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posted December 02, 2015 01:46 AM            

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posted December 02, 2015 06:27 AM            

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You don't attract them, you just keep saying "yes" to people you don't even really like. Why do you do that?

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posted December 02, 2015 08:31 AM            

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Hi there,

What are your Sun/Moon and Mars placements?

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posted December 02, 2015 10:01 AM            

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Besides the astrological aspects, to me it just sounds like a boundary issue, which venus in pisces could be related to, but as you take on your own self-worth and power, you'll learn to balance the venus sign with it's opposite sign - virgo and the power of discrimination in who YOU want to be in a relationship with.

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posted December 02, 2015 01:52 PM            

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posted December 02, 2015 02:28 PM            

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I'm not quite sure you understand the boundary issue. It is the ability to define your own boundaries and it should not be seen as a yes/no type of response. That's actually not the correct way to define a boundary.

Examples of response should have a wide range which could go from:

"I need more time to think about it"
"I need more time to get to know you"
"I appreciate spending time with you but I need my own space to separate myself otherwise I can lose my identity which is not healthy for me"
"I find your behavior to be unacceptable and wish you would stop"
"I have been in a relationship before where I made the wrong choices so I would like you to stop pressuring me"
"If you are demanding an answer right now, then I will say no because I don't believe I should have to give you one"

Based on your response, I would say that yes, you are attracting these men because you have not realized how venus in pisces, like my moon in pisces can overvalue the other persons opinions, ideas, thoughts and sacrifice their own for that they think they should do. Until you learn to have more faith in yourself (your defined ego identity), you will continue to attract these men who feel they can essentially bully you into a relationship.

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posted December 02, 2015 03:56 PM            

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posted December 02, 2015 06:18 PM            

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I dated a 'bad boy'when I was nineteen. And the reason I agreed to be his gf was he kept asking me to be his gf. At the same time there were some very good guys who liked me but never forced/tried to force me to be their gf. But I voluntarily said yes to the 'bad boy'. Had I wanted I could have avoided him. Instead I had five years of hell.
Later I realised few things.
1 . I wont date a guy just coz they asked me/almost compelled me. Nobody will force me to be anything that I dont want to be.
2.I will listen to my instincts. U know that small voice that tells u 'stay away from this'...
3.When I say NO, ppl shld know I mean it. Coz I mean it. Take my no and go away. Otherwise I will and I can get help.
4.If a man loves you, he will respect you enough to walk away.
5. You dont have to be a guy's choice. A guy can be your choice.
Now I'm a happily married woman... with the man of my dreams.
Just learn to say no. It works
If it doesnt call the cops on those men who refuse to hear your no.
Be safe.

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posted December 03, 2015 02:52 AM            

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