posted January 24, 2016 10:37 AM            

Also if Saturn is part of a stellium?

posted January 24, 2016 02:32 PM            

Chapter Nine MARS
page 225 - excerpt/notes QUOTES

Mars is the ego-drive, the energy by which you sustain your sense of being an individual...

In a composite chart, Mars signifies your ability to create an environment within the relationship for both of you to express yourselves fully without threatening each other and provoking destructive conflicts.....
.... your ego drives must be basically compatible within the relationship, or nothing can be accomplished.
.... A successful sexual relationship requires that both Mars (ego-drive) and Venus (ability to relate) be in good condition.

Aspects--p. 235-36.
Composite Mars CONJUNCT Composite Saturn --
...quite difficult to deal with, especially in a personal relationship.
...blocked(Saturn) action(Mars).
...feelings of frustration and futility (because 'something' about being together simply does not allow you to express yourselves freely).
...each of you constantly getting in the way of the other's ego drives...
...in sexual relationship, one is hot while the other is cold.

"A long-term relationship can survive this problem, but you will have to learn to live with the situation of being out-of-phase with each other."

posted January 25, 2016 09:34 AM            

I'm in a relationship where we have the venus-mars-saturn-merc stellium. It's quite heavy saturn. But we haven't seen the "restricting" effects of it. All that it has done was it helped us stay together even during the difficult times, we look to love and care for the other instead of giving up and resorting to childish games. Not to mention, when we do fight we always come back to it later and talk about it over like adults. Everyone is given their time to speak and voice their opinions without the other person reacting to it negatively, we like to play fair in that sense. The understanding is also there once the anger in us have subsided. Not to mention, we have a very mysterious intuitive relationship, saying and thinking of things at the same time. We both see each other being together for a very long time and this commitment is very clear to the both of us.

posted January 25, 2016 10:41 AM            

I had this with my ex-soumate in Leo, more or less on my ASC. The orb was wide but together they form the apex of numerous triangles.

Like so:

Please disregard angles and moon as I don't know his birth time.

We did have have that problem of not being in sync. Not at first, but as time went by (Saturn ) and I guess we accumulated baggage, and "if I do this, you'll do that, so I shouldn't do whatever..."

Hesitancy, lack of spontaneity, based on repeated failures to "gel" properly.

Still, I don't consider it a major problem, because even if one of us was more "on" than the other, more interested than the other at any given time, the other person was always interested. Varying degrees of more-or-less shared feelings. Never anything totally unrequited, til the end of course, but that's another story.

posted January 25, 2016 10:56 AM            

I ended it, but I think he sorta gave me no choice.

posted January 25, 2016 03:49 PM            

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posted January 25, 2016 05:36 PM            

Amazing composite! Especially if the moon forms a yod...or yods...with the Libra stellium and Neptune.

Could the 12H Venus be the problem?

posted January 25, 2016 09:12 PM            

Mars-Mercury-Pluto-Saturn...is that conjunct anything in your chart?