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posted June 22, 2015 12:34 PM            

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What do you usually do? What placements in your charts do you think influence this? Are there certain situations where you avoid something/someone and others where you confront the situation? When is avoidance/confrontation a good idea or a bad one?

I will probably add my two-cents later.

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posted June 22, 2015 01:11 PM            

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Confront when the issue/person matters to me. Also when i respect the other person's opinion and there is a need to clarify.Otherwise I would let it slide. I think it is my 10th house Venus in Aries and not the Mars in Libra placement. I get too passionate and emotionally involved plus I tend to root for the underdog : ))

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posted June 22, 2015 02:03 PM            

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With those who are close to me, I "avoid" because I have a better understanding of how they work and trust that not everything needs to be said to resolve problems (if this is what the question is referring to).

With those who are acquaintances (i.e. strangers, colleagues), I tend to confront. Usually situations in acquaintance contexts need to be brought to the service. Things need to be made clear.

Aries Sun, Libra Moon, Libra Ascendant

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posted June 22, 2015 02:31 PM            

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I confront all the time. I can't stay quiet when something is bothering me. Leo Asc, Cap Mars.

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posted June 22, 2015 02:42 PM            

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I am a double taurus: sun and moon.

Leo mars and Aries mercury.

However I avoid avoid avoid.

I want to raise it, I so want to but when I confront I always regret.

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posted June 22, 2015 02:46 PM            

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~ Well,
I think you already know the answer.

Weird.
I think it might be the call of my 11th House.
Because when it's about 'Social/cultural' stuff, I always care.

I am no indifferent person, so I tend to confront. However, I try to avoid my impulses as much as possible, because if I fçjust follow them. Then wouldn't it contradict what I'm preaching?

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posted June 22, 2015 02:48 PM            

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I think I simmer.

I have a lot of tolerance (Scorpio Asc), but I do get irritated quite easily (Aries Moon). When I feel myself starting to get angry, I'll say something like 'seriously, you're ******* me off' - if the person stops the behaviour, I'm good. If they continue, at some point my Aries Moon snaps and I GO OFF with help from my Aries Mars.

These days, I try and avoid people who wind me up for fun. Who know that my anger levels can rise quite quickly.

I also have a thing where I try to avoid going off on people who are older than me and also in public, just out of respect - not sure what this is down to. However, although these people may be spared initially... If they continue to push me... I'll snap on them eventually because I just feel like they are being disrespectful despite my respect for their age/position.

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posted June 22, 2015 06:06 PM            

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It depends on my mood but my personality feels conflicted. I'm cancer, pisces moon and scorpio asc. Sometimes I want to just avoid the situation but then I get angry and blow up.

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posted June 22, 2015 07:38 PM            

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These days I tend to think about it and decide which is better. There is no pat answer that fits all situations, but I'm not uncomfortable with it even if I may refrain for other reasons, but then neither do I normally feel compelled to confront either. As a rule of thumb I'll go with whatever restores the peace and harmony the fastest, if it means confronting then so be it, if that is only likely to a waste of time or even make it worse then I'll do something else.

I suppose my Sag stellium (especially the Mars-Uranus) makes it easy to confront when I desire...heck, with that Sag sometimes it can seem I'm being confrontational when I'm not. Being confronted usually doesn't bother me either, or if it does I usually shake it off pretty fast.

My Libra sun and stellium (which is NOT a spineless sign afraid of confrontation as cardinal Librans from Gandhi to Aleister Crowley, Judge Judy to Eleanor Roosevelt, can attest to) does make me attempt to be as fair as I can. Even in my childhood when I was much more volatile and less discrete I'd take that into account...for example, when girls in my neighborhood shunned me starting when I was age 6 I took to playing with the boys and I'd get into scraps with them as if I were a boy until both mothers and fathers would punish them for hitting me no matter who started it. Seeing the unfairness of it (we were all the same size back then and I was just being one of the boys) I became very hesitant to actually start a scrap as I knew they weren't allowed to hit me and I just couldn't abuse that advantage. Still, I was fair to myself as well as to them so if a boy started one I wouldn't hesitate to hit back, I just refrained from being the one to start it.

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posted June 22, 2015 11:15 PM            

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I'm more likely to confront now. It isn't always the best thing.

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posted June 24, 2015 03:38 PM            

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Sorry, came back to my original thread late mostly because I've been going through a weird, subdued few days, where I definitely didn't feel like confronting anyone.

I just felt emotionally and spiritual at a low ebb and I know when I feel like that it's time to withdraw and avoid certain people (talking family in this case unfortunately). I just didn't feel like having to be "accountable" to anyone.

I usually confront when I'm pushed to the limit, because as ikja mentions, some people might like to wind you up for fun, especially if they know you'll bite (based on their past experience with you). I'm a calm person by nature but I do have a temper and when I lose it it's not pleasant (!) so I tend to avoid situations for that reason. Sometimes it's best to walk away from people who enjoy arguing in order to gain moral points or to project their own hypocritical crap onto you. I'd rather spend my energy elsewhere.

Virgo sun, aqua moon, libra asc, Leo mars

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