aren't ones to revisit something once they've mentally decided it's over because to get to that place was probably a very painstaking process. Do as the others have suggested and just leave him be and see what happens. If he never comes back, then you know it's time to move on.
Yeah, that much I know he is the 3rd Cancer i have dated and one I thought was completely done because it ended very nasty, I thought I would never her from him again and I didn't 2 years later which was too late, and the second one, althought it is over we are still friends and he wants me back but it is too late for him too. It wasn't a nasty break up he just said he don't have the time it would take to stay in a relationship and he knows I will need the attention it takes. Thank you all for you input I have faith that when this project ends I will hear from him again or sooner because I know for sure I made an impression on him. He made that very clear and one thing i know about cancers is they don't mention you to their family unless you have made such an impression the they want to share you with the ones they love. And they are momma's boys and he told her about me and his best friend too. ------------------
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lalalinda
Moderator Posts: 4390
From: nevada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted June 17, 2015 06:16 PM
Hello babygirl1270! Welcome to LL  ------------------
"There ain't no revolution, only evolution, but every time I'm in Georgia I 'eat a peach' for peace." Duane Allman IP: Logged |
babygirl1270
Newflake Posts: 6
From: Las Vegas, NV
Registered: Jun 2015
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posted June 17, 2015 06:21 PM
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Originally posted by lalalinda:
Hello babygirl1270! Welcome to LL
Thank you It's great to be here. ------------------
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polkadotstars
Knowflake Posts: 239
From: Washington, DC
Registered: Feb 2015
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posted June 18, 2015 10:01 PM
If there is anything I have learned from men, it is that if they are not in the right mindset for a relationship, they will not enter a relationship, period. I have no idea how they can do this, because as women I feel like we are always open to the idea of a relationship if someone really cool comes around. But for men, it could be Heidi Klum knocking at their door, and if they aren't ready mentally for a relationship, they will not be in one until that little light goes on in their head that says they are ready. It's just how they work..IP: Logged |
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