posted September 22, 2015 01:58 AM            

(background here)
There is this guy I like at work, he has all passive placements (Capricorn sun/merc, Scorpio moon, Pisces venus/mars). In a casual conversation I heard from a male coworker he hangs out with that he's been single for more than 5 years, so I asked if he wanna hang out after work, and we ended up getting dinner and drinks (he suggested the drinks) but it's not a date as I offered to pay my share and he accepted.

When we were by ourselves, have great chemistry & the convo was great! After 3 "dates" of me initiating, he started asking me to dinner and we kind of just alternate from there. I'm still doing most of the asking, it's like 60-40. I also notice him staring at me during group lunch (out of the corner of my eye haha), and he always position himself near or around me. Which is a good sign right? That's what I thought, but... he wouldn't talk to me much though when we're in a group.

(my actual question haha)
He is also so unpredictable in a hot and cold way!

There were times where he really plans the date, he takes us to fancy restaurants and then drinks, and there are times when he was like lets get fast food.

Also he doesn't text me, only to confirm meetup or business related, and he is always direct and to the point, no flirting even though I tried. But in person and over the phone (we've only spoken twice on phone and it was great, one lasted 2 hours, started with business then we ended up talking about nothing lol).

I'm really interested to understand this person more. He's so warm and friendly in person but so standoffish on text. Getting such completely different vibes! It's as if he likes me in person but absolutely hates me on text.

Any ideas what he's up to?

posted September 22, 2015 02:56 AM            

And don't worry about the texts. I personally don't like texting much either with the person I'm into, I'd just rather meet in person and I think I can come off as standoffish/even annoyed on texts. Even though that is not the case.

posted September 22, 2015 03:03 AM            

In a group, I'd imagine that it is normal to focus on interacting with other people. There's "private" time with the object of affection, and there's "social" time with other people.

posted September 22, 2015 03:44 AM            

I see Capricorn and Scorpio as stable and reliable signs.. not normally known for playing games, so I agree with 12muddy and 7ate9 (cute nickname btw!). And yes, things seem to be going well between you

posted September 23, 2015 04:41 PM            

Hi Odette, here is our synastry. Maybe I'm too sensitive (being a Pisces and all :P), when he gives such short replies I feel a little insulted, it's like as if he is telling me to buzz off lol.

his chart:
Sun/Merc Capricorn
Moon Scorpio
Mars/Venus Pisces

posted September 23, 2015 05:03 PM            

I've a 5 days out of state business trip coming up, I invited him along and he agreed! But it kind of all went downhill from there...

We can't really agree on the activities we wanted. Ohh trust me, a side of me really wants to give in, but my Libra moon is like no, must be fair, let's do 50-50 and compromise. I mean, he went as far as insisting I will enjoy theme parks even though I already told him I don't like theme parks. That seem to really ****** him off when I put my foot down (I feel, he didn't say anything but he seems colder to be the past few days and complains about having to take a few days off work).

Being a traditional Cappy and all, have I made a mistake? Do they prefer if to have a partner that follows their lead? He seems to try and make decisions for me recently, and I'm open to suggestions, but when he gets a little pushy... emmm how should I approach him to make the situation better while still being me?

posted September 23, 2015 10:22 PM            

You don't only want to talk about serious things, but you also want to relate about social stuff- things you notice people do, see on TV or have experienced etc. You can get off on this more than you do on serious talk actually.(and Scorpio Moon likes serious talk more)

I think his inability to express himself textually will get you down. But this is not because he can't- he has Sun/Mercury in Cap for crying out loud.

But he does tend to express himself in a more serious/productive way(Cap is ruled by serious Saturn).

So if he does get into a discussion with you, it must lead towards something "tangible" etc. Or you must be well-versed in the topic to give it an angle that he has yet to explore.

If you are all over the place and have a series of thoughts rushing through you that are not linked in any apparent way. He will think you "superficial" and a blabber mouth. Not worth the effort.

So that means that the small talk,casual conversation that you want to have about Kim K or "Game of Thrones", may tickle him now and then. But it is not likely to be up his alley(especially since Moon is in Scorpio). Not unless you add that "impact of social media/celebrity culture on social mores" stance on it.

So try talking about really strange/deep stuff in conversation also-especially sexuality: That really intrigues most Scorpio Moon people I know.

You find emotional security(Moon) in being able to relate to your partner(Libra). Not to mention-sexual attraction(Venus/Mars also both in Air)

He is not so much for verbal expression as he is for emotional cues, non-verbal body language and reading the unspoken etc.(Moon, Venus, mars in water)

Personally,I find Scorpio Moon to be very complex in the initial phase of starting a relationship.

Yes there is that long, penetrating stare they give you; showing you that they are interested.

But I will be controversial and say that when the relationship starts,there are very many complex mind games that you will have to see through to get to the crux of who they are.(This even when Asc/Venus/Mars is in Aries)

Scorpio Moon tends towards "testing" those that they are interested in i.e "are you strong enough to handle me?" , "can you go the distance?" ,"can you stomach me at my worst?" etc.

So emotional complexity, evasiveness(also given the fact that they have Mars/Venus in Pisces) comes with the territory.

Libra believes in showing the "best" side. Scorpio Moon shows ALL sides.And its not always pleasant.

I am dating a Libra/Scorpio Moon myself. And if it weren't from the help of my Mars in conjunction aspect to their Sun and Venus,I would have long given up at the initial phase. The dance was too complex and I just kept on tripping

The games do stop when they know you better/ have had the opportunity to really see that you are not out to do their heart in.But it don't come easy. Trust me when I say this.