posted April 21, 2016 06:36 PM            

But just to give you an idea, here are some very loose generalizations that may apply to this particular Venus:

- It is hard for them to express love openly and in a sweet cloying way (Venus is in detriment here). They may consider the "ideal Hollywood romance" behavior fake and insincere.
- They will show persistent interest in your daily affairs and be "there" for you. (fixed quality)
- They will be protective of you
- (this one is a bit negative) They may be more touchy with you and get upset or offended more easily by things you do and say because you affect them more than others. This usually results in sudden silences and temporary (hopefully) disappearances - the scorpion crawls back into its hole

But like I said it is very important to take the whole chat into account. Even one aspect can modify the points above.

posted April 22, 2016 05:01 AM            

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Originally posted by Vajra:
...They might offer to beat anyone to a pulp who threatens you or hurts you....

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Yeeees, this is so typical. I was thinking of adding it but it seemed too specific so I just said "protective".

They have a real "LET ME AT 'EM" gimmick. This is usually in the form of jokes. I do it a lot too. (don't think they're actually psychically aggressive unless something in the chart is messing them up)

I think it comes from their "eye for an eye" mentality.

posted April 22, 2016 05:14 AM            

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Originally posted by meyray:
If they are making you miserable, they care.

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^ Damn, I'd said something with almost those exact words on some other thread here.

posted April 22, 2016 08:42 AM            

Oh, this makes me think it will definitely be the "invisible presence" kind of care. If you expect obvious wooing to you it will seem like he's just "meh" and doesn't give a fig but if you look at it from the outside you'll notice that he's always there, always watching, always ready. Kind of like a guardian angel.

This of course applies if he has feelings.

posted April 23, 2016 12:14 AM            

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Originally posted by meyray:
If they are making you miserable, they care.

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posted April 23, 2016 03:51 AM            

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Originally posted by meyray:
If they are making you miserable, they care.

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posted April 23, 2016 05:59 AM            

Because of their very vulnerable and strong emotions they suffer a lot in relationships for many reasons one of which is being misunderstood.

For Scorpio:
Love is something you do for yourself.
Pain is something you do for others.

In their mind - real true love is expressed and proven only if you are willing to suffer pain for the sake of your partner.

Pleasure and love is something that benefits you and in the back of their mind they may always consider happiness in love "selfish" and "doing it for mostly for yourself, not for me"

That's why they may become abrasive, cold, accusing and downright nasty in the worst cases - because they want to see how willing you are to endure this, too see if your "love" is for them or just for the pleasure you receive from it. Most of this happens unconsciously and they don't realize they're doing it or why they act this way. Often you'll see an immature Scorp push their lover to the edge and when the lover finally snaps and leaves them, Scorp is actually heartbroken and thinks "I knew it, I knew you would do this to me."

Keep in mind that this behavior is the worst side of Scorpio Venus and really varies in degrees depending on the person's maturity.

Some people get offended when they hear this approach to love and they do have a point because this behavior can be really damaging in the extreme. But there needs to be understanding and willingness to accept Scorpio nature as well or else everybody suffers.

Here is something that I think every Scorpio needs and maybe subconsciously desires - they need to be called out. Sometimes I think Scorpio just wants someone stronger and more powerful than them to step up unafraid and give them a reality check. Not leave them, not bend to their will but stand up unapologetically and say "Listen you little sh*t, enough with this! I love you, you fool. Get a grip."

This proves several things:
- that you're strong
- that you understand what's going on
- that you're enduing

And these are all qualities that Scorpio admires. Keep in mind that they hate cowardice and weak will and if their lover bends over backward to their every will it is no different that quitting because you can't handle pain. They will lose respect for overly yielding lovers despite foolishly thinking that this is what they want. Scorpio wants an equal with whom they can war from time to time but still be lovers.

I conclusion, a balance needs to be struck. To please a Scorpio Venus you have to sacrifice from time to time but still stand your ground in some situations. It just depends on what you're comfortable with and what you deem acceptable.