posted November 02, 2015 10:01 PM            

A girl just married into the family. Her Sun/Mercury squares her new sister in laws Saturn exactly.

My Aunt in law has Saturn square her new daughter in laws Mercury. They don't get along.

My MIL's Saturn squares my Sun. My Saturn squares her Mercury. There is tension.

Do you see lots of Saturn squares with in-laws? Is there any getting past it? What is the point/lesson to learn?

posted November 02, 2015 10:46 PM            

There is quite a few saturn squares and oppositions in the synastry between him and my parents. Not to mention my mother's pluto on his stellium. The saturn in my synastry with the in-laws are pretty bad too.

My parents sort of looked down on my s.o and think he wasn't the best choice for me (grim reaper bad manifestation of saturn). His family detests me because they feel insecure and feel that they don't have any control over me (again, saturn contacts may bring that out).

The solution? Well I'm saturn dominant myself. My motto is know what to look for and don't expect too much. Not everyone gets along. Don't look for love in a sht hole and feel bad when can't find any.

I'm civil to them. When they step out of line I'm happy to whip them back into place. And after a few times they learn not to push. So eventually their company is somewhat tolerable. The trick is to not let things become so horrifyingly bad they break up the connection for good. Setting boundaries early and firmly is important.

If nothing works, cut off the ties. Heh this is something my s.o and I both agree to and feel that it's right.

So for us, the lesson is to set boundaries and establish our union as independent/separate, to not let their problems affect our relationship and sense of self-worth.