posted June 28, 2015 09:01 AM            

A guy I dated about five years ago randomly hit me up as well making small talk.

posted June 28, 2015 01:18 PM            

No ex has contacted me. Maybe that's because I blocked every single all of them. I don't really care much about their existence nor do I care about whether or not they'll contact me.

I got my heart broken, I'm not interested in repeating the experience(s) again.

posted June 28, 2015 02:10 PM            

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Originally posted by CosmiqPhuz:
Maybe it's just the pushover in me, but sometimes I am just genuinely curious about an ex. Afterall, they were a big part of my life at some point. Sure, people hurt each other and it's sad. But it's not always on purpose or out of ill will. Everyone deserves to be happy, I think. Afterall, we're all gonna die anyway.

This is coming from a scorpio venus. I guess the libra in me makes me more forgiving.

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I am a forgiving individual but I don't need to contact the person to "forgive". I can forgive someone without wanting to contact them again. The past is like a can of worms when it's painful.

Sure, I have moments when I really want to see/talk to them again, but I usually come to my senses.

If they didn't care about me or my feelings then, why would they sudden have a change of heart a couple of months or years later?

I don't understand this interest in staying in touch with exes. It's useless in my opinion.

I believe that if someone doesn't see how special you are from the get go, they don't deserve another shot because I'd feel like some unappealing leftover the decide to finally come back to once they realize they've tasted everything they wanted to taste.

posted June 28, 2015 03:00 PM            

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Originally posted by MineAgain:
I am a forgiving individual but I don't need to contact the person to "forgive". I can forgive someone without wanting to contact them again. The past is like a can of worms when it's painful.

Sure, I have moments when I really want to see/talk to them again, but I usually come to my senses.

If they didn't care about me or my feelings then, why would they sudden have a change of heart a couple of months or years later?

I don't understand this interest in staying in touch with exes. It's useless in my opinion.

I believe that if someone doesn't see how special you are from the get go, they don't deserve another shot because I'd feel like some unappealing leftover the decide to finally come back to once they realize they've tasted everything they wanted to taste.

I don't like being someone's plan B personally.

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Sure, you don't have to contact them to forgive them. I'm not necessarily talking about getting back with an ex or trying to make it work again. I think if you truly loved someone, a part of you will still care about them after you separate.

Love is a funny thing, cause it's not always about just love. There's friendship in there as well. I'm not talking about staying in touch with an ex. But it's kinda like that relative or friend who you only talk to once a year and you check up just to make sure they're doing ok.

Of course, no one wants to be anyone's plan B. But people change. People grow. How do you know someone didn't have to live life first and learn some lessons and figure out who they are? Life and people are so complex and complicated, you can't just look at it as black-and-white like that.

I didn't date a girl I liked senior year in high school because we were gonna start college in different towns soon. I liked her a lot. She asked me out, but I didn't want us to get involved. It wouldn't be fair to either of us, you know? A year later, we both ended up changing to schools in our hometown. I asked her out and we dated!

My guy friend was lonely and couldn't get a date. I hooked him up with one my exes to help him out. They're still together and happy. I wouldn't have been able to do that if I wasn't on good terms with her.

You never know with life. The stars can align a certain way...