posted June 25, 2015 10:06 PM            

I really don't want to talk to him again, If I do so, I will be a doormat. What I expect is that he is the one who talks to me again eventually and make it up to me.

I read in a lot of places that breakups during mercury retrograde usually don't last, but I don't think if this will be my case because I won't talk to him again if he doesn't do it first, and he is quite stubborn.

If he doesn't then I'll understand that he wasn't really interested in me.

Anyways I wasn't happy at all with the relationship, and I have that very clear in my mind. But I kind of miss his presence.

OMG

posted June 26, 2015 03:20 AM            

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Originally posted by mercury89:
What I expect is that he is the one who talks to me again eventually and make it up to me.

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Why do you assume that he'll talk to you again? He might be done with the whole thing.

I won't talk to him again if he doesn't do it first, and he is quite stubborn.If he doesn't then I'll understand that he wasn't really interested in me.
Again, why should you expect HIM to talk to YOU first since it was you who broke up with him? Men aren't mind-readers you know. Sorry but it seems like you're coming from all this from a rather self-centred perspective.

Anyways I wasn't happy at all with the relationship, and I have that very clear in my mind.

So there's your answer. You broke up with him for a reason, so just move on.

posted June 26, 2015 08:26 AM            

I broke up with someone because I felt like he wasn't putting enough effort in. He didn't resist the break up, I attempt to "repair" things despite the fact that I knew he really needed to put in the work and it turns out he was in love with someone else the whole time.

1. Respect decisions that you make and trust that you made a decision that was right in that moment.
2. Give it some more time before you say you regret it, one of our first responses to change is 'oh no, I can't do it.' Sometimes we make the situation worse because of this response and we devalue ourselves because we stoop down to meet people where they are, as opposed to waiting for people to rise up and meet us. Don't accept behaviour that doesn't feel positive and fulfilling,
3. Ask yourself what you have learned and if you could have done anything differently. Sometimes relationships go, but they teach us to respect ourselves and our instincts; that's a beautiful gift you have been left with and even though it may not feel that way now.. Time will tell.

If after giving the situation space and seeing what you have learned, you still regret it... Give him a call. Have your boundaries in place and don't compromise them. But, give him space to miss you and do what is right for you. It's too early, waaaaaaaay to early to make any sudden moves lol.

posted June 26, 2015 08:50 AM            

If he was becoming distant then there are reasons why - whether they have another love interest, or they simply don't want to be in a relationship right now. All I know is the more one tries to "convince" them, the more "resistant" they will become, so it's just best to let them go.

posted June 26, 2015 09:08 AM            

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Originally posted by ikja:
I've done this dance sweetheart.

I broke up with someone because I felt like he wasn't putting enough effort in. He didn't resist the break up, I attempt to "repair" things despite the fact that I knew he really needed to put in the work and it turns out he was in love with someone else the whole time.

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This is what I assume all the time when guys aren't paying interest..that's how I have avoided a lot of heartbreaks.

But I am currently heartbroken for someone that may still be in love with someone else as well...it's best to look at their actions and see that for what is worth..

Wish you the best!! Maybe you can apologize and you two can at least try to become "friends" since you weren't really happy being in a love relationship with him.

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posted June 26, 2015 12:22 PM            

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Originally posted by midnightvenus:
Why should you apologize? He's the one who made you unhappy.
You're not selfish for prioritizing your needs before his.

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posted June 26, 2015 01:58 PM            

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Originally posted by mercury89:
Yeah, probably he started having some other love interest. What makes me angry is that when I used to ask him if he did, he answered me that he hasn't any one else. But mu 6th sense told me something was wrong, and he never made the first step to finish the relationship with me, so I did it first.
You know it is difficult to accept that. I don't want to sound selfish but I consider my self to have a nice physical, and I did put a great effort in that relationship also when he started to change with me. It is sad. But I can't do anything else than moving on.

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He could of had another love interest, or he just is telling the truth; maybe he is quite relaxed about everything.

Your 6th sense can sometimes be right, but be extra careful in these situations.
Just because you might be attractive or please him physically doesn't make a relationship; physical is at the beginning; you both have to connect someway to make the relationship.