posted September 26, 2015 08:40 AM            

I was introduced to this Pisces man. He was the epitome of my dream guy physically. To be honest, a casual conversation soon turned into him kissing me out of no where (involved alcohol :P)I brushed it off thinking he was just some ******* in a bar, and didn't give it much thought. We did exchange numbers though, and soon he was texting me asking me out a few days later. I declined until about 3 months later when I just had a feeling that I should.
Long story short, we went on a few dates and quickly I fell in love. He was all in at first, and all the sudden, he went cold. He used silly excuses to escape and soon, he had disappeared with no good reason. I was so hurt, I couldn't understand where it went wrong. Being a leo, my pride was shaken but I decided not to pursue him because I felt that if it was meant to be, it would find its way. About 2 weeks with absolutely no contact, he texts me to ask how I am and I quickly asked him why he was contacting me. He expressed that he would like to see me again, and i accepted because truthfully, I missed him so much. Soon we were talking again and that went on for about another month before he disappeared. AGAIN.
What is with Pisces disappearing? I can't take it. Long story short, he had done this disappear act another 2 times over the course of 4 months. Every time I have just gone with the flow and let him go. And most recently he had popped back up, for a few days, disappeared for another week and then texted me desperately for hours until i responded. He was so sorry for hurting me and asked for a second chance. He admitted that he was just scared that someone actually cared about him the way I did (Pisces?) I gave in, but now I am feeling just a little dumb. I admit that there is crazy chemistry, attraction, and I've never felt this way for anyone before. He is everything I've ever wanted, the way he makes me feel when he IS around. Does this disappearing mean he DOES have feelings for me or that he doesn't really care? I'm not sure what to make of it. I just can't trust him. What causes someone to just disappear and reappear for no reason? Do I need to be worried that he is seeing other people? Is that a Pisces trait? Someone please help.

I'm fine without a title, and honestly im even fine if he needs space and time to himself, as ive read about pisces. The only thing I cant stand the thought of is that he is seeing other people and/or just playing horrible awful games with me

ALL ADVICE WELCOME!

Once again hes Pisces sun, cancer rising, scorpio moon.
I am Leo sun, aquarius rising, cancer moon

posted September 26, 2015 09:25 AM            

Don't get me wrong.. I'm not saying this as an attack towards Pisces.. But.. Me also being someone who has a pretty strongly felt Pluto/Neptune influence, it is more of a caution.

See.. Not to say all Pisces/Neptunian/12th house people are like this, because it depends on the rest of the chart.. But.. Our romantic feelings for people can shift quite a bit.. And well.. Not just our romantic feelings but our feelings in general. Let me put it like this.. Pisces can have a hard time knowing what it feels.. One moment, it may suddenly get a thought about someone, and think "wow, I have really strong romantic feelings for this person.." Then, later on, for some reason they may become unsure of that feeling. This may be because they are partly battling between looking at what they feel and, the objective side of things.. Like.. One moment they might love their personality.. But.. Then, on another note, when they think about things on an objective level, they may realize that they don't like some of the differences between them and the person they are possibly interested in.. And.. Once again.. There tends to be a certain uncertainty.. Along with "ok, is this realistic, or am I just fantasizing too much/making them out to be something they aren't?" Which.. That is part of the problem.. Sometimes Pisces can rush into relationships because of some idea they get of the person.. Then later they end up battling as to whether that idea is just an idea OR reality.

If a Pisces actually Genuinely does fall in love with someone quickly, it is generally because there really is a STRONG understanding of one another right from the beginning. On top of that, there generally has to be very specific character traits they connect with.

Kind of like..

They don't exactly realize what it is they REALLY want, until it comes to them.. And then, they really will know that they love that person. However, the problem is, up until they meet that specific person, they are trying to make sure the people they are meeting are not that person. It's a complex thing to explain. It's like.. Trying to differentiate something you don't even know, from other people that you aren't sure if you know or not.

Lmao.. That probably makes no sense whatsoever.

Like...

Lets say the person is sat at a table trying different flavors of candy. They don't know what they are looking for.. But.. They know they are going to find that one type they LOVE.. And, they know they'll know it once they find it.. But.. Before that, they also find some that they LIKE.. So.. There is a certain differentiation that needs to be made, where they need to make sure they are tasting the different types for what they are, rather than what they think they are. Because, only in knowing them for what they really are is the only way they will know once they've found that one type they LOVE. However, the problem is, they may never find that type.. And, I think knowing that is part of what fuels them to try and be critical about things at times.

Yeah.. I just compared people to candy. LMAO.. And.. Yes, it probably sounds pretty out there.. And.. Obviously, in a way, yes, it really does come off as sounding just like hopeful thinking and fantasy-based thinking that some day they will just run into someone they will know without a doubt that they love.. Making it seem as if what they are looking for is some very specific idea.. Some very specific fantasy of how they might want someone to be.. But, really, it is actually the exact opposite in its own way.. There isn't really fantasizing about a "perfect" partner, because they aren't really sure what they think "perfect" is.. So.. Really, there are no boundaries.. And, that is what confuses Pisces in this case. It isn't that they have some elaborate plan.. Rather, they are unsure of what "perfect" is, yet, feel they will know once they've found it.

Now.. Some may not agree.. And.. I could see why. But.. I feel that this is ONE of the many ways Piscean energy can manifest in regards to relationships..

And.. I'm also not sure whether or not any of what I just said makes sense.. I've been up all night, so I'm kind of out of it.

It's kind of like.... When you see a number/picture in a group of them.. And kind of forget it.. But, "you'll know once you've seen it/found it" like.. You see a bunch of license plates.. And.. You are supposed to remember one of them. The thing is, you may not remember every exact number and letter, but, you have it in the back of your head in a way that you'll know it the second you see it again.. Does this make sense?

It's like.. Rather than going off exact traits (the exact numbers/colors), you go off of the subconscious imprint.

posted September 26, 2015 10:12 AM            

This guy needs to be mothered and taken care of because the big bad world is too much for him to handle. And your Cancer Moon is happy in a motherly role, so there are no problems from this perspective. You'll happily cook for him, make him hot chocolate, tuck him into bed at night, maybe read him some bedtime stories (or role play the bedtime stories? lol)

He will probably be the more submissive partner in your relationship (although that depends on your Venus/Mars interaction as well - so I can't be 100%).

I don't actually think he is playing games with you, but a relationship with Pisces - however nice it may be, will probably never be a "one on one" relationship. Pisces, being a transpersonal sign, is focused on so many things and so many people that you can never "have them" all to yourself. Your transpersonal Aquarius Moon may well relate to that! But your Leo Sun is possessive....
I think you could have a positive relationship here as long as you don't have the expectation that he is very grounded or stable or "always there for you".

posted September 26, 2015 10:21 AM            

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Originally posted by ReadingTheStars95:

See.. Not to say all Pisces/Neptunian/12th house people are like this, because it depends on the rest of my chart.. But.. Our romantic feelings for people can shift quite a bit.. And well.. Not just our romantic feelings but our feelings in general. Let me put it like this.. Pisces can have a hard time knowing what it feels.. One moment, it may suddenly get a thought about someone, and think "wow, I have really strong romantic feelings for this person.." Then, later on, for some reason they may become unsure of that feeling. This may be because they are partly battling between looking at what they feel and, the objective side of things.. Like.. One moment they might love their personality.. But.. Then, on another note, when they think about things on an objective level, they may realize that they don't like some of the differences between them and the person they are possibly interested in.. And.. Once again.. There tends to be a certain uncertainty.. Along with "ok, is this realistic, or am I just fantasizing too much/making them out to be something they aren't?" Which.. That is part of the problem.. Sometimes Pisces can rush into relationships because of some idea they get of the person.. Then later they end up battling as to whether that idea is just an idea OR reality.

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posted September 26, 2015 10:30 AM            

Anyways.. Regardless..