posted March 10, 2016 05:58 AM            

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Originally posted by saadsarah8:
What are your experiences with them? I'm a cancer/leo sun cusp + cancer ascendant but I can't for the life of me understand this guy!! He's such a jerk, so so moody.. always trying to rub in my face how this other girl [my friend] likes him and whatnot.. it's like dealing with a baby! His chart is gemini/cancer sun, cancer moon and mercury, venus in taurus and mars in leo
So self-centered! How do I deal?

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You can't You may just need to break up with him and establish distance.

IME there are two types of Cancers you meet; those that want to be babied. Or those that baby others.

I think in your case, you have found the former.

I know my advice sounds harsh. But if you stay,you will have to do a lot of counseling on him.

Unless you into that sorta thing.

posted March 10, 2016 06:17 AM              

since he was selfish like hell, he expected his Lady to take care of him.

he would even tell me that he disappeared for several days when he found out that his ex-gf prepared dinner- and did not consider him.

posted March 10, 2016 07:41 AM            

So you're probably dealing with someone who's very immature and/or young.
And uh, young guys do that sometimes. It usually points to some sort of insecurity.

posted March 10, 2016 08:19 AM              

There's this guy on the cusp of Cancer/Leo moon. Trying to figure out which it is (though I lean towards thinking it's Leo).

posted March 10, 2016 01:27 PM            

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Originally posted by saadsarah8:
What are your experiences with them? I'm a cancer/leo sun cusp + cancer ascendant but I can't for the life of me understand this guy!! He's such a jerk, so so moody.. always trying to rub in my face how this other girl [my friend] likes him and whatnot.. it's like dealing with a baby! His chart is gemini/cancer sun, cancer moon and mercury, venus in taurus and mars in leo
So self-centered! How do I deal?

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I think this has to do with a level of maturity. My sister has a Cancer Moon and so does my Mom, but my Mom is very nice and sweet. She's very giving of herself and is always there for support.

My sister, on the other hand, is a selfish brat. She is always talking about all these guys that are her "boy friends" and how she loves them so much. She tries poking fun at me about it and calls me ugly. It's borderline obsession (probably because of her Mars Opposite Pluto).

posted March 10, 2016 01:31 PM            

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Originally posted by saadsarah8:
moon in Aquarius in the 8th house. all or nothing for me, don't really have the mental energy or emotional capacity to handle his mixed signals and weird behaviour.
from what I've read on here, this placement is very manipulative and childish.. and that's exactly what I've experienced from him. VERY moody, one day he's all 'you're special to me', 'I'm so glad i met you', 'i need to take you out on the weekend', and the next day he's rubbing it in my face the fact that this other girl taught him how to dance tango and even showed me their picture in a highly sexual pose -.- ain't nobody got time for that!

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Moon in Aquarius in 8th heh? This might give you certain blending Scorpio moon traits I think.

Well,the immature Cancer likes to play all sorts of roundabout games to gauge out your true feelings for them.

Perhaps your sometimes aloof nature throws him off? And Cancer Moon males can get off on emotional drama- to affirm feelings of being wanted.

So they may create all sorts of issues within a relationship that have one aim in mind; to have you affirm that you care. Because their worst fear would be that they care for someone who doesn't care for them.

As I said, you met the "baby me" type of Cancer Moon. And this one will look to "suckle" on your love breast to a point where you feel drained.

The other type-one who "babies" others i.e would tend to your feelings; how do you feel today? Have you eaten? Are you happy at work? Do you want me to cook something special for you? etc.

posted March 10, 2016 01:36 PM              

Or is it only one way or the other?

posted March 10, 2016 01:49 PM            

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Originally posted by Elysia:
^ Question: Do they alternate between babying people and wanting to be babied themselves?

Or is it only one way or the other?

(That sounds like a gross oversimplification, but you know what I mean.. )

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With some(like my Dad). It is one way.

As a Sun in Cancer, he expects to be babied by my mother. And still is

For me(Moon in Cancer), it alternates. I like to give it and also receive it.

For my Mother (Mars in Cancer). She seems to be energized through protecting or doing the "babying". It seems to activate something within her.

posted March 10, 2016 01:54 PM              

Cancer suns - the ones i know are pretty set in their ways (mostly want to be/used to being taken care of).

Cancer moons however, I didn't have much experience with until recently...

Do you get cranky when angry or shut down and not talk ?

posted March 12, 2016 01:52 PM            

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Originally posted by Elysia:
Aah, okay.. Good to know.
Yeah, mars in Cancer is more *actively* caregiving, true!

Cancer suns - the ones i know are pretty set in their ways (mostly want to be/used to being taken care of).

Cancer moons however, I didn't have much experience with until recently...

Do you get cranky when angry or shut down and not talk ?

P.S. About your dad.. Hope that didn't mean any less for you..

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I try to talk things out when angry, On the spot. As there are certain stomach ailments(particularly affecting Mars, Moon and Sun in Cancer people) that are created from trying to "contain" their feelings or go the passive aggressive route.

If its really not possible. And tears are just a blush away. I go for a long walk. Mostly remain active.

The thing is I try to get rid of anger BEFORE I get it i.e I stay away from emotionally charged situations.

posted March 12, 2016 02:11 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:

Well,the immature Cancer likes to play all sorts of roundabout games to gauge out your true feelings for them.

Perhaps your sometimes aloof nature throws him off? And Cancer Moon males can get off on emotional drama- to affirm feelings of being wanted.

So they may create all sorts of issues within a relationship that have one aim in mind; to have you affirm that you care. Because their worst fear would be that they care for someone who doesn't care for them.

As I said, you met the "baby me" type of Cancer Moon. And this one will look to "suckle" on your love breast to a point where you feel drained.

The other type-one who "babies" others i.e would tend to your feelings; how do you feel today? Have you eaten? Are you happy at work? Do you want me to cook something special for you? etc.

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So true!

I used to be with a Cancer Moon guy who would alternate between these two modes...
I don't think it's worth it, although an aspect to Saturn could certainly have a stabilising effect (this guy has a square).