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Topic: Help Me!! How do i get over 12th house synastry fears?
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Gabby
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posted July 19, 2016 12:28 PM
  
Im seeing the most amazing man, we are going to be moving together in a few months and he/we want to get married within the next 2 years but im so scared!
He's not the problem, i am!
Here's my problem...I have an unaspected virgo Moon in my 12th, my Moon is conjunct my Dejanira and Child...both of these asteriods individually conjunct a Moon show emotional pain, add to that my Moon in my 12th AND unaspected.
A 12th house Moon shows emotional pain, an unaspected Moon shows emotional pain. Then being in Virgo is a very difficult Moon placement also.
Thats 5 emotional strikes against my poor lil beaten up Moon!
So...emotionally ive had the he// beaten out of me in my life. So, along comes the most amazing man ive ever met! I loved him the moment i met him, n still do. We feel like weve known each other forever, like we are the same person...ect, ect, ect. So heres where the issue starts...
His virgo Moon is in a stelluim with Pluto and Uranus.
Moon virgo@19.38
Pluto virgo@16.38
Uranus virgo@16.15 My Moon virgo@18.36
My Child virgo@19.46
My Dejanira virgo@15.15 He doesn't have any tight harsh aspects to my Moon, actually he has all positive aspects. I dont have any aspects at all because my Moon is unaspected.
My question is how do I stop the truckload of fears he's bringing up in me from destroying our relationship?
Will i get used to this and it wont hurt with enough time passed?
Why is trust so hard?
I don't want to destroy this....but i need help to realize these fears are in my head, not reality. I see this logically but how do i get my heart to feel it?
I know, work through my fears!! Im doing that but what do i do in the meantime?
Can somebody give me a new perspective that i can carry with me in my heart to help deal with my fears? IP: Logged |
Lucia23
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posted July 19, 2016 12:47 PM
Your Moon is super-intuitive!!! It's the Virgo-ness of the whole thing that makes you second guess what it's telling you. You're getting mixed messages from yourself about this relationship. You are getting some big red flags about whether this guy is trustworthy, and trying to ignore them. It might still be a great relationship when you get past the Neptunian/12th house goggles you're seeing it through, but you need to tread carefully and look at everything through cold, clear eyes and stop punishing yourself for your very reasonable hesitations. It's good you're moving in together and putting marriage a couple of years away instead of right now--you can learn more about the relationship.In the right relationship for you and your anxious Moon, the other person will have endless gentleness and patience about all your fears and mistrust. There's no way it would destroy a right relationship. If you post the synastry and composite, maybe some of the real astrologers here can take a look. That Moon-Pluto really might mean that he will try to control and pressure you when you know each other better and are sharing daily life. IP: Logged |
Gabby
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posted July 19, 2016 12:50 PM
I do have Aesculapia virgo@17.08His Podalirius virgo@12.02
His Apollo virgo@10.25
My Juno virgo@12.20
👆🏻Also in my 12th👆🏻 His Panacea gemini@14.27(our Psyche/Psyche both, gem@15)
His Reiki saggy@15.01
My Dejanira virgo@15.15
So i know this is a healing relationship, i just want to get there without destroying it first. IP: Logged |
Gabby
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posted July 19, 2016 12:57 PM
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Originally posted by Lucia23:
Your Moon is super-intuitive!!! It's the Virgo-ness of the whole thing that makes you second guess what it's telling you. You're getting mixed messages from yourself about this relationship. You are getting some big red flags about whether this guy is trustworthy, and trying to ignore them. It might still be a great relationship when you get past the Neptunian/12th house goggles you're seeing it through, but you need to tread carefully and look at everything through cold, clear eyes and stop punishing yourself for your very reasonable hesitations. It's good you're moving in together and putting marriage a couple of years away instead of right now--you can learn more about the relationship.In the right relationship for you and your anxious Moon, the other person will have endless gentleness and patience about all your fears and mistrust. There's no way it would destroy a right relationship. If you post the synastry and composite, maybe some of the real astrologers here can take a look. That Moon-Pluto really might mean that he will try to control and pressure you when you know each other better and are sharing daily life.
Thank you!! I very much appreciate your words n validating my fears, i feel kind of crazy right now.
I think your right about the super intuitive, my Pallas pisces@18 opposes my Moon to!
I just don't know if my fears are 12th house based or something im picking up from him.
Just this morning i was crying talking to him about my fears, hes very understanding and kind, he listened n told me to just breath n hang on n we'd be ok. There's lots of things bringing up fears, but hes not doing it, it all seems to stem from nowhere. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted July 19, 2016 01:05 PM
Moving to Interpersonal Astrology.IP: Logged | |
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