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Topic: North Node in 1st house/South Node in 7th house
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strawberryaa
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posted May 27, 2016 05:03 AM
  
Hello! Does anybody else has this placement, how do you deal with it? Does it means that person with this placement has to be more independent? Does it denies marriage/partnerships? How does this placement manifested in your life?I really struggle with this placement in my chart because I'm so dependent on others and I hate being alone. IP: Logged |
Ceridwen
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posted May 27, 2016 06:41 AM
I have this. NN conjunct ASC (and Neptune and Mars).
It`s funny I`ve always been very independent - well, no, not really, just thought I was  -.
For me it was a real learn process to open up to other people, let them get close to me, and I`ve stayed away from romantic relationships and being very defensive if someone threatened to break through my wall of defensity (I guess Mr Sag could tell quite some stories about this, if he cared to. ).
Friendships work better, but even then, I remember my best friend had to really endure a lot of my defensity and "I donīt need anybody and can walk away at any time" crap.
Funny thing is why I claimed it to be so, I never did. I mean my best friend and me have known each other for over 25 years and are still best friends, but it took me several years to acknowledge that we would stay in each other`S life for a lifetime. Well she is more family than friend to be honest. I also do not have superficial friendships, I can`t somehow. But in recent years I allowed more people into my closer circle, and approached the concept of "aquaintances". lol Funny enough this just does not sound like a DSC-SN, right?
Anyway I AM probably very dependent, but not so much in terms of romantic relationships or even friendships, but on my family, as we are a very tightly knit unit, and THAT really is quite difficult to "emancipate" from and keeping a balance.
But as I said I did start to "go out into the world" (which is not my close family and family-like friends ) more in recent years.
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teasel
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posted May 27, 2016 07:08 AM
This is why I'm trying to figure out which house system fits my chart... I can relate, but I also have a mixture of both independent and needy placements/aspects. I can relate to Ceri a lot re: friendship and family. My nodes are right on the cusp of houses 1 and 2, depending on whether Placidus or Equal house is used. IP: Logged |
Aqualilith09
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posted May 27, 2016 08:10 AM
i have this i have yet to find out how it plays outIP: Logged |
Aqualilith09
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posted May 27, 2016 08:12 AM
i have this i have yet to find out how it plays outIP: Logged |
12muddy
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posted May 27, 2016 08:40 AM
1st house north node in capricorn, 7th house south node in cancer. I grew up having little to none right and freedom to think and to choose my path, and it was a real struggle to break away. I have the freedom that I want now, and I clutch it really tightly. But I acknowledge the importance of loved ones in my life. It's a delicate balance, I want independence to just be myself, and I want to have other people in my life as well. Hence people whom I stay close to are all gentle, accommodating people who don't impose on me, guilt trip or attempt to wrestle for control over my life. In my case, it doesn't *deny* relationship/marriage. I'm with a great person who isn't controlling, gives me plenty of breathing space and respects my rights. IP: Logged |
outofideas
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posted May 27, 2016 09:53 AM
I also have this in Pisces - Virgo and it's pretty bad.
I'm quite ready to throw myself under the train for someone else, just so they are okay.
But then again, it's not just this placement that is responsible for it.
Most of my chart is about other people and not so much about myself. I have a stellium in the 11th and Moon - Venus opposition. My 7th house ruler is placed in the 11th too.
So it's a great challenge for me, especially in the past few years.
I really need to fight for myself and with myself in order to feel better about myself.
But by default i feel much better if others are accepting of me and treat me well. :\
Feels like i hardly have the choice, it's mostly fate leading my life.Love relationships have also been only learning experiences as it seems, no more than a year or so in length. Oh well. IP: Logged |
coffeetime
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posted May 29, 2016 06:42 AM
I relate really well to what has been said before. I too was really smothered and brought down by my family, who thought I'm not able to stand up for myself and they did many things for me which I should have done by myself.
Also, I too somehow manage to make only true friendships and I don't have fake friends or many aquantainces. They just somehow don't come into my life.What is more about NN in 1st, in my early years I was afraid to show myself off. I've been in the show world and on stage, but I was never really by myself. I was making friends with braver and more talented people to have them as partners and just then became known towards teachers and people from that sphere. So I was quite hiding. But when life hit me several times, I started being thrown to situations where I have to 'explain' and proove myself all by my own - my own actions, thoughts and will.
I'm a shy person and it's a constant learning for me, but I like it.
Stepping out of a comfortable SN zone is frightening but amazingly rewarding. I grow every time as a person. Also, I find it difficult to meet romantic partners/boyfriends. They also don't come into my life!  IP: Logged |
coffeetime
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posted May 29, 2016 06:50 AM
Also, I just noticed that I often repeat "going out in the world" phrase. Nobody from my circle says that.
I guess I'm the only one of them seeing the world as an 'outing' and 'fight zone'IP: Logged |
Ceridwen
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posted May 29, 2016 09:04 AM
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Originally posted by 12muddy:
t I'm with a great person who isn't controlling, gives me plenty of breathing space and respects my rights.
that is the only kind of person I could see myself with for a long time.  IP: Logged |
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