|
Author
|
Topic: Gemini Sun Scorpio Moon
|
PiscesCancerTaurus
Knowflake Posts: 295
From: Finland
Registered: Jun 2013
|
posted October 28, 2015 08:04 PM
  
For all those with this placement or to those who have experienced someone with this placement, can you please tell me how to win them back? They kept telling me that I was their best friend and that they loved me more than I loved them. They were the sweetest person ever to me. I told them that I had feelings for them and they said they didn't feel the same way and so they pulled away. The next day I told them that those feelings might not be the way I thought they were but as more of a friendship love as well. Now they won't talk to me at all even though they said they would forget everything that happened and we are still best friends. They completely ignore me and only talk to me when they have to. I don't know what to do! I miss them though!IP: Logged |
theunknown
Knowflake Posts: 2582
From:
Registered: Dec 2010
|
posted October 29, 2015 01:54 AM
If they love you they'd come around. Don't pushIP: Logged |
Gemini30
Knowflake Posts: 364
From: Los Angeles
Registered: Sep 2014
|
posted October 29, 2015 03:39 AM
Yes. Give the Scorpio moon it's space and if they truly care about you they'll be back and could make the friendship/partnership stronger. It's like the old saying "If you love something, let it go, if it comes back it's yours, if it doesn't it never was." IP: Logged |
Taineberry
Knowflake Posts: 877
From:
Registered: Jun 2011
|
posted October 29, 2015 04:01 AM
I have this placement. It may be that this person is feeling guilt because they led you on too far due to your ability to make him/her feel good about him/herself, and then could not deliver in return when you fell in love. This person probably really does like you, but is ashamed that they let their ego needs make them so insensitive to what was going on regarding your expectations. Hiding away from this helps them to not think about it too much. It is not your fault, but maybe there is something incompatible about your future aspirations that this Gemini can sense which underlies his/her attraction to you. As far as "winning back" as a friend is concerned. This is a tough one. Your best bet is to be honest. Say you were hurt about what happened and you think that they were a complete sh**t to make you fall for them, but you are willing to overlook this - (Their scorpio moon should be able to handle this) in the interests of moving on as friends. If they are willing then you are willing to rewind the clock to how your friendship was at the beginning. Suggest an experiment to see if it can work, if they will agree. Make your conversation light and focused on ideas - not feelings. IP: Logged |
Soltze
Knowflake Posts: 919
From:
Registered: Mar 2015
|
posted October 29, 2015 11:10 AM
They? He or she...
Look I'm Gem Sun with Scorp Moon. I feel weird when people talk about emotions to me. It's already hard to deal with mine. So I tend to leave when it gets to much. I always want to show my "best behaviour", so when I'm down I isolate myself.It took me a year to reconnect with a friend of mine who might have some extra feelings for me. But I guess I'll never know, because I acted very harsh on her first clues.
The issue is I tought it would ruin our friendship and we could never be together that way. Or maybe if I made a move she would be the one running away. IP: Logged |
margym0o
Knowflake Posts: 573
From: Canada
Registered: Jul 2014
|
posted October 29, 2015 03:59 PM
As a Gem Sun with Scorp Moon too I can say if it were me putting my heart on the line and I were in any way rejected, I would definitely pull back...at least initially. Could be temporary, could be indefinitely, depends on the extent of the hurt.I find the Moon to be the truest expression of the heart when it comes to love and relationships, and even with an airy Gemini Sun sometimes it can't be overridden. If it were a strictly friendship situation it may be easier to get over, but since there was "love" involved here it gets messy. I can tell you the "I love you more than you love me" type thing was a typical Scorpio test - plain and simple. It can be really annoying but when a Scorpio puts their heart on their line they go to ridiculous lengths to ensure their feelings are reciprocated. To insinuate anything less - especially friendship - after they put themselves out there like that, forget it. It happened to me once. I REALLY put myself out there for someone who I was certain felt the same but when I found out he didn't (or at least tried to play that wishy washy cool guy routine pretending not to) I straight up cut him out of my life. He really regretted it, even years later! My advice is to write a very honest "last and final" note explaining your intentions and what you REALLY want from them (no games) and leave it at that to see if they reach out. A gamble for you but it will make them feel like they have the upper hand and thus more inclined to act (or not). IP: Logged |
Soltze
Knowflake Posts: 919
From:
Registered: Mar 2015
|
posted October 29, 2015 06:09 PM
You explained it much better than me :-D
That's it. People have to be very honest about their feelings when dealing with a Scorp Moon...IP: Logged |
PiscesCancerTaurus
Knowflake Posts: 295
From: Finland
Registered: Jun 2013
|
posted October 31, 2015 09:39 AM
First of all we are both girls. I was the one who put my heart out on the line by telling her my feelings towards her and how I felt about our friendship. We finally had a conversation about what I have been feeling and about what she has been feeling. I felt like every time I attempted to say what I have been feeling she had and excuse for it and it made me feel like I was overreacting. She told me that she has been pulling back from me to prepare herself to start dating. I am fine with her dating I just don't want her to pull herself away from me. She was very clingy towards me from the get go. She would constantly say stuff like we are getting matching tattoos and I love you very much or I am going to dye my hair so we look exactly the same. She became overly attached and latched onto me fairly quickly. It didn't bother me because part of me knew she was joking and also I don't really mind people like that (I'm a Cancer sun).
She finally broke me though and I started to give into her and admitted we are best friends and that is when she started to pull away. I love her dearly but I just really don't understand Gemini's. IP: Logged |
wheresthemoon
Knowflake Posts: 722
From: Texas
Registered: Aug 2014
|
posted October 31, 2015 09:53 AM
I agree with the others, don't push. Regardless of her placements, it sounds to me like maybe she just didn't know you were into her like that (or that you were into girls at all) and now that you've told her she sees how her previous behavior may have been interpreted the wrong way and now she's trying not to lead you on. I think if you let it be for awhile and show her that you're really ok with being just friends she will start missing you and you may be able to repair the friendship. From an astrological standpoint, Scorpio is about extremes. They will cut you off if they think it's best. I was kind of seeing a guy with Scorpio moon (libra sun) and he would sort of cut me off if he thought I was getting "too attached" or whatever. He never said it, but I could feel that that's what he was doing. He would go long periods of time without talking to me. When he did that I would just give him space and not talk to him, and he'd always end up texting me at some point. In any case, good for you for putting yourself out there. That takes courage. IP: Logged |
Soltze
Knowflake Posts: 919
From:
Registered: Mar 2015
|
posted October 31, 2015 10:30 AM
Yeah we were both girls as well. No worries :-D It's perfectly normal, you'll get to this state of mind as well.Except I can't see myself acting like your friend. But I've been on the receiving end too. She would tell me how perfect we were for each other but..."you're a girl". She wanted to share a house as soon as we both worked! She kissed a girl once, and she told me she was curious about it but lately it's just men men men. Because her family, unlike mine, would totally cut her off if not physically hurt her... And she knew perfectly well my orientation. I told her years ago. She totally hated my ex-girlfriend too, despite she was right I knew she was jealous like crazy. Even other friends said we should just "kiss and get it over with". So...yeah She can really break me, she knows me too well. So unless there's a very honest conversation...it ain't happening. Scorp moon are afraid of pain, because when it hurts we can loose it. IP: Logged |
PiscesCancerTaurus
Knowflake Posts: 295
From: Finland
Registered: Jun 2013
|
posted October 31, 2015 10:41 AM
I think what caused this all is that I came back the next day and told her that I was confused and that I don't have feelings for her like that. I just really adore and love her. I have never had someone get so close to me. I've never really had friends before so when she kept pushing me and really started tugging at my heart strings I got confused and said things I didn't mean. Only problem though is she was pulling away from me BEFORE I did all this and now she is really pulling away from me. Even though she says she is fine and we are still best friends. I think I need someone to be consistently clingy or unattached one or the other but not both.By the way....
My placements if it helps
Pisces - Rising
Cancer - Sun
Taurus - Moon
Cancer - Mercury
Cancer - Venus
Taurus - Mars Her placements
Sagittarius - Rising
Gemini - Sun
Scorpio - Moon
Cancer - Mercury
Taurus - Venus
Cancer - Mars IP: Logged |
theunknown
Knowflake Posts: 2582
From:
Registered: Dec 2010
|
posted October 31, 2015 10:54 AM
I think what scorpio moons online don't talk about is despite the fact that they can handle the truth and are capable of facing their own demons, they don't do it without a cycle of: being very angry at you for telling the truth (might even entailing doing something hurtful to you, like creating jealousy or saying something batshizz provoking), cutting off communication, go examining themselves -which can take months... And then, only then do they decide to come back. So the party involved might already got very hurt at this point. That's why a Scorpio moon doesn't get along with lots of people.
IP: Logged |
charlie
Knowflake Posts: 3385
From:
Registered: Jun 2012
|
posted October 31, 2015 11:00 AM
I dated one many years ago. He was first very affectionate, caring and easy-going but slowly turned into something I wished I'd never met. He couldn't handle my depths because it put him in touch with his own unresolved issues and I think that made him feel guilty because he couldn't even meet me halfway. He was also a heavy (!) drinker, like many Scorp Moons I've met, and had no aspirations of ever quitting. My advice would be to just give him space. IP: Logged |
PiscesCancerTaurus
Knowflake Posts: 295
From: Finland
Registered: Jun 2013
|
posted October 31, 2015 03:21 PM
I appreciate all the advice. I just found out she has a different rising than we thought. She is actually a Sagittarius rising. If I give her space do you think she will come around and everything will be fine? Or did I ruin it? IP: Logged |
Soltze
Knowflake Posts: 919
From:
Registered: Mar 2015
|
posted October 31, 2015 09:09 PM
Things are not okay as they are. Just decide what you're feelings are...deep down you know if it's friendship or more.
If it's more, just don't say anything. Make the move. If it goes wrong. You'll hurt for a while, but you won't have doubts in the back of your mind.If it's friendship, give her some time. If nothing changes then she isn't really your friend. It's a two way street. Sag rising? Is her Scorp Moon in the 12th? What house is the Pluto in? That is a very repressed moon. Only rivalled by the 8th (which I have ugh) IP: Logged |
Lindaland
UBBFriend: Email This Page to Someone! 
