posted February 07, 2016 02:41 PM            

Please state your Moon placement, house position and aspects.

Thank you for taking the time to answer this

1. If you felt your partner or person you were dating - was not giving you as much attention as you would like (not always answering calls right away, occasionally cutting conversations short, not always being available to see you etc.) - would you instantly interpret this as something negative: e.g. that they are playing games with your emotions... or playing hard to get... or, simply not interested/not that into you?

2. In the same scenario ^ would you first have an open conversation about your partner or date's behaviour - or would you instantly jump to a negative conclusion?

3.Once you do reach a point where you DO interpret the behaviour in a negative light (e.g. in your head, you are positive they are toying with your emotions and not very serious about you) - what do you do at this stage?

a) You confront them directly regarding their behaviour... and ask clarificatory questions.

b) You start brooding, feeling sorry for yourself, become passive-aggressive towards them...and try to manipulate them into giving you more attention (basically playing games back, in your own style)

c) Give them the cold shoulder for some time, so they get a taste of their own medicine.

d) Figure that you are obviously incompatible with this person, they are simply not interested enough - so, you drop them - and move right along. Next!

4. If you are on the other side of this - and someone perceives YOU to be playing games with them or to be disinterested (when in reality nothing could be further from the truth, and this is all the workings of their imagination)... which approach from -a, b, c, d above would you prefer them to take in dealing with the situation?

5. ^ If their approach was either b) or c)... thats to say: they convinced themselves you are playing with their head, and they are now being weird in their attitude towards you... would you break up with them? Or.. discuss it with them? Or..become passive-aggressive yourself (if someone wins this match, its going to be you God dammit)?

posted February 07, 2016 03:08 PM            

2. Probably both lol.

3. I would probably have done all of them hehe.

4. I would have preferred them to ask me.

posted February 07, 2016 03:16 PM            

1. I'd think they're not interested and would ask them what's going on.
2. I'd jump to the negative conclusion but keep it to myself until we have the conversation (Probably I'd never tell them these negative thoughts).
3. First letter A and then if everything remained the same thing I'd act like letter C. I'd get bored eventually and then act like letter B. Lastly letter D because I don't deserve being treated like this for much longer without a reason (can't say I haven't tried to make up with the person).
4. Letter B.
5. I'd ask the person the reason for their weird behavior.

posted February 07, 2016 03:26 PM            

2. First, I would jump to a negative conclusion. Then I would rationalize my reaction and their behavior and most probably let it pass. But if the behavior goes on for a few days or more, I will try to initiate a conversation with them.

3. My most natural instinct would be to either give them the cold shoulder, start toying with them back, or cut them off. BUT I am learning not to do any of this because it's caused some very negative experiences in the past based on false assumptions. So nowadays I would try my best to just talk to them about it.

4. I'd definitely rather they told me about it directly, and not in an accusatory way. Just state their feelings and ask for clarification.

5. Depends on how much I care about them... But generally I would just tell them they're acting like a d!ck and I don't want to put up with that. I wouldn't engage in the mind games, not anymore (could have been true some time ago though).

posted February 07, 2016 03:49 PM            

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If you felt your partner or person you were dating - was not giving you as much attention as you would like (not always answering calls right away, occasionally cutting conversations short, not always being available to see you etc.) - would you instantly interpret this as something negative: e.g. that they are playing games with your emotions... or playing hard to get... or, simply not interested/not that into you?

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No, I wouldn't interpret it as negative right away. Probably it would make me a bit more persistent. So perhaps I'd view it as playing hard to get.

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In the same scenario ^ would you first have an open conversation about your partner or date's behaviour - or would you instantly jump to a negative conclusion?

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I would probably jump to a negative conclusion before I risk an open conversation about their behavior.

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Once you do reach a point where you DO interpret the behaviour in a negative light (e.g. in your head, you are positive they are toying with your emotions and not very serious about you) - what do you do at this stage?

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If it's a partner I'd rip them to shreds verbally, shed my tears, then move on. If it's a date I'd drop 'em, and move right along. Next!

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4. If you are on the other side of this - and someone perceives YOU to be playing games with them or to be disinterested (when in reality nothing could be further from the truth, and this is all the workings of their imagination)... which approach from -a, b, c, d above would you prefer them to take in dealing with the situation?

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C.

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^ If their approach was either b) or c)... thats to say: they convinced themselves you are playing with their head, and they are now being weird in their attitude towards you... would you break up with them? Or.. discuss it with them? Or..become passive-aggressive yourself (if someone wins this match, its going to be you God dammit)?

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Awww. I'd find it endearing, and try to talk things through.

posted February 07, 2016 04:54 PM            

18 Pisces moon, 8H
15 Cap sun, 6H
16 Gemini Mars, 11H
12 Sag Neptune, 5H

1. If you felt your partner or person you were dating - was not giving you as much attention as you would like (not always answering calls right away, occasionally cutting conversations short, not always being available to see you etc.) - would you instantly interpret this as something negative: e.g. that they are playing games with your emotions... or playing hard to get... or, simply not interested/not that into you?

" (not always answering calls right away, occasionally cutting conversations short, not always being available to see you etc.)"

^^ It all depends on how severe this is, and how these issues tie in with the whole picture.

2. In the same scenario ^ would you first have an open conversation about your partner or date's behaviour - or would you instantly jump to a negative conclusion?

Well, if I'm hoping for more than they are willing or able to give, what's there to say? It's not really negative, it's just...not working.

3.Once you do reach a point where you DO interpret the behaviour in a negative light (e.g. in your head, you are positive they are toying with your emotions and not very serious about you) - what do you do at this stage?

D, but not with that same feeling.

Not with a feeling of haughtiness.

4. If you are on the other side of this - and someone perceives YOU to be playing games with them or to be disinterested (when in reality nothing could be further from the truth, and this is all the workings of their imagination)... which approach from -a, b, c, d above would you prefer them to take in dealing with the situation?

A

5. ^ If their approach was either b) or c)... thats to say: they convinced themselves you are playing with theur head, and they are now being weird in their attitude towards you... would you break up with them? Or.. discuss it with them? Or..become passive-aggressive yourself (if someone wins this match, its going to be you God dammit)?

Not sure.

posted February 07, 2016 06:59 PM            

3rd house aries moon, square venus/neptune/saturn/uranus/asc, trine jupiter.

1. If you felt your partner or person you were dating - was not giving you as much attention as you would like (not always answering calls right away, occasionally cutting conversations short, not always being available to see you etc.) - would you instantly interpret this as something negative: e.g. that they are playing games with your emotions... or playing hard to get... or, simply not interested/not that into you?

No. There can be a lot going on in a person's life. So I'll just assume that they're doing their things.

I'll feel unhappy if s.t really bad happens and I need their presence/help/etc.. and they blow me off. Sure, if they have legit reasons, I'll understand.

2. In the same scenario ^ would you first have an open conversation about your partner or date's behaviour - or would you instantly jump to a negative conclusion?

Talk first.

3.Once you do reach a point where you DO interpret the behaviour in a negative light (e.g. in your head, you are positive they are toying with your emotions and not very serious about you) - what do you do at this stage?

Tell them exactly what's going on in my head. Give them apiece of my mind and see how they answer/response.

a) You confront them directly regarding their behaviour... and ask clarificatory questions.

Yep.

d) Figure that you are obviously incompatible with this person, they are simply not interested enough - so, you drop them - and move right along. Next!

Yes, if even after talking it out we still can't find common ground and reach an understanding.

4. If you are on the other side of this - and someone perceives YOU to be playing games with them or to be disinterested (when in reality nothing could be further from the truth, and this is all the workings of their imagination)... which approach from -a, b, c, d above would you prefer them to take in dealing with the situation?

I'll give an explanation. Oh but it depends. If I review my behavior and see no faults, I'll either tell them to cool it, or cut it off - especially if the other person jump the gun and start accusing me. If they want to accuse me, they need solid proof - their "feelings" alone aren't enough for me.

This applies to all of my inter-personal connections.

5. ^ If their approach was either b) or c)... thats to say: they convinced themselves you are playing with their head, and they are now being weird in their attitude towards you... would you break up with them? Or.. discuss it with them? Or..become passive-aggressive yourself (if someone wins this match, its going to be you God dammit)?

posted February 07, 2016 07:07 PM            

I would ideally like they be available when I want them in the beginning of relationship. Purely because it helps building trust. But it is also whether how secure both of them feel in the relationship. However it can be people have different priorities like there can be a Man who is spending all his time going to football matches and being with his friends. OR Woman taking care of her kids clearly Romance isn't top priority for them on that time.


2. In the same scenario ^ would you first have an open conversation about your partner or date's behaviour - or would you instantly jump to a negative conclusion?

I would have open conversation but also would listen to them like everybody has their preferences. Like I know myself I am in the midst of outsourcing most call to be contacted and really not having too much outside world instant connection. Purely because it is distracting and affect my day to day life. When I do want to go and talk to people either I would facebook, email or go out with them and there are few selected people whom I would call when they don't understand something or it is HIGH time!

3.Once you do reach a point where you DO interpret the behaviour in a negative light (e.g. in your head, you are positive they are toying with your emotions and not very serious about you) - what do you do at this stage?

a) You confront them directly regarding their behaviour... and ask clarificatory questions.

b) You start brooding, feeling sorry for yourself, become passive-aggressive towards them...and try to manipulate them into giving you more attention (basically playing games back, in your own style)

c) Give them the cold shoulder for some time, so they get a taste of their own medicine.

d) Figure that you are obviously incompatible with this person, they are simply not interested enough - so, you drop them - and move right along. Next!

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Most likely all 4 but also listen again when what they say. If they say they do not have time for you. That means they REALLY do not have time for you. Question is whether you are ok about this or not ? If you want to be treated in certain way and it isn't happening then are you ok with that ? People can go through time when they are out and about and chatty and then they just need to recharge. They just like solitude as their mind be not peaceful and only way they can get peace and quiet is by closing all noise with people. It is also demand of people, my MIL she expected me to Skype every other week on Sunday and it was all right until I didn't have baby. Once baby came I am not looking to be breast feeding at the same time Skyping and being uncomfortable.

Some people are empaths and they can only take so much from world. I speak to my 20 -30 years old+ friend once in 6 months but it can hurt in dating scenario.
I guess question is whether they are in their head ready for having a relationship with you. If they aren't and you want that instant connection which they are unwilling to give are you ok with that ?
It could be they are Interested but they are perhaps just not interested Now.

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4. If you are on the other side of this - and someone perceives YOU to be playing games with them or to be disinterested (when in reality nothing could be further from the truth, and this is all the workings of their imagination)... which approach from -a, b, c, d above would you prefer them to take in dealing with the situation?

A! Anyday but wouldn't be surprised somebody doing all 4.

5. ^ If their approach was either b) or c)... thats to say: they convinced themselves you are playing with their head, and they are now being weird in their attitude towards you... would you break up with them? Or.. discuss it with them? Or..become passive-aggressive yourself (if someone wins this match, its going to be you God dammit)?