posted October 09, 2015 03:47 AM            

I have been roaming these forums for a while now and I saw a lot of great replies so I thought about kindly asking a small advice for my own, I'd really appreciate it.

A small background story: I have been into a 8month relationship with a cancer. Far as I know, I'm the longest relationship he had in a few years after some heartbreaks he had. Everything was absolutely wonderful, he loved me beyond words, offered me protection, even took me to see his parents.

He always talked about marriage and how "the search is over". BUT almost 2 months ago, he decided it's best to let me go (even if a week before he told me I'm his stable and cozy point in his life) because of his work stress/lack of financial stability which was a big issue in his life and was also affecting our relationship. I admit into not being stronger at that time for him and us. He felt guilty he didn't manage to fulfill his part of the relationship and didn't want to feel like that anymore, didn't want to bring me down also. He also stated that he's not ready for what I have to offer emotionally and that if only we met place in the future (which I don't really buy)

I understood and let him go (of course I was heartbroken). I gave him space. I used to send cute/light emails (once a week) to know I'm thinking of him, since I know he needs reassuring. To some he answered, to some he didn't. Last time we spoke more casually he said he's still intensely searching for a job until he "drowns".

2 weeks ago I sent him a lovely email saying how I feel about him, telling him where I stand and being willing to be there for him, if he still sees a future with us. If he doesn't that's fine, life goes on. At least truth will set me free.
He replied something really casual, ending (not really addressing my point) with "As for he rest, I'd rather respond later". That later never came, he didn't give me any sign and neither did I. I've been in NC with him ever since.

But his attitude is beyond me, what the hell is going through his mind?

posted October 09, 2015 03:58 AM            

He's a cancer sun, libra moon. I don't know the time of birth so I can't really generate a chart.

posted October 09, 2015 06:39 AM            

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Originally posted by charlie:
I am a Cancer and I would only really do this if something else has caught my attention or I am not sure about other person anymore. I can keep the status Q for quite some time until I am good and ready to make a decision. One thing with Cancers that ALWAYS seems to work is: do.not.contact.us
We WILL contact you if interest is still there.

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This is what came to mind right away.

Either he found something in her behavior that he saw as shady or less serious as he (which could have made him feel embarrassed and/or angry) Of course I don't mean that she was, but his perception.
Or
He became interested in someone else.