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Topic: Empaths/neptunians have you ever b fooled into thinking you were attracted to someone
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headintheclouds91
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posted August 14, 2016 06:00 PM
  
Have you ever thought that you were into someone just to realize that you were only mirroring their feelings for you?On tuesday i ended it with a guy i have dated/gotten to know and the reason is because i just didn`t feel it anymore. It has always been something "off " between us. He was interested in me from the start but i didn`t give him the time of day but he was so persistent so i eventually gave him a shot. So we talked and hanged out and i started to see sides of him that i liked and thought i was getting into him, but as time went by the fog started to clear and i started to see what i truly feel, and that is i like him more as a friend. I think i felt what he felt for me so therefore thought i felt the same for him. This has happened to me before in a non romantic situation where i have thought i have felt a certain way about someone just to find out that person had those feelings towards me. IP: Logged |
DopGang
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posted August 14, 2016 07:00 PM
That's pretty much been the theme of my life.
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TensionEmpire
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posted August 14, 2016 07:22 PM
yeah, me too , I can realte to it, recently i convinced myself about a realtionship, where ther was no much chemistry.
I like "oh no I wanna live love, and learn with that girl and know her profoundly!"
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also because i was trying to safe the situation? like all realtionship i start platonizing imetiatly..IP: Logged |
Nyctea
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posted August 14, 2016 09:03 PM
"That's pretty much been the theme of my life." Same for me.I also think that Moon square Venus and Neptune in the natal can do this. I have both aspects and Venus conj Neptune too. That's how i've been experiencing these aspects, it's a mess. And it might be happening again, i'm not sure. IP: Logged |
firemoon
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posted August 14, 2016 09:19 PM
Isn't that just how it works though? I get what you're saying but.. I've always wondered this with "one sided" attraction/feelings. If you feel something that strongly is it really possible for the other person not to feel it too regardless of who "started it"?Hmm interesting though. I have Neptune conjunct Dsc and sh*t can get weird.. and confusing lol eta, I should add if we're talking about physical attraction of course that's not always the case, I'm talking more about emotional/intellectual connections.. IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted August 15, 2016 08:18 AM
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Originally posted by firemoon:
Isn't that just how it works though? I get what you're saying but.. I've always wondered this with "one sided" attraction/feelings. If you feel something that strongly is it really possible for the other person not to feel it too regardless of who "started it"?Hmm interesting though. I have Neptune conjunct Dsc and sh*t can get weird.. and confusing lol eta, I should add if we're talking about physical attraction of course that's not always the case, I'm talking more about emotional/intellectual connections..
Well said I've felt that if a guy told me he liked me it opened up a space of possibility..."we can go here and do this"....and that could be an attractive prospect, a joint adventure. And who knew what would happen next. IP: Logged |
headintheclouds91
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posted August 15, 2016 09:08 AM
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Originally posted by firemoon:
Isn't that just how it works though? I get what you're saying but.. I've always wondered this with "one sided" attraction/feelings. If you feel something that strongly is it really possible for the other person not to feel it too regardless of who "started it"?Hmm interesting though. I have Neptune conjunct Dsc and sh*t can get weird.. and confusing lol eta, I should add if we're talking about physical attraction of course that's not always the case, I'm talking more about emotional/intellectual connections..
No.. not like an empath feels it. I have seen one sided attraction before when a guy has been very interested in one of my friends and they didn`t feel the same and their feelings weren`t affected at all by the feelings of the other. An empath can take on the feelings of the other and be fooled into thinking it is what they feel/think. I didnt give this guy the time of day bc i just wasn`t that into him but when i started to hang out with him i started to feel his energy way more and confused his feelings with mine. And even when i thought i was getting into him even then i could feel something was "off" like the feelings weren`t mine. IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted August 15, 2016 09:35 AM
It's confusing.Were you ever attracted to him? My first boyfriend pursued me for many months before finally I thought I was attracted. It wasn't like, I caught his interest as one catches a cold. Then, on our first date, I was specifically very attracted to his hands. That wasn't coming from him...he wasn't attracted to his hands...I was...  IP: Logged |
headintheclouds91
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posted August 15, 2016 09:57 AM
[QUOTE]Originally posted by Faith:
[B]It's confusing.Were you ever attracted to him? I thought i was starting to get into him but i realized my true feelings got lost in his feelings when i started to interact with him. I think i confused his attraction for me by thinking i was attracted to him too. IP: Logged |
Koniucha
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posted August 15, 2016 11:03 AM
I tend to get fooled in to thinking that they do like me  IP: Logged |
soren
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posted August 15, 2016 11:09 AM
something missing from the "is it mutual?" question is thatSome people have very good strong energy, and someone from a lower position ranking might like them and the good energy the first person gives off might be insignificant to themselves, but to the lower person, they are receiving the same energy vibe but to them, it is not normal to receive good energy like that. to the high energy person they are giving off 100 points of love when they interact with the lower person, but they give off 60 points to any average person walking by, and they give 500 points off to someone they feel strongly about, but the lower person usually gives off about 100 points to someone they strongly like, and so the energy they receive from the higher person seems like a big deal IP: Logged |
Hemilla
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posted August 15, 2016 12:56 PM
i dont know how much of neptunian i can say i am,or an empath for that matter,but i think i have strange reasons for being attracted to men,and even though if i notice someones pushy interest in me or if that person is someone i never considered i can block people,sometimes i do start noticing in that way those subtle flirts - its weird but i discovered that i can start being gooshy to men who speak to me gently or as if they have some kind of pleasure while doing it, it softens me even if convo is over the phone,no matter if i ever felt attraction before or if i would even consider dating that person,i start ggiving that person nice amount of attention....wich i hide lol dont wanna pull their tails IP: Logged |
Mergoatsun
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posted August 15, 2016 03:00 PM
Yeah unfortunately. It's happened to me many times, but I always figure it out in the end and end up hurting the other person most times, only once did the other person hurt me instead.------------------
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Electro DGX
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posted August 15, 2016 03:56 PM
I did this already, and it frustrates me because of how I'm desperately searching for someone and keep falling into these "traps" so to speak. It makes me feel dumb ------------------
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missblyss
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posted August 15, 2016 05:29 PM
aghhh this happened with me with the last dude I was with....My initial reaction was "uuegh NO!"... But he was sooo attracted to me, constantly I would feel him thinking about me sexually and admiring me..One night I decided to go out... I NEVER go out, and of course he showed up the second he heard I was going to be there.. All of a sudden, I DID feel attracted to him... I felt like super strong sexual feelings that I hadn't felt in a while, we hooked up a few times.. and I was all for it! But, all of a sudden. I was just like "ew". It was awful b/c he had feelings involved and was a good guy but I just wasn't attracted at ALL anymore. I realized that I had just been channeling his strong sexual energy for me. It was a mess, lol IP: Logged |
headintheclouds91
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posted August 15, 2016 05:37 PM
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Originally posted by Electro DGX:
It makes me feel dumb
I feel you. And it can also make you seem like a player sometimes too when that was not your intention at all, ugh. Neptune makes it so foggy.
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Electro DGX
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posted August 15, 2016 05:55 PM
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Originally posted by headintheclouds91:
I feel you. And it can also make you seem like a player sometimes too when that was not your intention at all, ugh. Neptune makes it so foggy.
That is true. I once was going to go into a relationship with someone, and since I've been desiring the perfect relationship for so long, it was no wonder that I was pulled into this as if I could feel something going on. I'll admit, I was never sexually attracted to him, which may have been one of the biggest reasons why I didn't want to continue on with it, but soon it all died off and I wasn't interested in him as much as I initially was. It was lucky for me that we were able to talk it out and be able to understand where we both were coming from. He also said that he felt like it wasn't going to take off either, so it ended better than it could've possibly ended. Now I'm just single again. I keep walking into traps of false hope where I think I'll find someone but end up finding nobody again
Neptune is a pain lol. ------------------
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MermaidDreamz
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posted August 15, 2016 06:40 PM
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hypatia238
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posted August 15, 2016 06:59 PM
Nope I have had plenty of people who like me that I dont like back, as empathic as I am with moon in pisces squaring neptune the ruler of my 5th everyone I have considered dating I always end up having venus to mars aspects with them and other attraction markers in addition to that. As a scorpio riser sexual attraction is important to me and I know right away within seconds typically if a guy has a chance with me or not as I am very intuned with what I LIKE and no I dont confuse my feelings bc they have feelings for me and end up thinking I like them too lol, that honestly does not happen to me ever.IP: Logged |
vertiver
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posted August 15, 2016 06:59 PM
Hmmm, no actual neptune aspects or influences are mentioned so far...I have Pisces moon in the 3rd H - it tends to make me a escapist a lot - Rose colored glasses big time. Also Neptune is in the first house, incojunct Sun and square Mars.
But yes I agree, I've been into someone only to realize that I thought I liked them - but I actually did not. Their feelings were projecting on to me and I thought they were my actual feelings.
Now I take things really slow, if someone likes me, they can wait - ha! My current admirer is a Pisces Sun - its kinda of a nice change to not be the only one conflicted in neptunian fog. IP: Logged |
headintheclouds91
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posted August 15, 2016 07:04 PM
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Originally posted by hypatia238:
Nope I have had plenty of people who like me that I dont like back, as empathic as I am with moon in pisces squaring neptune the ruler of my 5th everyone I have considered dating I always end up having venus to mars aspects with them and other attraction markers in addition to that. As a scorpio riser sexual attraction is important to me and I know right away within seconds typically if a guy has a chance with me or not as I am very intuned with what I LIKE and no I dont confuse my feelings bc they have feelings for me and end up thinking I like them too lol, that honestly does not happen to me ever.
Good to hear that some empaths have emotional boundaries Gives me hope 👍 IP: Logged |
headintheclouds91
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posted August 15, 2016 07:12 PM
[QUOTE]Originally posted by vertiver:
[B] Now I take things really slow, if someone likes me, they can wait - ha!
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Electro DGX
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posted August 15, 2016 07:24 PM
I should probably mention my Neptune aspects/placements.Neptune is ruler of 5th
Jupiter in Pisces
Neptune conjunct Mercury exact and Sun
Netune Trine Moon (wide)
Neptune square Mars and Saturn (T-Square)
Neptune sits in my third conjunct IC, square Ascendant. ------------------
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Einfühlung
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posted August 15, 2016 08:18 PM
This is really interesting. I'm not completely sure if I'm an empath or neptunian. I have sun and Mercury trine Neptune (and 5 other planets touching it).There is someone who I like, and there were times I felt what he felt--random anxiety, sadness, joy-- and thoughts while I'm relaxed and right next to him. When it hits it blows me away because it's so sudden, and most of the time I'm relaxed. I know it's not my thoughts and emotions but his. He has moon square Venus like Nyctea. He also has moon on Neptune but trined. I wonder if it's the same with him too, but up until now it seems like he's taken more interest in me. Lately he's been giving me these loving looks. Now I'm not sure if I'm just seeing things or he's just mirroring my emotions(Maybe Mercury Rx probably already started messing with our heads ) but I haven't been feeling much because of work.
I do have strong feelings for this man, and if it's not mine, or if his emotions aren't actually his... well, I don't know... I'll come back to this thread if it actually happens. Edit to add* I also think synastry might play into this predicament you're talking about too. IP: Logged |
12muddy
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posted August 15, 2016 09:09 PM
Nah. I get the "mirror feelings" with sufferings, pain and problems of others. With romantic feelings, I can get caught up in the heat of the moment, but it's all my feelings. Now I get into amorous moods sometimes, and whoever crosses my path or whatever catches my attention at those times, I'll be waxing poetry about the "moment" and whatnot. I keep them separate from "reality" though. IP: Logged |
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