posted February 17, 2016 08:24 AM            

What's your Moon sign? Venus?

For now, just staying positive is the key. For me, whenever my dreams and wishes don't come true, I just tell myself that things happen or don't for a reason. That this is how it's supposed to be and even if I don't understand it now, I will in the future.

posted February 17, 2016 08:25 AM            

I recommend adventure and action movies.

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Vent and spend all of your grief if you can.

After that, it will probably help to think more about yourself and the future, than about him and the past. Be kind to yourself, remember to eat n sleep, go out with friends, try/learn new things, think of the things you like to do, things that you're passionate about.

Be physically active (idk if you're also like this - when I'm grieving over s.t, I feel like curling up and staying in bed. Eventually it makes me feel even worse). So yeah, staying active is good, it beats that gloom. You may wanna try walking in the park, or hiking with a couple of friends, or riding the bicycles...etc.. Fill up your schedules, but not to the point of exhausting yourself physically (I'm saturn dominant, this is one of my preferred methods to deal with griefs of any kind).

Colours and scents, ime they really help to lift my mood. I like to surround myself with bright colours and nice scents. Repaint the room, or get some cans of spray paint and go nuts, sprinkle essential oils on the bed, use them in the baths...etc...

posted February 17, 2016 08:36 AM            

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Originally posted by DopGang:
There's several things that you can do, some that have been listed such as hobbies and etc. Keeping busy and trying to stay positive.

It also helps, at least it does me, to have a very reliable and trusted friend to talk to about it. That friend that's patient, calm, a good listener and is always there to listen. It can be [b]very stressful on the friend but I find that it's very helpful. A mix of speaking your own thoughts and feelings which can help you better understand them than having them swirl around in your head, and having someone else to hopefully help you with having more clarity (seeing things in a different way / outside perspective) [/B]

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posted February 18, 2016 11:25 AM              

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Originally posted by saadsarah8:
Thankful for everybody's responses.. it means a lot *hug*
I have venus in virgo/mars in gem and moon in aquarius in the 8th. I've been crying my heart out for the past few days but I know it's time to move on and focus on only myself.

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Sorry you've been going through that.

About letting go - well, I'm not one to talk. I'm still really far from learning that lesson.

I will say this, though. Even if it's hard, the best way out is through.

{i.e. Squashing your feelings, hoping they'll go away won't work. They'll just erupt with full force again some other day. I know it's not a very pleasant prospect, but actually dealing with them gives you a better chance. In some cases. }

I agree with what people have said on here - those are good ways of dealing with such feelings.

posted February 18, 2016 10:08 PM            

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posted February 18, 2016 10:11 PM            

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Originally posted by saadsarah8:
Thankful for everybody's responses.. it means a lot *hug*
I have venus in virgo/mars in gem and moon in aquarius in the 8th. I've been crying my heart out for the past few days but I know it's time to move on and focus on only myself.

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posted February 19, 2016 10:30 PM            

Like others have said here, redirect that energy into something else. Make the world your playground and explore it.

I know how hard it is to just let go. Take baby steps and you'll be fine

posted February 20, 2016 03:49 AM            

Whenever you think of him... Catch yourself and immediately visualise the pair of you sitting on large lily leafs in a vast expanse of water. There is a thick stem connecting your leaf to his. Whip out a pair of golden scissor and cut that stem. Watch as he drifts further and further away. Just watch. Dont allow allow any emotion to seep in, be entirely neutral. Just observe that he is floating away into a far off mist where he will continue to live his life in accordance with whatever choices he makes while you are free to do the same.

This excersise- crazy as it seems really seems to help me when i get obsessive. In the beginning I literally have to do it hundreds of times a day, but it soon gets less and less until that person no longer has power over my headspace.

The value of this excercise is that it provides a tool to replace highly charged emotional re-hashing and painful thoughts (which take away your own personal power and give it to someone else) ... and repace it with an ability to neutralise emotional attachment and let go at the same time as reclaiming your own power.

You wont be able to help thinking about him, but you will be able to help what you do after he has popped up in your brain. Dont let him have power over your headspace if he is no longer in your life. Take this from a scorpio moon!