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Queen Salome
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posted December 24, 2015 05:40 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Queen Salome     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
For most of my life I have been loner. However, now I have strong urge to welcome a new people into my life. First of all, I want to gain a real friends who will understand me and support me. Secondly, I would like to meet a right man for me. I was in karmic relationship with two men before. One I thought it was perfect and it will last forever, second was devastating. Second one actually allowed to see that the first one was not that good and to break it. Now I realise that karmic relationships are not what I thought they should be. I'm kinda disappointed in people, but still need them. Is there a way to attract the right people into my life?
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hannaramaa
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posted December 24, 2015 05:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hannaramaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I found that being honest with myself about the peoole who were formerly part of my life, helped me make space for new ones. The last half of 2015 I ended with only two friends because I realized the rest were phonies. It wasn't really their fault because I'd been just as phony with them pretending I was still invested in friendships I'd grown out of. Then came cutting out people who used me for my generosity, and ultimately changing jobs because of the negativity at my old one.

Now I work at a job I love with people who are totally on my level (or above it - and really I try not to look at anyone as above or equal, but when I'm impressed, it happens.) who are ecclectic like myself with an assortment of lifestyles and talents, it's great.

What helps in attracting the right circumstances and people into your life is living in the present. Often times we get caught up in our imagination and wishful thinking, or having that argument with "that person" where we won in the end...that we aren't focused, on what's in front of us. It's draining to have your mind be one place and your body in another, and focusing on the present helps align the two thus your sending out "clear" energy to get what you're asking for. This is a jist of Eckhart Tolle's advice of course.

I said it before but really being honest is a huge factor. Not honest as in ethical, but authentic and genuine. Don't try and cover up that you're clumsy (only an example 😊 or that you love a certain weird kind of food, etc. These are the things that draw the people you want to you in general.

Hope I made sense, good luck!

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12muddy
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posted December 24, 2015 06:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for 12muddy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Treat yourself well, I think.

For me, it's less about "attracting" the right people, it's more like "knowing" who the right people are. So far, life has been a current. It brings in waves of "right" and "not so right" people. I hang around the "right" ones, and wave good-bye to the "not so right" ones.

I hope it helps.

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Faith
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posted December 24, 2015 07:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Faith     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
The energy you put out is the energy you receive back. More or less.

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misspriss
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posted December 24, 2015 09:04 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for misspriss     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by 12muddy:
Treat yourself well, I think.

For me, it's less about "attracting" the right people, it's more like "knowing" who the right people are. So far, life has been a current. It brings in waves of "right" and "not so right" people. I hang around the "right" ones, and wave good-bye to the "not so right" ones.

I hope it helps.


I agree with that.

I think when we say "attract the right people" what we are really saying is FEEL attraction for the right people.

When we feel an affinity to someone, I think it is for two possible reasons.

1. They remind us of the past, or of what we are familiar with, or they make us feel understood and familiar. Like an old pair of shoes.

2. They fill a void in us, or give us what we are missing in some ways.

So for example, I have a LOT of water in my chart and might be drawn to watery people because they feel like my kin.

Astrology aside, I have a very absent and emotionally distant father who's approval I have always fought for -so I can sometimes be drawn to emotionally unavailable men (this is a psychological game I tink we play trying to repeat history so we can fix it).

By the other side of things, the concept of opposites attracting can take over instead- and then we are drawn to those who posess what we lack. They can sometimes even balance us but of course, they might not understand us as well.

I think the key (and I battle this myself) is beginning to know yourself, and beginning to fill the voids of the past or the fears inside yourself so you are not drawn to people to fill some sort of void - but then instead you can instead be drawn to those who compliment you, who make you your very best self.

So you take time to know yourself.

To love yourself first.

To speak to your own inner child.

To fill your own inner void.

And then you will know what you need in a partner and will also have the confidence to find it.

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DopGang
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posted December 24, 2015 09:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for DopGang     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by 12muddy:
Treat yourself well, I think.

For me, it's less about "attracting" the right people, it's more like "knowing" who the right people are. So far, life has been a current. It brings in waves of "right" and "not so right" people. I hang around the "right" ones, and wave good-bye to the "not so right" ones.

I hope it helps.


Yep. Pretty much!

I'm just myself. I know what I like, don't like, what I expect of myself and others. Generally speaking, I know who fits and who doesn't. I try not to get too bent out of shape about those who don't fit. I fully accept that I won't like everyone, not everyone will like me and that it's perfectly ok.

I have a life that I want for myself and that's the life I'm shooting for.

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Aries23Degrees
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posted December 24, 2015 09:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aries23Degrees     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Queen Salome:
For most of my life I have been loner. However, now I have strong urge to welcome a new people into my life. First of all, I want to gain a real friends who will understand me and support me. Secondly, I would like to meet a right man for me. I was in karmic relationship with two men before. One I thought it was perfect and it will last forever, second was devastating. Second one actually allowed to see that the first one was not that good and to break it. Now I realise that karmic relationships are not what I thought they should be. I'm kinda disappointed in people, but still need them. Is there a way to attract the right people into my life?
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What is inspiring this chain of thought? Perhaps Saturn on Venus?

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PaulMcFly
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posted December 24, 2015 10:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for PaulMcFly     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
If you keep telling yourself you need others then you always will. Faith had it right, whatever you put out you WILL recieve back. Hannah did to with saying living in the now. You cannot let your thoughts destroy you. Your Moon sign is your unconscious reaction and inner response to the world. Your Sun is your conscious, whole, and individual mind.

I know I say a lot of negative crap on this site but im fully aware of it. I dont mind causing uproars. I like it. It promotes critical thinking. Just focus on what YOU want and you WILL achieve. I mean you have to BELIEVE you are nothing less than unstoppable. If you have trouble with this you will not recognize your full potential and the same predicaments will keep happening. Everyone on this eatth is a unique, special soul. But we all look to others for acceptance. I have been a loner most of my life but I can 100% say that I know WHO I am and HOW I come off. If I do everything in my power to keep peace I know I have nothing to be ashamed about. The first step to loving the world and succeding is to love yourself. And im not saying being overly confident, but relaxed and in control. That my friend is when you will find change. Its all in how you go about it. Yeah Kurt Cobain died, but hey now we have to Foo Fighters and a cesspool of inspired rockers. God makes no mistakes. Everyone on Earth has to deal with or if not worse instances. Happiness cannot be found because you are born with it. You have to learn to stay the young kid you always were.

Flowers sprout. Butterflies start out as worms.

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Queen Salome
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posted December 26, 2015 02:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Queen Salome     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
What is inspiring this chain of thought? Perhaps Saturn on Venus?

Maybe Venus transiting 7th house.
Maybe growing.

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NYCdodger
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posted December 26, 2015 03:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for NYCdodger     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Seeing, and understanding yourself is all you need.

Understanding is the ability to see the value in everything, STARTING with yourself. Everyone/thing is a reflection of you. So the more you are in tuned with who you TRULY are, then the more GENUINE people you will meet in your life whether it be friends, lovers, mentors etc..

The definition of a genuine understanding between two people is when you and someone else accepts and acknowledges each other for who are. You build each other's potential instead of breaking each other down with judgment.

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