posted August 06, 2015 02:36 PM            

A guy once told me that he couldn't tell if I was interested or not because I'm just naturally a nice person. He wasn't sure if I was into him, or just being friendly in general. I feel that I have given out that vibe of being interested before with men when I just wanted to be friends. I feel that Pisces men are the same way- they are friendly towards everyone and it may construe as being interested.

posted August 06, 2015 03:07 PM            

I told her to stop because it happened more than once, but it didn't stop and i'd had enough.

In general, Pisces can lead people on because they have an innocent charm which none of the other signs have and it's that unconditional friendliness which the opposite sex see as interest. However sometimes I think there is more to it than just 'being friendly' to everyone. They can give off the wrong signals at times too.

posted August 06, 2015 03:15 PM            

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Originally posted by Adimi:
I'm really just a naturally friendly, smiley, generous person who is genuinely interested in the other person with whom I'm interacting with.

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posted August 06, 2015 03:48 PM            

Though when I saw a famous date guru on YT that so many women were praising on how to tell if a guy was into you I found it to be summed up as "he doesn't tune out your existence so he must be into you" and even some BS about "guys won't be looking at books next to you unless he's into you (because guys apparently don't read)" I made a snarky comment about my cousin being into me which many other viewers found hilarious and I got several thumbs up (much to my surprise) which means plenty of others were similarly unimpressed.

But it's a common and annoying problem. I have no Pisces placements, though a friend of mine with Pisces stellium (including moon) will get hit with it and I've seen her downright bullied by guys harassing her which I've stepped in more than once (I literally shoved one guy back as he was taking far too much sadistic delight in her cringing while he was speaking crass vulgarities on what he wanted to do with her sexually). Interesting enough, last November a guy thought she was playing hard to get and following her around as she tried to gently put some distance between them so I went up and though I introduced myself politely I put myself between him and her, but he told me to move on and was shocked (even angry) when he realized I'm friends with the woman he was pursuing/harassing (he yelled at her as he left which insinuated she'd somehow deceived or led him on, but he didn't say anything to me).

Of course I have less problems with that since I don't cringe and when someone is on my last nerve or I feel threatened I put out a vibe that is unsettling to some people (one said my expression changed in a way that was just as serious as if I'd drawn a knife and prepared to use it). Pisces is less likely to be that way (though they can be). That said, you don't have to have Pisces anything and be mistaken as interested or "leading them on" just because you gave a friendly smile, that happens to about everyone (and to males as well as females). I've been accused of leading men on just for politely ignoring their harassment and trying to change the subject until I lose patience and politely ask them to stop talking to me like that. (I've also had problems with women thinking I was after her guy or otherwise competition simply because I was the least bit friendly to a guy.)

posted August 06, 2015 07:16 PM            

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Originally posted by Adimi:
I'm a Pisces Sun & Venus and I can totally relate to what you're saying. I'm really just a naturally friendly, smiley, generous person who is genuinely interested in the other person with whom I'm interacting with. It doesn't mean that I see them in a romantic light, but I can see how some may believe they have a chance. When they do verbalize it to me though, I'm very honest with them about where I stand (Aries Mercury)... I don't play with people's hearts nor do I wish to have unresolved issues with people.

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Exactly!

posted August 07, 2015 05:28 AM            

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Originally posted by Belage:
They don't lead you on. They just have a hard time saying I am not interested. Instead, they come up with a million's excuses. People should read between the line that if someone has all those excuses why they can't have a date with you, they're NOT interested.

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posted August 07, 2015 08:41 AM            

My scary Pisces uncle who loomed over my childhood as a disapproving figure is perfectly gentle so long as I'm dressed my best with good hair. LOL

*edits tangent*

posted August 07, 2015 10:44 AM            

For instance I'm friends with a Pisces guy who I just realized has liked me for quite some time. Although he never verbally expressed it to me, I just thought he was being nice (as I am, fellow Pisces). But he would make plans with a group and invite me out and then his friends would cancel so it would be just us (this has happened a couple of times) so it ends up being a date. In which I would say I would have to leave early but then he would keep wanting to extend the night. He would reach out to hold my hand - I didn't know what to do! I tried giving him hints saying I wasn't interested in dating anyone but I valued his friendship. That didn't work. When I thought he had backed off some we hung out again, what I thought would be a group, and again it was only us. He tried inviting himself back to my house to sleep over. I had to tell him no because I had to get up early and such, to which he was a typical sensitive Pisces and got upset. Ugh!!!

He got really mad at me recently when he found out that I had recently dated a common acquantince of ours. Neither of us talk to that guy anymore though. He flipped out on me and said some pretty mean things. When he cooled off and apologized and said he wants to still be friends, I said to him unless he can only be friends with me our friendship will not work. He said he agreed with that and only saw me platonically (confusing!). I finally laid down the line with him and I felt much better afterwards that he finally understood that I only saw him as a friend. I feel bad that it had to get that out of control for me to say that to him, but it has taught me a lesson to be upfront from the beginning.