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hannaramaa
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posted November 30, 2015 12:06 AM
  
So it's been a long time since I've been close with Cancer people but I have one I want to be friends with now. Sometimes when I can tell he's annoyed at something, or it's the way he moves (very sharp and quick movements, almost like you'd expect an Aries) I shy away and keep to myself. This is awkward though, especially in a work environment. As an Aries, with another fire sign, I feel like I could just walk up and hear them vent and ease it but with this Cancer I don't know if I can do that. Do Cancers like to be bothered when they're upset like this? I don't think they were upset over anything I did but the fact we had unexpected things crop up at work. I'm not sure how to handle it other than avoiding the person but that seems rude too. IP: Logged |
Comatoes
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posted November 30, 2015 01:49 AM
Let them work it out themselves, and come back later, don't make a big deal out of it. Cancers don't like to be bothered when they're angry because they don't handle anger very well. Usually they will become quiet and distant. When Cancers get flustered they turn very Cardinal -- brisk and focused, becoming less emotional and more strong-willed... It's the way of the sign, but depends on his moon sign. Seems like he may have a air or fire moon sign.When Cancers get drained they almost always become irritated. So if work has been piling on, there you go. Cancers like to do a good job, and when they feel this is not happening this causes internal fears... "Letting the tides go out to sea" most Cancers return to normal, especially after a couple nights of sleep. Depending on the moon sign, Cancers don't usually vent, they vent inside not outwardly unless they know the person(s) well. If the problem is with you or you had an argument well it will play out even more intensely. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted November 30, 2015 02:08 AM
Thank you!!! No, I don't think it is with me. The past two nights were actually very fun and enjoyable. He lingered by my station and we talked about things we had in common, enough that he even shouted across the room to start a conversation which he hasn't ever done before (I've only been there a month.) Two of the people who were supposed to close with us tonight called out and I think that's why he was stressed. It's just he's my shift leader so when he gets like that I HATE having to approach him for anything. He knows I'm new but then I feel like I'm just one more thing he's stressed over. He doesn't believe in astrology so he wouldn't tell me his birthday, just that he was a Cancer. Maybe an Aries moon? IP: Logged |
charlie
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posted November 30, 2015 03:12 AM
As a Cancer Sun (Cap Moon) I'd chew your head off if you came stomping and I had something to sort through! If you leave me alone though, I'll always come around when I am done being aloof.IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted November 30, 2015 03:25 AM
Thanks  Yeah I just leave him alone, but to the point that I can't even barely look at him either (well i like him and don't want him to know so that's part of it but still) I guess my thing is how to leave him alone without it being awkward. Like, I don't even make small talk, I literally just say as little as possible to him when I can tell (my perception anyway) he's in a mood. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted November 30, 2015 03:34 PM
How do you deliver honesty to a Cancerian? What makes a Cancerian trust you?In determining his possible rising or moon sign, he reminds me of two people I know... one is a Leo with Pisces moon, and the other is an Aquarius with a Cancer moon and Venus in Pisces. Weird right? They're all about the same height (short - average), the Leo loves the outdoors like this Cancer does, and this Cancer is helpful and kind to people like my Aquarius friend. UGH if only he would just tell me his birthday! What if he lied just to prove astrology wrong, and he's not really a Cancer. >.< I definitely don't think he has any Gemini in his chart or we'd be clicking much better. Possibly Capricorn though, come to think of it. We can just talk about Cancers too. I'm interested in it all lol. __ Don't quote IP: Logged |
Readytochill
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posted November 30, 2015 04:16 PM
As a cancer sun, I would say give him some time. I get irritated when someone invades my space when I'm ready to chop someone's head off. Usually it takes a few days and I'm back to normal depending on what occurred.IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted November 30, 2015 04:42 PM
That's no problem for me, as a Tayrus moon I'm way more comfortable not invading anyone's space. Do Cancers like being approached bc they're water signs, or do they prefer to do that since they're cardinal?IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted November 30, 2015 09:00 PM
You shouldn't tell people you are into astrology because they are less likely to tell you their birthday if they know you are into it. They think you are going to psychoanalyze them and it freaks them out. IP: Logged |
Gracha
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posted November 30, 2015 09:44 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
You shouldn't tell people you are into astrology because they are less likely to tell you their birthday if they know you are into it. They think you are going to psychoanalyze them and it freaks them out.
Exactly!! I'm glad someone mentioned this because propel will also look t you weird. I like to ask their birthday and then say mines and I'll also make up an excuse about xyz etc generally this will open them up to disclosing. It works like a charm.
Oh to op I'm an aries dating a July cancer. When they are stressed or upset it's best to let them be. Also they tend to be worriers and need reassurancing. Like now he's been stressed about work so has been going into his shell at times but he's very sweet and has the right touch of masculinity. This is the first cancer man I've dated.
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Readytochill
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posted November 30, 2015 10:22 PM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
That's no problem for me, as a Tayrus moon I'm way more comfortable not invading anyone's space. Do Cancers like being approached bc they're water signs, or do they prefer to do that since they're cardinal?
I like being approached first. Not in an aggressive way. That would freak me out and make me not trust you. I'm also kinda shy. My Leo planets make me too prideful at times to initiate things though so have to take that into consideration. Someone just posted about going into our shell when stressed. Definitely something I do as well. When someone comes knocking on that shell, trying to figure out what's wrong, the claws get put to use lol
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hannaramaa
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posted November 30, 2015 11:12 PM
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You shouldn't tell people you are into astrology because they are less likely to tell you their birthday if they know you are into it. They think you are going to psychoanalyze them and it freaks them out.
I know what you mean, but it's hard to hide my interest only because a) I have a tarot card tattooed on my forearm, and b) I'm torn between shutting up about it or treating it normally. Like, Christians or Mormons or whoever is part of a "normal" religion can always mention God, but I'm weird for my beliefs? It's hypocritical and that annoys me. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted November 30, 2015 11:13 PM
Plus if it freaks them out on some evel then it means they sort of buy into it...so why not explore?? People make no sense!IP: Logged |
Gracha
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posted November 30, 2015 11:33 PM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I know what you mean, but it's hard to hide my interest only because a) I have a tarot card tattooed on my forearm, and b) I'm torn between shutting up about it or treating it normally. Like, Christians or Mormons or whoever is part of a "normal" religion can always mention God, but I'm weird for my beliefs? It's hypocritical and that annoys me.
You can't compare tarot reading to religion its very different. This is coming from a tarot reader. It is true that people look at you like youre weird. The last guy I dated requested that I get rid of my tarot cards and guess what it didn't happen. People are afraid of the unknown and venturing into tarot and astrology is apart of that world so it is important to not discuss these interests with not just anyone. You don't even know him that well your result is already him refusing to tell you his birthday so i'm willing to bet he's semi labeled you as "weird". I'd be careful. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted December 01, 2015 12:11 AM
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Originally posted by Gracha:
You can't compare tarot reading to religion its very different. This is coming from a tarot reader...You don't even know him that well your result is already him refusing to tell you his birthday so i'm willing to bet he's semi labeled you as "weird". I'd be careful.
We've had plenty of interactions after that conversation and they've been fine. I'm not oblivious or pushy to the point I lack social grace. He's known I like astrology from the get go...I mentioned it in my interview and got hired! Astrology isn't that different from religion at all. It has it's own set of rules and rituals like any other belief system, no? This is also coming from a tarot reader who's been reading since she was 11. You're welcome to respond (if you want) but I am not planning on this thread turning into a heated discussion about religion or beliefs (this isn't just towards you but anyone who may be reading, thinking of commenting, etc.) IP: Logged |
Gracha
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posted December 01, 2015 12:31 AM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
We've had plenty of interactions after that conversation and they've been fine. I'm not oblivious or pushy to the point I lack social grace. He's known I like astrology from the get go...I mentioned it in my interview and got hired!Astrology isn't that different from religion at all. It has it's own set of rules and rituals like any other belief system, no? This is also coming from a tarot reader who's been reading since she was 11. You're welcome to respond (if you want) but I am not planning on this thread turning into a heated discussion about religion or beliefs (this isn't just towards you but anyone who may be reading, thinking of commenting, etc.)
And likewise I'm not into debating I'm just merely offering my opinion. This is a public forum after all so anyone is free to reply regardless of whether you intend responding or not. I've said what I had to say I just wanted to put my opinion out there. And since you'd like to go there comparing tarot reading to religion how'd you like if someone kept mentioning their faith like say their catholic religion randomly in an interview and other times while conversating with you. Just because you think it's okay to say etc etc doesn't mean everybody wants to hear it. Just my .02. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted December 01, 2015 12:49 AM
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And since you'd like to go there comparing tarot reading to religion how'd you like if someone kept mentioning their faith like say their catholic religion randomly in an interview and other times while conversating with you. Just because you think it's okay to say etc etc doesn't mean everybody wants to hear it. Just my .02.
You seem to be missing my point. This response seems like you got the impression I would like to walk around always talking about astrology and making everyone believe it right along with me. That's incorrect. I wish I simply had the freedom to bring it up however brief, and am just a bit annoyed tonight that I don't. Normally I do keep it to myself. I live in the Midwest so someone mentioning their faith in God isn't frowned upon actually. I don't believe in organized religions but I wouldn't (and don't) treat them like they're weird either, I think that's called 'tolerance'. IP: Logged |
maggie
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posted December 01, 2015 06:54 PM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
So it's been a long time since I've been close with Cancer people but I have one I want to be friends with now. Sometimes when I can tell he's annoyed at something, or it's the way he moves (very sharp and quick movements, almost like you'd expect an Aries) I shy away and keep to myself. This is awkward though, especially in a work environment. As an Aries, with another fire sign, I feel like I could just walk up and hear them vent and ease it but with this Cancer I don't know if I can do that. Do Cancers like to be bothered when they're upset like this? I don't think they were upset over anything I did but the fact we had unexpected things crop up at work. I'm not sure how to handle it other than avoiding the person but that seems rude too.
My Cancer ex is exactly the same way. Anyway, how I got him to ask me out is to send him caring texts. At work, whenever I see him does this (being annoyed, which he usually does), I'll text him or send him a short message over online messenger and ask him if everything's alright, or anything I can help, just show that you care about him in general. Hope this helps.
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hannaramaa
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posted December 01, 2015 07:32 PM
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My Cancer ex is exactly the same way. Anyway, how I got him to ask me out is to send him caring texts. At work, whenever I see him does this (being annoyed, which he usually does), I'll text him or send him a short message over online messenger and ask him if everything's alright, or anything I can help, just show that you care about him in general. Hope this helps.
That's actually a really good idea! It opens the door to communication without being nosy and direct like "What's wrong". I am always worrying that training me is part of his stress (not a big factor, but part of it regardless) because I'm only a month old at work. I will try this, but he will most likely just want me to finish my job. Thanks Maggie! IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted December 01, 2015 08:17 PM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I know what you mean, but it's hard to hide my interest only because a) I have a tarot card tattooed on my forearm, and b) I'm torn between shutting up about it or treating it normally. Like, Christians or Mormons or whoever is part of a "normal" religion can always mention God, but I'm weird for my beliefs? It's hypocritical and that annoys me.
I'm not saying you shouldn't bring it up at all, just wait until you get the information you want (birthday and time of birth). I have made the mistake of revealing my interest in astrology beforehand and then people didn't want to give that information.
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