posted February 13, 2016 06:01 PM            

You have all helped me so much with my renegade Scorpio man but things have just gotten to the point now where I think I might have to move country to get away so I hope someone can help me.

He is Scorp sun / venus / mercury / pluto with a Cappy Moon.

Short story is the guy is chasing after me for 18 months now, then saying he doesn't want commitment. He is red hot and then ice cold. I have never met anyone in my life who makes it so hard to get emotions out of him. He keeps everything inside.

I have told him I want different things and that if he just wants casual, then I am not interested. But he won't let me go.

Last week he showed up at my door to tell me he missed me (3.5 hour trip!!!). It's also pretty obvious he is stalking me online and it's been months and he doesn't seem to be able to let me go.

I try and talk to him, but he speaks in contradictions. I will quote now from two messages he sent me today...and you can maybe see what I am dealing with.

Babe, I love being with you, but I just can't see us as a proper couple for the future. Aside from that I really don't want a girlfriend in my life at all so all I can offer is a casual thing, but if I did consider dating anyone else I would just be honest and tell you

Which is pretty bad obviously. He is saying he wants me, but not enough to be a real partner and he sees no future with me.

Then the same day he send me another message that says:

"I think us not seeing each other anymore is the wrong decision and a mistake. I was so excited about stuff we had planned to do together and was planning it all in my head. I feel like we haven't peaked yet. I still want to see you. I care about you and no matter how much I protest this is a relationship that we are in already. You're the one ending it, not me. We have something specia and the thought of us never again being in an embrace upsets me. When you open the door and we fall into each other. That means something. It's not normal. Why don't we start a new chapter today? I don’t just want sex, if I wanted sex I could get it anywhere. Do you think I would pursue this long just for sex. I'm not that shallow. Nothing beats when we are together. It's sensational. You have this power over me like no one else

So seriously...he doesn't want a relationship and two hours later he says we are in one already.

He thinks what we have is so amazing and how can I throw it away, yet he sees no future.

It's crazy land and because of my Pisces moon I am allowing this to really deeply affect me and I feel I have to bring it to conclusion.

I am in love with this guy. I honestly think he is too. I think he is just kind of an idiot.

Can I get any advice on why he is so obsessed with me if he does not see me as a potential partner? I might be being naive but it seems like a lot of time and effort to waste on someone you see as casual while you wait for Mrs Right.

And for me, very hurtful that he says these things.

Any advice on how I can get him to either leave me alone or commit?

I have tried patience and flexibilty and it makes it worse. He thinks I am a walkover now.

He wants to see me tomorrow for valentines day and I have no idea what to do or how to handle him.

Can anyone suggest anything?

posted February 14, 2016 06:35 AM            

I like the "man blather" expression.

Being a Scorpio myself, I am awful at letting go of people I care about. I think maybe that is something I need to get better at.