posted April 27, 2016 04:14 PM            

This may be passive aggressive behavior that I'm about to describe. So particularly at work I prefer to confront and ask questions via email. The reason is, especially in group discussions I feel that I'm constantly interrupted. Even only meeting with a "boss" it's like I can never complete my thoughts without them jumping in to begin answering.
Seriously. I really would like to tell them, "when I'm finished and it's your turn to speak I'll let you know."
Of course I'm not that rude.

This is my primary reason for preferring written communication though I will admit that speaking in person is many times better, especially concerning emotions and such with family, friend, etc. I see both sides.

posted April 27, 2016 04:38 PM            

Unfortunately, what ends up happening is exactly that, and then everyone thinks I am bitchy/mean/aggressive/rude when in reality, I just believe in manners. Which means I say my peace, and then you say yours.

I emailed my college professors and bosses, all the time. It becomes tiring trying to communicate in a group setting. It's easier to just address my concerns at a later time.

Virgo Sun/Mercury/Venus
Gemini Moon/Mars

ETA: I agree with Gabby. It was a learned trait for me, as well. I used to interrupt people all the time when I was younger, and found myself thinking of a response before they had even finished. I found a way to be okay with pauses in a conversation - even if they are a bit awkward.

posted April 27, 2016 06:30 PM            

I get really ****** when people interrupt me, but I'm also terrible about interrupting other people. So that's a conundrum for me.

It usually requires someone else with air or fire Mercury to match mine, and we can sort of volley back and forth, rather than taking turns officially.

But if it's a topic of some importance, I find it much more effective to communicate with an email or message (I've never really had difficulty at work, though...people generally take turns pretty well in my work environments, I've noticed).

Especially when it's a heated conversation. It's way better for me to message or even text, so that I don't lose it on the other person, or vice versa.

EDIT
Actually, in retrospect, there is always a communication log at work (in most places I've been employed). And so yeah, I do communicate a lot more through that in my work environments as well. There's a lot of documentation to sift through when you come to work as well, so yeah...a lot of writing (or typing), and reading, rather than talking.

posted April 27, 2016 10:57 PM            

Its smarter to go by email. You should give yourself a pat on the back for being smart by getting email confirmations to things.

posted April 28, 2016 03:50 AM            

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Originally posted by DualGem:
I prefer email because its the only way to have written proof of was said or what you've been instructed to do.

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You have Capricorn rising.

I think it's also about wanting to finish something before jumping onto anything else, and in a conversation this is not often possible. In relation to work control is more important than in interpersonal relationships, also when communicating. A strong Saturn, or Saturn in aspect to Mercury might play a role, too.

posted April 28, 2016 11:32 AM            

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Originally posted by DopGang:

Yes I do that also!

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posted April 28, 2016 11:39 AM            

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Originally posted by Gabby:
To me its the only way to actually communicate, how else will here what the other person is saying and actually grasp the point they are trying to get across. Sometimes i will repeat back to them what they said in my own words just to make sure i got their point and ask if thats what they meant.

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Yeees.
I'd enjoy talking to you I think.

posted April 28, 2016 11:51 AM            

It really does make it so much easier to write/message, even text if necessary. There's more thought put into it (my Mercury doesn't always think everything out before speaking).

posted April 28, 2016 12:29 PM            

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Originally posted by DopGang:
Yeees.
I'd enjoy talking to you I think.

Now that you bring all that up. I think I may be my own worst enemy. (Mercury 12th would make sense. Along with conjunct mars so that misunderstanding is often thinking that I'm upset) I pause, sometimes while talking in order to make sure that I say what I intend to. Having been bitten a lot by people misinterpreting what I mean, I tend to put more thought into it. Though it doesn't prevent that issue completely. Pausing even for a fraction also helps to cause this issue of being interrupted. I've not paid attention but it very well could be these little pauses. It was brought to my attention once by someone who was an EXCELLENT listener. Though I also know for a fact that people do interrupt others often without realizing it.
I do really well with Pisces and other 12th house types because they seem to be able to pick up on the subtle undertones, fill in the blanks, and intuitively know that I've not completed my thoughts yet.

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posted April 28, 2016 12:43 PM            

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Originally posted by Violets:
I have to wonder if Mercury sitting on my Dsc (opposite my Asc, of course), and Uranus conjunct my IC, opposite my MC (okay, I tried to word that as delicately as I could, as opposed to "Uranus sitting on my IC" ) plays a part in my weird conversation style, and tendency to not only be interrupted, but to also interrupt others...

It really does make it so much easier to write/message, even text if necessary. There's more thought put into it (my Mercury doesn't always think everything out before speaking).

Maybe it's the Virgo, but maybe other placements contribute as well, and our Virgo/Gem just feel the need to tidy up and clarify?

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Do you have particularly odd communication styles at home, in relationships, growing up...maybe you make up your unique ways of communicating?
Merc square Uranus on IC....Growing up you could have made up your own language you used between you and your siblings that no one else knew, to get away with things, working together to be rebellious...lol(on the positive side of course) the negative side would be sudden burst of yelling. A very crazy environment or a very unique environment, mercury/uranus could mean out of the box brilliance to, but with the square it would be a stressful flow of energy.

Probably your unusual communication doesn't get in the way at home or in your relationships too much, unless Uranus/Merc is in hard aspect, esp squares to personal planets to you or the personal planets of those around you.

posted April 28, 2016 12:53 PM            

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Originally posted by Gabby:
Do you have particularly odd communication styles at home, in relationships, growing up...maybe you make up your unique ways of communicating?
But probably your unusual communication doesn't get in the way at home or in your relationships unless Uranus/Merc make squares to personal planets to you others around you.
The fact that Merc is in hard aspect to your AC could cause issues with the outside world and communications with others, the way you communicate with them and the way they communicate with you.
But at least you can come home and complain and the ones you love will not comprehend how anyone could have issues like that with you, because they think your perfect!

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Lol. I wish.
There's a lot of love in our home, but the communication is, uh...LOUD. And not particularly clear. It does drive my Mercury on Dsc a bit nutty, as well as my Virgo Moon.

I have Mars square Uranus/IC, and my husband has Moon square Uranus/MC (his Uranus/MC is also conjunct my Pluto, and my son's Saturn, which have double-whammy squares with each other).

So, yeah...lol. I used to get my communication needs met at work with friends I made there. I need to find another outlet for that. My extended family works for now, though.

My husband's Mercury is conjunct my Moon, but opposite my Sun, so it's usually best to wait until we're both winding down to talk, or message each other if we're upset.

It's nice to have Sun/Moon/Neptune harmonious aspects with my son, because we can talk a lot more, and I'm more careful not to interrupt him (and listen more intently to what he has to say).

posted April 28, 2016 01:03 PM            

Ya...I forgot about the loud! I think the edit is more appropriate.
The square aspect between the uranus/merc would be tough at home to grow up in.

posted April 28, 2016 01:20 PM            

It's not any easier now that I have my own family, honestly.

We're very close, and very loving. But communication can be REALLY difficult between the three of us. It can be a difficult dynamic, but we do our best.

posted April 28, 2016 02:09 PM            

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Originally posted by Violets:
I don't have Mercury/Uranus square, but I do have Mars/Uranus-IC square.

It's not any easier now that I have my own family, honestly.

We're very close, and very loving. But communication can be REALLY difficult between the three of us. It can be a difficult dynamic, but we do our best.

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I dated a guy with Mars/Uranus/IC t-square....he at times was loud and aggressive without realizing it. He had the biggest heart and i dont think he realized he could seem angry when he wasnt.

posted April 28, 2016 02:23 PM            

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Originally posted by Gabby:
I dated a guy with Mars/Uranus/IC t-square....he at times was loud and aggressive without realizing it. He had the biggest heart and i dont think he realized he could seem angry when he wasnt.

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I can also be like that.

posted April 29, 2016 09:16 AM            

We were discussing issues at work today and talking about statistics as it relates to our workload demands.
A Virgo in the group said, "If you have your feet in a block of ice and your head in a scalding oven. Statically speaking, you should be comfortable!"

posted April 29, 2016 11:34 AM            

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Originally posted by DopGang:
Off topic:

We were discussing issues at work today and talking about statistics as it relates to our workload demands.
A Virgo in the group said, "If you have your feet in a block of ice and your head in a scalding oven. Statically speaking, you should be comfortable!"

I then noticed that the few Virgo influenced people are the ones who found the most humor in it.

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posted April 29, 2016 11:45 AM            

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Originally posted by DopGang:
Off topic:

We were discussing issues at work today and talking about statistics as it relates to our workload demands.
A Virgo in the group said, "If you have your feet in a block of ice and your head in a scalding oven. Statically speaking, you should be comfortable!"

I then noticed that the few Virgo influenced people are the ones who found the most humor in it.

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