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Topic: Disechanted by Saturn Man :(
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HCtheQueenOfWands
Knowflake Posts: 100
From: Canada
Registered: Nov 2015
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posted December 14, 2015 12:49 PM
  
I went on my first date with Sat. man (I was dating him online all this time since Nov.)I thought he was tall like he said he was since he told me its been 3 years he last measured himself and told me he was 6 feet tall! He's still about 5'9 or 5'10!!!!  and I'm 5'6. Other than that I had a great time with him  I'm reading Evan Katz's blog to make myself feel better about being attracted to a short men. the article is called "Why Short Men Make Better Husbands". I've always had a preference for tall men, my last fiancé was when I was 15 to a tall Italian guy, about 6'5, living in NYC (I ran away there), and my last bf was 6'0 from Ottawa where I live now! His chart:
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margym0o
Knowflake Posts: 598
From: Canada
Registered: Jul 2014
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posted December 14, 2015 02:00 PM
To suggest that a man's height dictates his character (particularly if he'd make a good husband or not) is absolute nonsense. I've met a lot of cocky SOB's of all heights.If you have to convince yourself that dating a "short" (not actually that short) man is ok then do you both a favour and move on. If it's the misrepresentation you can't get past then that is a different story. A man I met online claimed to be a non-smoker and even tried to pass off as one until I started spending more time with him, and his friends. Then he was a "casual" smoker and it sort of de-escalated from there to him being a full blown smoker. Having pretty strong personal views on this subject you can imagine it was hard to for me to digest. Take it or leave it. IP: Logged |
HCtheQueenOfWands
Knowflake Posts: 100
From: Canada
Registered: Nov 2015
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posted December 14, 2015 02:09 PM
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Originally posted by margym0o:
To suggest that a man's height dictates his character (particularly if he'd make a good husband or not) is absolute nonsense. I've met a lot of cocky SOB's of all heights.If you have to convince yourself that dating a "short" (not actually that short) man is ok then do you both a favour and move on. If it's the misrepresentation you can't get past then that is a different story. A man I met online claimed to be a non-smoker and even tried to pass off as one until I started spending more time with him, and his friends. Then he was a "casual" smoker and it sort of de-escalated from there to him being a full blown smoker. Having pretty strong personal views on this subject you can imagine it was hard to for me to digest. Take it or leave it.
He's a great guy, but it's just that he lied to me about his height so I feel disenchanted rn. Plus my friend I called after the date tells me I need taller, odds are my parents wont like him either theyre just as superficial as I am. (mind you one of them is a Libra Venus/Merc opp Saturn/NN) IP: Logged |
DopGang
Knowflake Posts: 1464
From: The land of WP
Registered: Jun 2015
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posted December 14, 2015 05:18 PM
It's been my personal experience that men in the 5-10ish area tend to often lie about height and round up to 6-0. (Not all so I hope no one comes in getting all worked up about it)
So that said, I really don't see it as being a huge deal. It's a very superficial desire and therefore in my eyes you have to look at it as a superficial lie.
My wife is MUCH shorter than my ideal. I'm a pretty tall guy and liked tall women. It's a small thing and I don't really even notice anymore. It'd have been SUCH a shame to have wrote her off because of such things. IP: Logged |
PixieJane
Moderator Posts: 7383
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted December 14, 2015 07:34 PM
Did you actually measure him, or were you guestimatting? (It seems weird that you'd bring measuring tape on a first date to me.)Me, personally, I wouldn't be able to tell the difference between a couple of inches. And guys tend to pay less attention to things like the specifics of their measurements. If someone (himself or someone else) measured his height while he was wearing boots and had thick hair (which it may not have occurred to him to account for), then I could see a genuine mistake in measurement being made.
That said, you'd love my dad. He's over 6' tall. He'd also never lie to you...even when you wanted him to and called him a rude, insensitive lout for telling the truth, and getting even angrier when he reminds you how you say "only honesty will do" and all that (which he would, his incredible memory and intolerance to BS is just one of the reasons I'm sure he has some Scorpio in his chart). He's also openly about how looks and measurements in a woman is the primary consideration for him. 'Course he'd never marry you (after my mom, who was a model when they got married btw, he's vowed to never make that mistake again) but plenty of women seem to love throwing themselves at him (especially after he no longer had to pay child support to my mom so he could spend it on his women instead), though he's complained of more than one woman who was sure she could change his mind about his never marrying again (and getting upset as they learned Dad meant it).
ETA: just to be clear, I'm not putting down my dad (or you), I like it when people know exactly what they want and say it openly without a lot of BS. And though my dad was hard for me to grow up under (and I'm sure raising me was no picnic either), he was very entertaining for me to see him talk to other people so candidly and in plain terms. That Sag sun (wish I knew the rest of my dad's chart) was a match for my mother's Scorpio-Leo aspects. IP: Logged |
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