posted November 29, 2015 10:17 AM            

This Gemini with Scorpio moon girl pursued me about 6 months ago. I am a Cancer with Taurus moon girl and I was very hesitant to get to know her and get close to her. I just really don't trust people. Anyway she was very persistent and relentless in getting my attention and getting close to me. I use to joke with her that she was working very hard to break my walls down and she would joke back that she was going to succeed. She would text me EVERYDAY or communicate with me in someway everyday and what seemed like all day everyday. We seemed to have plans to do something together EVERY weekend and the plans started to pour into the weekdays too. She would constantly say how much she liked having me in her life and we were going to be close. She turned to me one day while we were sitting in silence and said she liked me. Twice now she has said she loved me. Obviously me being a Cancer she has slowly broke through and wormed her way into my heart. Needless to say I was not thrilled about it but I let it happen because I really like her and started to love her too. She has literally introduced me to everyone in her family and said we are going to be together forever. This is when the first round of the disappearing act started. I had noticed that she slowly started distancing herself from me. We still would hang out regularly but not like before and she started hanging out with others getting close to them as well or would make plans with them over me and then later say she really misses me and wants to spend time with me. The constant communication via text or phone call came to a few words here and a few words there. I didn’t really think anything of it and just brushed it off because every time we were in public together and I wasn’t giving her my attention she would go out of her way to get my attention. I should mention that we work together. Basically at work if I was working and I hadn’t spoken to her in about 30 minutes because I was working, she would ask me a question about something I know she already knows the answer to or tell me the most random thing ever just to talk to me. She would constantly through this period ask if I was mad at her. Anyway I finally decided it was good idea to tell her how I felt about her. I told her I liked her and I could tell it freaked her out and she told me she didn’t feel the same but she said she still wanted to be my friend. I was okay with that and we remained friends. We had gotten into a bit of an argument but we both decided to work it, so while we were talking things over I asked her why she seemed so freaked out about me having feelings for her and why she was distancing herself from me previously. She said because it felt like the two of us were dating and then I dropped that bomb on her. The distancing thing ended shortly after that and she became what I would call clingy again. She started inviting herself to everything I did and all my family events she kept asking when she was going to meet certain people in my family. We would be driving around and we would see a house for sale and she would make a comment about the two of us buying it together. She would make comments about how she wants her wedding and how many kids she wants. She keeps making future plans with me. I mentioned what I wanted to do for my birthday and she said that sounds like WE are going to have fun for your birthday. I had at one point got offered a job out of state and thought about taking it and she got very sad and said I can’t leave she would miss me too much and asked what is she going to do without me? I didn’t take it for other reasons. She made a comment once while we were out to dinner with two kids we were babysitting that it looked like we were a married couple with kids. I can feel her constantly staring at me or just looking at me for no reason too. Toward my family and hers she would constantly use the term of us or we as if we were together. I helped her move into her new place and I was the only one of her friends to show up and help her. She kept saying how much she appreciated me and seemed very touchy, more than usual, that weekend and clingy too.

She ended up going out on a date with another person that weekend too. I knew about it and I made every attempt to be okay with it and support her as a friend. She ended up texting me immediately after the date not to talk about it but to just talk. The very next day the two of us went out to see a movie and get lunch. It was nice but I could tell there was something off. I worked up the courage to ask her about her date, as good friend would do. She said it was amazing but it was probably ending there because he had made a comment she didn’t like. After the movies I asked her to “hang out” with me on Saturday and she asked if I wanted to see another movie with her the next day. We had both agreed to both days. The next day came around and canceled on the movies and didn’t say more than two words to me that day. The next day at work I was distant towards her because I felt like I said I felt like something was not right between us. In the back of my mind I keep thinking that she is talking to the guy she went on a date with only because the day before her date when she was super clingy to me she mentioned how the two of them were getting closer and talking more. So she invited me over for Thanksgiving me then canceled on me for that too. I kept telling myself that it is just because she is sick because she has had a cold all week. But then I think about how she is able to talk to EVERYONE else but seems to give me one to two words. That Friday at work she was still distant but not as much. She said she felt horrible that I wasn’t at Thanksgiving with her and kept making sure we were still on for Saturday. I said of course we are. Saturday rolls around and she again makes sure that we were still on and again I said yes we are. Two hours before we are set to leave she cancels on me again! I tried again to be patient with this and asked her if everything was alright and if there was anything I could do to make her feel better because I know she has a cold. Unfortunately, she doesn’t respond to my messages anymore. So now the communication is almost nonexistent between us and we are no longer hanging out. I am deeply upset and honestly I am slowly moving past her. I don’t get it though, because she seems to treat everyone else just fine and is able to talk to him or her regularly with no distancing even when she is sick or needs a time out. I am a Cancer with a Taurus moon, I can’t take this distancing and then reappearing, it really hurts! Part of me feels like she is just screwing with me and I have accepted that as the case and I am trying to move on. The other part (the Cancer venus part) feels like there is more to this story and her feelings. I suppose if there was some method to this madness and everything would be okay in the end then I would be all right putting up with the constant uncertainty.

Me-
Pisces – rising
Cancer – sun
Taurus – moon
Cancer – mercury
Cancer – venus
Taurus – mars

posted November 29, 2015 11:20 AM            

Or she's mad at something or misinterpreted some of your actions or words.

For someone with those placements something small can become like a montain.

I know because I have Sun Gemini, Moon Scorpio and Cancer Mars like her. If you can get her to have an honest conversation with you...at least you can either solve the problems or get closure. Good luck with making her open up for you, though ...

Careful because she might play cool but when the emotions come out you might be surprised with the intensity of her reactions. Try to be patient and don't take it too personally.

posted November 29, 2015 09:15 PM            

She is simply an immature version of a Scorpio moon. She's playing games and testing you. Don't play her game. She needs to grow up. Trying to figure out how to pass her little tests will only exhaust you and is a waste of your time. You don't need to waste your life on someone who is still playing games like a teenager. I know it hurts because you were so close to her, but move on and don't give her a second thought. People like her are emotional vampires and should be avoided.

posted November 30, 2015 10:24 AM            

Not to mention,

Scorpio is the ruler of my 7th house.

posted November 30, 2015 02:37 PM            

She is using you as an accessory blanket that she can just grab whenever and wherever she likes.

Your steady emotional nature frightens her. But it is also quite alluring as you are a lot more stable than she is.

The Gemini Sun/Scorpio Moon dilemma is quite a challenge in personality.

Scorpio often wants to go deep. So emotionally, you are right up her alley.

But Gemini can get excited about the next best thing and chase shiny objects to wherever they lead. So perhaps she also feels that hanging out with you is a little hum drum?

My advice. Keep the friendship only on your terms and distance yourself.

Gemini energy can be very charming. But when it comes to emotional availability and consistency...NO.

posted November 30, 2015 05:05 PM            

I texted her yesterday just to see if she was feeling better from being sick. She gave me two responses and that was that. Today at work she completely ignored me as if I didn't exist. However, I could see and feel her staring at me from afar all day. Once I actually caught her looking at me and we made eye contact and she quickly looked away. I took everyone's advice though and ignored her too and will continue to ignore her, however I am ready to explode with anger. I have been treated this way before but it really hurts. Especially when she is constantly saying that she like/love me and then she just goes cold.

To answer the question of if there was something I did to her. I admit that when I came out to her and told her my feelings for her and she said she just wanted to be friends I ran back into my Cancer shell and told her I made it all up just so I could remain friends with her and because I was scared. She said we were fine and it was only last weekend that she was going on about living together and being together. So I don't know what happened between last weekend and now.

As a Cancer I have been trying to listen to my feelings and do what my gut tells me. Part of me feels like she is just distancing herself because she does have feelings and she is trying to understand them and cope. The other part of me feels like she is just done with me and is icing me out. Either way I know there is definitely something major going on that she is not telling me. I know for a fact that there is more to this story.

posted November 30, 2015 05:54 PM            

Best of luck with everything!

posted November 30, 2015 06:06 PM            

Honestly I don't think she is immature either. I really don't think that she is doing this intentionally at all! I think there is something deeper going on here. The only problem is she went from being glued to my hip to being strangers all in the time span of one day!

posted November 30, 2015 06:38 PM            

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How do you guys get all of this negativity from that first post?
That she is an immature Scorpio Moon? That she is doing this intentionally? Being a child? Playing mind games?

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Scorpio moons are just as capable of immaturity as any other moon sign. I'm not going to put them or any other moon sign on a pedestal. I have met many immature Scorpio moons as well as mature ones. The mature ones make amazing friends, but the immature ones only cause drama.

I've dealt with people like her before. She is playing games and is not communicating her feelings. There is nothing direct or honest about her. She's giving mixed messages. This type of behavior is quite childish and is something that someone should outgrow by their early 20s at the very latest (and that's pushing it).