posted February 07, 2016 02:07 PM            

I have some communication quiz questions
You don't have to answer all of them..if you dont have the time..

1. If you have a romantic partner, do you talk to them every single day? If not.. then.. how often do you normally talk and for how long?

2. In the beginning stages of dating/getting to know each other.. i.e. first few months... do you talk everyday? Would this be your preference, or not - and why?

3. Other than romantic partners, do you have any close friends or family who you speak to daily, or extremely often? Please state how often and the length of time you usually spend communicating...

4. Would you get upset or offended if your sweetheart was not interested or simply unable (overworked etc) to speak to you every single day?

5. Would you be upset or offended if your partner does still communicate - but only briefly.. since they are busier than you are? So...for example.. they might still have long (3 hrs+) conversations with you.. but only occasionaly, or when you go out - not everyday!

6. Would you be offended by either 4 or 5 if it happened with a close friend or family member?

7. If you were generally busier on a daily basis than your partner is -would you still make an effort to change your schedule - and always include them?

8.^ This is a spin off on 7. If your partner was going through a tougher time than usual (eg found out recently parent is extremely ill) and told you that talking to you every day was the highlight of their existence -- would you then make an effort to constantly talk to them (despite all of your other commitments)?

9. If you, yourself, were going through a difficult time - would you be more likely to need space and want to be alone - or, alternatively - would you have a desire to be showered in affection by your partner or close ones?

10. If a lot of things were very positive about your relationship.. many many things.. other than the fact that your partner seemed a bit more emotionally needy than you are...would this ever be a dealbreaker?

11. If you and your partner couldnt be happy with the time you spend with each other (as in - one person wants to spend more time together and they feel neglected) - would this be a dealbreaker? - Regardless of which side you are on.
Lets say this ^ is not something you can agree to disagree on, since you've already tried to discuss it, and it never goes anywhere.

12. Are you of the belief/opinion..that if a partner does not bend over backwards for you and give you their undivided attention - it must mean that "they are not that into you"?

13. Are you of the opposite opinion that.. if a person was truly into you and cared about you - they would be supportive of your life and interests as an individual - rather than constantly attention seeking?

posted February 07, 2016 03:11 PM            

That's a lot of questions, lol.

But here goes...

1. Every day, through rather sparse texts.

2. Yes, every day. Not necessarily for long, and not on the phone (I don't feel comfortable with phone conversations... although I'd like to change that.)

3. Nope, I don't speak to the same person daily unless they're my SO, or unless I'm in a very bad phase and need someone to talk to (in that case I usually talk to one or a few people online, but only for that period of time).

4. Yes, I would be upset.

5. I would be rather upset, but try to understand and accept their position.

6. Nope, I wouldn't be offended/upset.

7. I would still make an effort if it were important to them, yes.

8. I would try to make an effort, but I believe I would become very drained because I don't like having people depend on me emotionally.

9. Tough one... I'm not sure. I think I'd rather be alone and brood/wallow, at least on a surface level. But secretly I'd need to be showered with affection and "nurtured", especially by a SO. I have a way of sending mixed signals. "Leave me alone, show me that you care" (Moon/Saturn conflict).

10. They would have to change asap, because I can't stand emotional neediness in others (although I can be needy myself). It's a double standard but I can't help it. They have to understand they can't depend on me with emotional stuff much (that is also something I'd like to work on, but a part of me just doesn't want to change).

11. Perhaps not a complete deal-breaker, but it'd be difficult to deal with, for sure. I would try to adapt to the situation as best I can. I'd rather be the one who has the "upper hand" in this case, however.

12. Subconsciously, yes. Consciously, no. I realize it's essential for a person to have their own life/interests apart from the relationship, but I do get triggered when they do their own thing (fear of separation/abandonment, them losing interest, etc). If they're giving me too much attention however, I'll see them as too desperate/clingy and that's a turn-off. I have yet to find a healthy balance to this dynamic (how much space is too much/too little?)

13. Again, I am divided on this. Consciously I would say yes, they would support/respect me and my interests, and my need for freedom/space. Subconsciously I think that I interpret that as a lack of attachment/care/love. (I have boundary issues and am used to associating love with boundary infringement... so when there isn't any, it feels like something is wrong, like there isn't enough love or attachment. Although I quickly realize, when it happens, that it isn't actually love but an unhealthy form of attachment.)

--- Mercury Rx in 6H, Scorpio (conj. Sun)
--- Venus in 6H, Libra (conj. Jupiter, trine Saturn)
--- Moon in 5H, square ASC/DSC, opposite Saturn, square Pluto, sextile Venus

posted February 07, 2016 04:24 PM            

1. Yes we talk almost every day. When we engage a subject we can go for hours.
2. I didn't give him much attention for the first 2 weeks(when I meet him) but when I did, we talked everyday. I liked it.
3. I can't answer this properly because lately I'm retiring from people I found out recently a transit in my chart that's doing this, I noticed the effect of it on Decemeber 2015(without knowing about the transit) and I still feel it. I don't remember but I think it's Saturn.
4. Not so much. I enjoy being by myself.
5. Nope.
6. If I had a close friend then yes, a bit.
7. Yes but it depends on how good our relationship is. Me and my partner fight a lot so I don't enjoy too much the time I have with him.
8. Yes.
9. Being alone.
10. I don't think so. Maybe because I'm used to it. He's a Cancer Sun
11. Ohhhhh I've been there. I was the one wanting to spend more time with him now it's the opposite (he complains that I'm too cold and distant). Tried to discuss and never went anywhere. I remember this and feel angry. There was a time when he wasn't giving me much attention. Now I couldn't care less. I prefer being by myself than with him, I have more fun like this. Our relationship isn't all bad I'm just more detached now and see him more like a friend. This doesn't make me the happiest. I'd like to have a deep connection with the one I'm with but not with him.
12. Sort of. I think it's important to have your own life, family, friends etc but if the person is not giving me full attention then I feel a bit threatened by the person who's receving it. I don't know how to answer this, ahah.
13. Don't know how to answer this either. I don't want to be with someone who doesn't support me...

Ok I'll mention what's relevant for me.

Mercury in the 5th house, Sagittarius (sextile Jupiter exact, there are other aspects but I don't think they're too much important)
Venus in the 6th house, Aquarius (wide conj Sun, square Moon, wide conj Mars, conj Uranus, conj Neptune, conj Descendant, wide trine MC) I'm considering aspects with wide orb because Venus is a dominant planet in my chart.

Ruler(Mercury) of the 2nd and 11th houses in the 5th.
Ruler(Uranus) of the 7th in the 7th.
Ruler(Venus) of the 3rd and 10th houses in the 6th.
Ruler(Jupiter) of the 5th house in the 7th.
Ruler(Mars) of the 9th house in the 7th.

posted February 07, 2016 05:15 PM            

quote:

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4. Would you get upset or offended if your sweetheart was not interested or simply unable (overworked etc) to speak to you every single day?

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Not interested in talking every day?

They wouldn't be my sweetheart.

11H Gemini Mars, Gemini Ceres
5H Sag Venus sextile Aqua Mercury
Leo rising

ETA:

posted February 07, 2016 07:56 PM            

It depends, I don't have to talk every day.

Oh Idk, sometimes we don't talk, sometimes we talk for hours.

2. In the beginning stages of dating/getting to know each other.. i.e. first few months... do you talk everyday? Would this be your preference, or not - and why?

No. We lived in different countries at the time, it wasn't possible to talk every day.

Hmm yeah, I suppose, I like talking to him. Well when we first talked, we talked for more than 18 hours straight, so... Although "every day" seems excessive. We've never talked everyday over a long period of time, I've never had that with anyone. So Idk if I'd like that.

3. Other than romantic partners, do you have any close friends or family who you speak to daily, or extremely often? Please state how often and the length of time you usually spend communicating...

No. Even with my best friends, we used to go for years without talking. We left messages though. I think there has only been a few times when I "talked" for 1, 2 hours with people other than my s.o (not counting business disscussion/work and study related). I've spent hours "listening" to other people though.

Usually the desire to have long talks doesn't cross my mind. With my s.o, conversations just flow and get long naturally, not that I "think" I have to talk to him.

4. Would you get upset or offended if your sweetheart was not interested or simply unable (overworked etc) to speak to you every single day?

No. I know he likes talking to me, so if he can't, it's because he's unable to do so -getting mad because of this doesn't seem reasonable to me. He wouldn't be my "sweetheart" in the first place if he wasn't interested in talking to me.

Again, "every day" seems excessive. Especially when I think of my relationship. Talking every day for years would feel a bit too much. But I've never had that, so Idk. I did fine when we lived apart. No need for frequent communication of any form. Well even when we live together, there was a period of time when our schedule clashed and we didn't get to talk. Or like now, sometimes there are days we don't talk.

Actually, now that I think about it, I think I won't like having to talk every day. Consider the way I often get engrossed in doing things, sometimes I go for a few days without sleeping, or sometimes I forget to eat -> it is easy to see why talking isn't always among my top priorities, although it's not because of a lack of interest.

I'd feel bugged if I were expected to stop, in favor of talking. So I don't expect or want my s.o to do that.

5. Would you be upset or offended if your partner does still communicate - but only briefly.. since they are busier than you are? So...for example.. they might still have long (3 hrs+) conversations with you.. but only occasionaly, or when you go out - not everyday!

No.

I'll communicate in other ways. Leaving notes and stuff. When my s.o and I had to live apart, that was what I did. We went for months without having time to talk, and poor thing once called me when he was dead tired "because I want to hear your voice" - he said. I didn't want him to exert himself that way. So I started to leave him voice mails and short video messages

6. Would you be offended by either 4 or 5 if it happened with a close friend or family member?

No.

7. If you were generally busier on a daily basis than your partner is -would you still make an effort to change your schedule - and always include them?

Yes. I'd try but it doesn't guarantee that I'd always have time for them.

8.^ This is a spin off on 7. If your partner was going through a tougher time than usual (eg found out recently parent is extremely ill) and told you that talking to you every day was the highlight of their existence -- would you then make an effort to constantly talk to them (despite all of your other commitments)?

Yes. At least I'd try.

9. If you, yourself, were going through a difficult time - would you be more likely to need space and want to be alone - or, alternatively - would you have a desire to be showered in affection by your partner or close ones?

It depends on the issue I have. Sometimes I like to be alone, sometimes I don't.

10. If a lot of things were very positive about your relationship.. many many things.. other than the fact that your partner seemed a bit more emotionally needy than you are...would this ever be a dealbreaker?

It'd make me wary. I don't like leaving my partner feeling emotionally unsatisfied, it'll lead to problems later on. If I find myself unable to meet their demands, I'll break up. Better that way than to keep them in an unhappy cycle.

11. If you and your partner couldnt be happy with the time you spend with each other (as in - one person wants to spend more time together and they feel neglected) - would this be a dealbreaker? - Regardless of which side you are on.
Lets say this ^ is not something you can agree to disagree on, since you've already tried to discuss it, and it never goes anywhere.

Yes. Deal breaker. Simply just not compatible and can't find common ground.

12. Are you of the belief/opinion..that if a partner does not bend over backwards for you and give you their undivided attention - it must mean that "they are not that into you"?

No. I find these beliefs a turn-off. If someones expects this of me I'll feel insulted.

13. Are you of the opposite opinion that.. if a person was truly into you and cared about you - they would be supportive of your life and interests as an individual - rather than constantly attention seeking?

Yes.

In a relationship, I like to merge my life with that of my partner's, but it doesn't mean we have to dissolve ourselves. I like there to be common grounds/shared interests/values, and also space for us to do our own things.

Please post your Venus/Mercury placement.. house and aspects, and anything else you deem relevant!
Thank you

12th house cap venus conj saturn/asc/uranus/neptune, square moon. 12th house sag mercury conj sun and widely conjunct uranus.

posted February 07, 2016 08:26 PM            

2. I enjoy talking everyday. Physically need my space but love to be connected somehow.

3. Noy really

4. Yeah or I'd get paranoid.

5. I'm always thinking of them so I can't help but share a lot with them so I'd hope they'd feel the same.

6. Damn I guess not as much.

7. Only if it doesn't mess with my flow. I spend most of my days off with my bf though.

8. If I were busy working than I would make more of an effort to check up on them but nothing too crazy.

9. I usually like to be alone when upset because its difficult for me to just get my mind off something.

10. Overly needy from the beginning is a big turnoff for me.

11. If a problem can't be fixed after the second or third time than for sure.

12. Normally I would think this but I've evolved enough to understand that this isn't always the case. I just bend backwards too far sometimes expecting everyone to do the same.

13.

-Sag Venus conjunct Cap Saturn/Uranus 8H
-Mercury square Pluto
-Aqua Moon square Jupiter

posted February 07, 2016 10:08 PM            

Yes, generally speaking, but then we live together. When events pull us apart so that we can't talk (not even email) then there is no distress, at least not on my part.

2. In the beginning stages of dating/getting to know each other.. i.e. first few months... do you talk everyday? Would this be your preference, or not - and why?

Generally, no, and it would not be my preference. This could be my 6H Cappie Lilith that likes to take things slow and careful (and in Cap, it has Saturnine influences, with my Saturn in Libra with my Venus), though I'm not sure what I think of asteroid astrology.

3. Other than romantic partners, do you have any close friends or family who you speak to daily, or extremely often? Please state how often and the length of time you usually spend communicating...

When around family, then daily, but I'm over a thousand miles away from relatives (something which I'm grateful for at times, and I think it helps me love and appreciate them more).

My BFF isn't daily, but that has to do more with conflicting schedules. We typically spend at least an hour together (if possible) when we get together, and sometimes several hours. We can be comfortable with silence together, and conversations can be surreal.

Another friend (and ex-lover) is off and on. She has become depressed (and, IMO not hers, an alcoholic) over the years and I worry about her, and given our closeness that gets me to seek out her company more often than I otherwise would. However, if we hadn't been so close in the past then I'd have probably distanced myself from her.

I email quite a few people frequently, sometimes making me worried that I'm annoying them, though even that's not daily, nor do I get upset if it takes a long time to get a reply. (Sheesh, that reminds me, there are some emails I'm more than a month behind on! I've got too many! Partially, that's because I pay attention to every word rather just give a skim and short reply which slows me down by a lot, but a superficial exchange would seem pointless to me, though I'm usually fine with just jokes and "this seems relevant to your interests" emails.)

4. Would you get upset or offended if your sweetheart was not interested or simply unable (overworked etc) to speak to you every single day?

Not at all.

5. Would you be upset or offended if your partner does still communicate - but only briefly.. since they are busier than you are? So...for example.. they might still have long (3 hrs+) conversations with you.. but only occasionaly, or when you go out - not everyday!

Nope, I have to do this in my current relationship, and it's not a problem. I've got plenty to do on my own, plus hobbies, reading, research, and the like.

Granted, if this was chronic over a long period of time, I'd question if we our relationship was close or merely convenient to the both of us.

6. Would you be offended by either 4 or 5 if it happened with a close friend or family member?

Nope

7. If you were generally busier on a daily basis than your partner is -would you still make an effort to change your schedule - and always include them?

Generally, yes. But I don't like that word "always."

8.^ This is a spin off on 7. If your partner was going through a tougher time than usual (eg found out recently parent is extremely ill) and told you that talking to you every day was the highlight of their existence -- would you then make an effort to constantly talk to them (despite all of your other commitments)?

Yes, though I'm wondering just how literal that "always" is. Just to be clear, I'll say I'd take a lot more effort to do so. And I do recognize that there are times when people need more attention or reassurance, and I'm fine with that as long as it's not constant or done with cruel games (threatening suicide, for example).

9. If you, yourself, were going through a difficult time - would you be more likely to need space and want to be alone - or, alternatively - would you have a desire to be showered in affection by your partner or close ones?

I generally prefer space, in part because I don't like to share my heavy burdens. Emphasis on "generally." There have been times I sought out advice and comfort, but these are the exceptions.

10. If a lot of things were very positive about your relationship.. many many things.. other than the fact that your partner seemed a bit more emotionally needy than you are...would this ever be a dealbreaker?

No. I have my limits, but I realize some need more than others, and I try to give others what they need and am pretty adaptable that way...within reason.

11. If you and your partner couldnt be happy with the time you spend with each other (as in - one person wants to spend more time together and they feel neglected) - would this be a dealbreaker? - Regardless of which side you are on.
Lets say this ^ is not something you can agree to disagree on, since you've already tried to discuss it, and it never goes anywhere.

If one of us MUST be unhappy, then I don't see how that can't ultimately make both unhappy in the long run, so yes, it would be a deal breaker.

12. Are you of the belief/opinion..that if a partner does not bend over backwards for you and give you their undivided attention - it must mean that "they are not that into you"?

No. It means they have a life, are more interesting because of it, and won't suffocate me.

That said, I consider it rude when people casually text (even just to check it, though I'll make exceptions for emergencies) while talking to me. (If we're not talking at that exact time, then that's different, generally speaking.)

13. Are you of the opposite opinion that.. if a person was truly into you and cared about you - they would be supportive of your life and interests as an individual - rather than constantly attention seeking?

Pretty much.

But then I wasn't raised to believe that the ultimate purpose of my life was to find someone to orbit (with all else just "accessories and hobbies" so to speak). I imagine if I was raised on the romance genre rather than scifi then I'd be different. I have my reasons why I've come to believe this, and it took me many years to come to that conclusion.

posted February 07, 2016 11:46 PM            

It's been a while...if memory serves me right, as much as possible, but within reason. I don't believe in harassing people while there at work or busy.

[b]2. In the beginning stages of dating/getting to know each other.. i.e. first few months... do you talk everyday? Would this be your preference, or not - and why?[\b]

Everyday, even if it's just to catch up on recent events. Not talking everyday would seem more like a friendship and would probably start to feel that way, too.

[b]3. Other than romantic partners, do you have any close friends or family who you speak to daily, or extremely often? Please state how often and the length of time you usually spend communicating...[\b]

I'm close to my mom. During college, we talked anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour each day over the phone.

[b]4. Would you get upset or offended if your sweetheart was not interested or simply unable (overworked etc) to speak to you every single day?[\b]

There's variables to this. Did he tell me that it was going to be a busy day/week/whatever (if so, then I'm fine with it). If some major project or a lot of work landed in his lap, I would probably still be okay with it. Work and family obligations are generally fine.

But if he's flat-out not interested in communicating with me each day? Then I'm probably not interested in him.

[b]5. Would you be upset or offended if your partner does still communicate - but only briefly.. since they are busier than you are? So...for example.. they might still have long (3 hrs+) conversations with you.. but only occasionaly, or when you go out - not everyday![\b]

I would rather have brief interactions (texts, phone calls, face-to-face) throughout the day than a 3 hr phonecalls every couple of days. I start to think that something is wrong or that I'm a fool if I have to wait that long. There has to be a form of frequent communication for a successful relationship to evolve.

[b]6. Would you be offended by either 4 or 5 if it happened with a close friend or family member?[\b]

No...I know them very well. I most likely know what they're up to and why communication has been delayed.

[b]7. If you were generally busier on a daily basis than your partner is -would you still make an effort to change your schedule - and always include them?[\b]

I would certainly try. If I couldn't cangmy schedule then I would relay on other forms of communication (sending an them an email during my lunch break, or using that opportunity to reply to their texts, for example).

[b]8.^ This is a spin off on 7. If your partner was going through a tougher time than usual (eg found out recently parent is extremely ill) and told you that talking to you every day was the highlight of their existence -- would you then make an effort to constantly talk to them (despite all of your other commitments)?[\b]

Absolutely. I would make time.

[b]9. If you, yourself, were going through a difficult time - would you be more likely to need space and want to be alone - or, alternatively - would you have a desire to be showered in affection by your partner or close ones?[\b]

Some time alone is okay, but time with another person is good too - a mix of both.

[b]10. If a lot of things were very positive about your relationship.. many many things.. other than the fact that your partner seemed a bit more emotionally needy than you are...would this ever be a dealbreaker?[\b]

I think almost every partner I've very dated has been more emotionally needy than I am. No, its not deal breaker.

[b]11. If you and your partner couldnt be happy with the time you spend with each other (as in - one person wants to spend more time together and they feel neglected) - would this be a dealbreaker? - Regardless of which side you are on.
Lets say this ^ is not something you can agree to disagree on, since you've already tried to discuss it, and it never goes anywhere.[\b]

Whichever side I'm on, I would likely fold.

[b]12. Are you of the belief/opinion..that if a partner does not bend over backwards for you and give you their undivided attention - it must mean that "they are not that into you"?[\b]

No.
[b]13. Are you of the opposite opinion that.. if a person was truly into you and cared about you - they would be supportive of your life and interests as an individual - rather than constantly attention seeking?[\b]

Generally yes. Although I will say that I'm prone to making crappy decisions from time to time...so I do appreciate a partner who will call me out on that, even if everyone else disagrees with them or interprets their words differently.

Sun in Virgo/7th house
Mercury in Virgo/7th house conjunct Venus in Virgo/6th house
Moon and Mars in Gemini/3rd house
Venus square Mars
Pisces ASC

posted February 08, 2016 10:50 AM            

In a nutshell, no, I don't have to talk to my partner everyday. (We don't live together). Yes, I like my space and respect that need in him. Yes, if he's having a hard time, I'm more attentive (although that can sometimes mean giving him more, not less, space). It can go either way when I'm having a hard time, but my initial response is usually alone time.

The concept of specific "dealbreakers" (with a few very serious exceptions) is foreign (and sounds petty) to me. I'd like to think I look at the "big picture." That is more and more the case as I get older.

There are many ways to communicate; I'm more in to the quality and depth of the communication than the quantity or frequency.

Lib Sun, Pis Moon, Sag ASC, Vir Venus/Mercury/Saturn conjunction.

posted February 08, 2016 01:09 PM            

First big hug !
No. What if they told you that this relationship might be hurting them as well with lots of Stomach ache, back ache, head ache and heart ache. They might know that you are in pain but also can not help you. Sometimes few things have to be dealt by person itself to become stronger emotionally.
Be sure that things are happening according to
8th - Karma.
Not all disease are terminal. Prayers !Death is inevitable sometime and even then.

posted February 08, 2016 03:57 PM            

I'm only able to answer some of these...

1. I need communication daily. Can be as simple as "hi" or "bye"...simple but meaningful is key here for me.

2. I prefer face to face. Even if it's brief, I would like some consistency. This does not mean everyday, but that I know I will talk to you again, somehow. I like phone calls when I know you better, and texts when I know you even better than that.

3. Yes for both. I am usually not the initiator and my answers are sporadic also. People that are close to me like that know or try to know that I don't respond sometimes and it's nothing personal. When there is a need to talk bigger than mundane; I will always answer/respond. Always.

4. Yes.If it's legitimate I will get over, though(such as work). If there is no reason why -then I don't see why there is no reason to even just greet to show something. If I know you're going through something personal I will not push, but I will leave room to talk if needed whenever, if even never. Sometimes words are too much.

9. I would like to be around people mostly at first, then disappear. If it's someone extremely close to me then I would tolerate being around them more than others, but I would still need space at some points.

10. If it is a healthy need and we are on the same level I would welcome it here and there.

11/12. I give what I get and vice versa. I'm willing to give what I need/want and I don't want any more, nor less. I like what is natural giving and not imposed or fake. So if someone is bending over backwards but still true to themselves with it- I'll take it.

Mercury: Aries Retro. Venus: Aries.

posted February 08, 2016 04:46 PM            

2. In the beginning stages of dating/getting to know each other.. i.e. first few months... do you talk everyday? Would this be your preference, or not - and why?
Refer to above question. I show my interest through communicating with my other. I'm sharing what I find interesting as well as making small talk. However if I feel like I'm getting on his nerves, I'll slow the pace. I can get too enthusiast for my own good when it comes to getting attention or giving it.

3. Other than romantic partners, do you have any close friends or family who you speak to daily, or extremely often? Please state how often and the length of time you usually spend communicating...
Nowadays I'm more isolated, but I have two people I'm talking to.
It's non stop chatting. Sometimes there can be an hour before reply, but there will ALWAYS be a conversation going on, waiting a reply from one of the other. There's never really a stop to our conversation, there's always someone to share something and it's never truly stopping.
Sometimes the pace is faster, other time it's slower, but there's always, always! a reply needed.

4. Would you get upset or offended if your sweetheart was not interested or simply unable (overworked etc) to speak to you every single day?
I'd get upset if it happened for too long. I need to talk and share my thoughts to those who are important, and I like getting feedback from them, too.

5. Would you be upset or offended if your partner does still communicate - but only briefly.. since they are busier than you are? So...for example.. they might still have long (3 hrs+) conversations with you.. but only occasionaly, or when you go out - not everyday!
I'm more of a small, constant chattering, even if it's just a word, than lengthy conversation time.
I like lengthy conversation, but I'm so busy myself that I like more having continuous conversation even if there's two hours between replies.

6. Would you be offended by either 4 or 5 if it happened with a close friend or family member?
No, I can go days without without speaking to my friends and just as long without having lengthy, meaningful conversation with my family.

7. If you were generally busier on a daily basis than your partner is -would you still make an effort to change your schedule - and always include them?
Yes, definitely.

8.^ This is a spin off on 7. If your partner was going through a tougher time than usual (eg found out recently parent is extremely ill) and told you that talking to you every day was the highlight of their existence -- would you then make an effort to constantly talk to them (despite all of your other commitments)?
Yes

9. If you, yourself, were going through a difficult time - would you be more likely to need space and want to be alone - or, alternatively - would you have a desire to be showered in affection by your partner or close ones?
I'd need to be alone and have my space.

10. If a lot of things were very positive about your relationship.. many many things.. other than the fact that your partner seemed a bit more emotionally needy than you are...would this ever be a dealbreaker?
Yes. I do not do "emotional need". It just makes me physically uncomfortable.

11. If you and your partner couldnt be happy with the time you spend with each other (as in - one person wants to spend more time together and they feel neglected) - would this be a dealbreaker? - Regardless of which side you are on.
Lets say this ^ is not something you can agree to disagree on, since you've already tried to discuss it, and it never goes anywhere.
Probably in the long term. What's the point of keeping a relationship if one or the other feels neglected?

12. Are you of the belief/opinion..that if a partner does not bend over backwards for you and give you their undivided attention - it must mean that "they are not that into you"?
I love being the center of attention, I love being treated like I'm a queen. And I'll show the exact same treatment to my partner if he does the same. But to the point of bending over backward? I don't know... It must be natural, not forced or provoked.

13. Are you of the opposite opinion that.. if a person was truly into you and cared about you - they would be supportive of your life and interests as an individual - rather than constantly attention seeking?
Either I didn't understand properly the question, or I simply disagree. But I don't see both of them conflicting.
I can seek attention from my partner while supporting him and his goals? Just like he can do the same. The point, here, is getting a balance between support that push away and seeking attention that constrict...