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Topic: Recreating situations from childhood?
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Steph22922
Knowflake Posts: 37
From: United States, Kansas
Registered: Jan 2015
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posted November 06, 2015 03:45 PM
  
It's often said in psychology that whatever conflicts or difficult situations you lived through in childhood that you haven't fully healed from, you're likely to recreate in your adult life (or even younger). Today I had an epiphany of sorts. I recently got into a fight with my best friend/roommate and moved out after only living with her for 2 months. Also alot of my other past friendships and romantic relationships have been full of conflict. Thinking back on my childhood, I realized that my parents fought all the time when I was young and my oldest sister fought with my parents alot too. Even when they weren't outright fighting I could always sense some underlying resentment between everyone in my house. Finally one day when I was 5, almost 6, my parents got into a final big argument then got a divorce. There were a couple times afterward they almost got back together but didn't end up doing so. I've noticed that most of my friendships/relationships will start off great but along the way both of us with start having resentments towards each other about small things and hold it in, then one day something triggers a big argument and we tear each other down with a ton of resentments neither of us knew the other had. After this I tend to back up and not talk to the person for awhile but sometimes we'll end up being friends again later on until the same thing happens. With other people, once we have a big argument we never talk again. And with others there's never an argument, one of us will just stop talking to the other without any explanation. In my natal chart I've got alot of squares (16 to be exact) and my sun and moon are one of those squares. I also have mars square moon, Pluto square sun, Pluto opposite moon and Venus square Pluto. Is there a certain pattern you've noticed in your own life that you've kept repeating from childhood onwards? How do we go about healing these old patterns and traumas so we can stop the never ending cycle? IP: Logged |
teasel
Knowflake Posts: 7538
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 06, 2015 03:50 PM
I wish I knew the answer to your last question/sentence. I thought I had finally done that, only for something to repeat in a way that's even worse than it was in my childhood. I was left with the feeling that it doesn't get better, and there's no point in trying - I have Chiron tightly conjunct my Sun. I don't know if that has anything to do with it (the wound that won't heal). IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
Moderator Posts: 9556
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Registered: Dec 2010
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posted November 06, 2015 06:06 PM
Ahh, yeah. I feel you.
Same problem over here. Haven't found a solution (yet), but I think being aware is a good start. Eh, my brain is fried tonight (had a long day) so I can't comment much more, but I can really relate, so at least know that you're not alone.
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teasel
Knowflake Posts: 7538
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 06, 2015 06:29 PM
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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Ahh, yeah. I feel you.
Same problem over here. Haven't found a solution (yet), but I think being aware is a good start. Eh, my brain is fried tonight (had a long day) so I can't comment much more, but I can really relate, so at least know that you're not alone.
It's difficult, isn't it? My reactions to people are so different now, and I feel like that's it - no more. I see the pattern, I see how it always goes for me, I'll sit this one out thanks. What bothers me is that I fought against the pattern. I tried to get everyone (not only me) to take the healthier route. I can't even believe my last four years. IP: Logged |
missblyss
Knowflake Posts: 124
From: san diego, ca, USA
Registered: Oct 2015
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posted November 06, 2015 08:16 PM
I think the first step is being able to step back and acknowledge the pattern!
Which is exactly what you are doing, so go you! That in itself is a huge deal!Now, observe the energetics that are taking place. It might be a natural/comfortable reaction for you to hold in your frustrations. That is what feels most acceptable for you at the time. BUT, you are aware this is not working for you... because instead of processing through the feelings you hold them within yourself, and of course the inevitable explode! Well, why not start slowly approaching these energies in a new way... Maybe next time you feel some negativity rustling inside you could take the initiative to text message your friend a kind message once you've had enough time to calm down and clear your thoughts. You could also make the effort to discuss it initially, but the text is just another way of diffusing it, whatever works best for you! It is always difficult and scary to step out of old patterns, but so much reward will come from it! If you know it isn't benefitting you, put some effort into creating new patterns that will! You can do it! IP: Logged | |
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