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Odette
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posted February 19, 2016 11:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This is just for fun, if you feel like it!

Take this quiz... and post your results, with your Moon sign/house/aspects and anything else that might be relevant!
http://psychcentral.com/quizzes/romancequiz.htm

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I thought this was pretty accurate.

Mine suits Capricorn Moon:

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Your romantic attachment style: Cool and Dismissive

You have suggested that you have a dismissing style toward attachments, that they are really not too important to you. It is likely that you get along in your relationships, but don't invest yourself very much in them. You are also likely not to experience a great deal of distress in life and you probably don't experience feelings that are extremely intense, compared to people around you. Compared to them, you probably are not as excitable and tend not to get worked up over things.

This is a perfectly fine way to be and it probably keeps you on a very even keel. However, someday you may find that you are starting to feel lonely and that you would like to have closer relationships. If this should happen, but you find that you are unable to achieve the closeness you want, you may want to engage the services of a professional psychotherapist. This is the kind of life change that a professional can really help with.

Remember that attachment styles exist in degrees, and in this test, the degree to which a style is true for you will make a difference in your interpretation. Everyone has to have some style or another, and the features of any one style only become maladaptive when they exist in the extreme.


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hannaramaa
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posted February 19, 2016 11:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hannaramaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I got very high scores for relationship avoidance and anxiety, with an attachment style of "cool and dismissive." 😂 I think it's the fact so many of my passionate placements are in the 11th house, and Mars in the 12th. Secondly my cautious earth moon (also 11H). Moon and Venus in Saturn, and Moon /Pluto. I think I need me a Leo/Pisces person really. I haven't dated one before, I usually get Cap/Sag (very logical and detached signs!)

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Mergoatsun
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posted February 20, 2016 12:09 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Mergoatsun     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My style is secure and happy, an even balance. My Leo moon in the 10th house applauds this. As does my 4th house venus

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Electro DGX
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posted February 20, 2016 12:11 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Electro DGX     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Your romantic attachment style: Fearful and Shy

You have described yourself as fearfully attached. This suggests that compared to others, you may be a little introverted and find it hard to speak up for yourself.

You probably find it a little difficult to become romantically involved because of your concern about getting out there and the possibility of getting hurt. You're likely experience shyness a bit more strongly than others do, and that helps make you stick close to home. You may feel less self confident than other people.

For some people who are a bit fearful, this is just fine. However, for others, this orientation can be a problem. If you feel you are fearful in your romantic involvements, but would like to become less so, you may find that you will benefit from assertiveness training. This is a form of training in which you are gradually challenged to stick up for yourself more, to become more active in going after what you want in life, in all domains. The challenge is gradual to avoid turning off the training before it can help you. And the rewards are strong.

Remember that attachment styles exist in degrees, and in this test, the degree to which a style is true for you will make a difference in your interpretation. Everyone has to have some style or another, and the features of any one style only become maladaptive when they exist in the extreme.


This sounds like an 8th House Moon for sure lol

The self-confidence thing isn't necessarily true, but Saturn is on the descendant, so I tend to find myself restricted. I want to have a deep, intimate relationship with someone, but I just can't seem to.

I think the way I feel is at odds with my 6 Air planets, including Venus and the Moon lol (Aqua and Gem respectively).

Relationship Avoidance: 101
Relationship Anxiety: 93

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mirage29
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posted February 20, 2016 12:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mirage29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Measure Your score
Relationship Avoidance: 83
Relationship Anxiety: 87
Attachment style: Secure and Happy
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...you tend to be pretty evenly balanced in your attachment style. You are not significantly more anxious about them, nor significantly avoiding intimacy or emotional closeness in relationships.

This is a healthy balance, but it also may mean that it is more difficult for you to find someone else who has achieved this same healthy balance! Most people tend to either have greater anxiety or greater avoidance in relationships. You'd probably be most comfortable and at ease in a relationship where your partner is also fairly balanced in their romantic attachment approach.

Your romantic attachment style: Secure and Happy

You have described yourself as securely attached. This means that you are likely to have happier relationships and be better able to sustain commitments than people who have an insecure attachment style.

You are likely to have more positive emotional experiences and to be more happy and outgoing in interpersonal relationships. You will be more likely to express what you really feel. You are more likely to be able to depend on others when it is appropriate, and yet able to function autonomously in your own sphere when that is appropriate.


Gemmy H7 with a Mars Cancer H7.
Stellium in the Cancer H8
Vesta Cancer trine Saturn Scorpio
Uranus-Jupiter Cancer H8 sextile Virgo Moon H9
Venus Taurus 5th in-balance with Saturn Scorpio 11th
Venus quintile Uranus
Southwestern chart emphasis

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athenaia
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posted February 20, 2016 12:29 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for athenaia     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Your romantic attachment style: Secure and Happy

You have described yourself as securely attached. This means that you are likely to have happier relationships and be better able to sustain commitments than people who have an insecure attachment style.

You are likely to have more positive emotional experiences and to be more happy and outgoing in interpersonal relationships. You will be more likely to express what you really feel. You are more likely to be able to depend on others when it is appropriate, and yet able to function autonomously in your own sphere when that is appropriate. You are also more likely to raise children who themselves will have a secure attachment style.


That's a 5th house Moon and a 7th house Venus for you

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12muddy
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posted February 20, 2016 12:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for 12muddy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
3rd house aries moon.
12th house cap venus.

Your romantic attachment style: Secure and Happy

You have described yourself as securely attached.

You are likely to have more positive emotional experiences and to be more happy and outgoing in interpersonal relationships. You will be more likely to express what you really feel. You are more likely to be able to depend on others when it is appropriate, and yet able to function autonomously in your own sphere when that is appropriate.

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hypatia238
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posted February 20, 2016 02:47 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for hypatia238     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Mergoatsun:
My style is secure and happy, an even balance. My Leo moon in the 10th house applauds this. As does my 4th house venus

Same here Moon in Pisces ruling the 8th conjunct my IC.

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bonsai
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posted February 20, 2016 02:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for bonsai     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Mine is:

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Fearful and Shy

You have described yourself as fearfully attached. This suggests that compared to others, you may be a little introverted and find it hard to speak up for yourself.

You probably find it a little difficult to become romantically involved because of your concern about getting out there and the possibility of getting hurt. You're likely experience shyness a bit more strongly than others do, and that helps make you stick close to home. You may feel less self confident than other people.

For some people who are a bit fearful, this is just fine. However, for others, this orientation can be a problem. If you feel you are fearful in your romantic involvements, but would like to become less so, you may find that you will benefit from assertiveness training. This is a form of training in which you are gradually challenged to stick up for yourself more, to become more active in going after what you want in life, in all domains. The challenge is gradual to avoid turning off the training before it can help you. And the rewards are strong.

Remember that attachment styles exist in degrees, and in this test, the degree to which a style is true for you will make a difference in your interpretation. Everyone has to have some style or another, and the features of any one style only become maladaptive when they exist in the extreme.
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I don't know astrology all that well, such as the dynamics of planets in each house, but FWIW I'm sun in Leo, moon in Gemini with Virgo rising.

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Sunnya
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posted February 20, 2016 08:59 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Sunnya     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Your romantic attachment style: Secure and Happy
You have described yourself as securely attached. This means that you are likely to have happier relationships and be better able to sustain commitments than people who have an insecure attachment style.

You are likely to have more positive emotional experiences and to be more happy and outgoing in interpersonal relationships. You will be more likely to express what you really feel. You are more likely to be able to depend on others when it is appropriate, and yet able to function autonomously in your own sphere when that is appropriate. You are also more likely to raise children who themselves will have a secure attachment style.


Moon in early Taurus in the 5th. Uranus in the first. Leo stellium trined by Uranus and finally getting along with the Scorpio squares. Looking especially at you dear Saturn and ASC /hug.

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Elysia
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posted February 20, 2016 09:02 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Elysia     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
FWIW, I got:

Romantic attachment style: Fearful and Shy

12H Aqua Moon.

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Starry~*
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posted February 20, 2016 10:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Starry~*     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Relationship Avoidance: 98
Relationship Anxiety: 87
Intense and preoccupied

Scorpio ASC with Pluto/Venus/Merc tight in 1st house. Moon in 11H Libra

..Yea, Pretty much!! haha

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Yanmorg
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posted February 20, 2016 02:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yanmorg     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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HCtheQueenOfWands
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posted February 21, 2016 04:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for HCtheQueenOfWands     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
At this stage of your development in romantic relationships, you tend to be pretty evenly balanced in your attachment style. You are not significantly more anxious about them, nor significantly avoiding intimacy or emotional closeness in relationships.

This is a healthy balance, but it also may mean that it is more difficult for you to find someone else who has achieved this same healthy balance! Most people tend to either have greater anxiety or greater avoidance in relationships. You'd probably be most comfortable and at ease in a relationship where your partner is also fairly balanced in their romantic attachment approach.

So congratulate yourself!! You're a part of a well-balanced breed when it comes to your romantic attachment style.
Your romantic attachment style: Fearful and Shy

You have described yourself as fearfully attached. This suggests that compared to others, you may be a little introverted and find it hard to speak up for yourself.

You probably find it a little difficult to become romantically involved because of your concern about getting out there and the possibility of getting hurt. You're likely experience shyness a bit more strongly than others do, and that helps make you stick close to home. You may feel less self confident than other people.

For some people who are a bit fearful, this is just fine. However, for others, this orientation can be a problem. If you feel you are fearful in your romantic involvements, but would like to become less so, you may find that you will benefit from assertiveness training. This is a form of training in which you are gradually challenged to stick up for yourself more, to become more active in going after what you want in life, in all domains. The challenge is gradual to avoid turning off the training before it can help you. And the rewards are strong.

Remember that attachment styles exist in degrees, and in this test, the degree to which a style is true for you will make a difference in your interpretation. Everyone has to have some style or another, and the features of any one style only become maladaptive when they exist in the extreme.

Leo moon sq Pluto wide
Moon in 11/12th
Moon opp Uranus,Venus,Merc&Jupiter
Saturn in 7H
Being an abused woman

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