posted August 23, 2016 05:33 PM            

First off, consider the Moon ruling your 7th. This brings very insecure or needy love interests into your life (trust me, I know from experience! ). It can feel as if you always have to gauge their mood, figure out what's wrong, reassure them that things are okay, etc. And the overlap with the 7th House Sun is that, whether we like it or not, we do have a people-pleaser side to us. So, that only makes us more invested in keeping our partner happy.

Yet, the Sun in the 7th really wants equality in the relationship, more than any other 7th House placement, I think. The Sun is how you define yourself and so, with this placement, we feel that we must be with our equal because that reaffirms our identity. If we feel stronger than our partner, that brings inequality. The 7th House is who we are in partnerships and, even though some people say 7th House Suns may end up someone very strong, we can also sometimes feel like we're the strong one and they're not.

Since we have the Sun in Leo, which is dignified, this can be even truer. Yet, this can turn us off because we're very attracted to confidence. But, the fact that we have the neurotic Moon ruling this 7th sometimes prevents our partner from being all that confident.

You saying you "strengthen" other people speaks to that. I can feel the same way, sometimes. But, I also realize, with Cancer ruling my 7th, just how needy I can actually be, as well. If I am wanting the other person to be my ideal so badly, then I'm the one being needy and insecure.

In the end, a good rule of thumb with the 7th is before you complain about the other person, take a good look in the mirror. I think this is what Sun in the 7th is all about. We are reflections of the people we're close to, with this placement. And who knows? They can easily feel drained by US. When I'm interested in someone, I expect a lot of attention from them, after all, and unconsciously expect them to revolve their time around me. That sure can be draining. I wouldn't be surprised if you were the same way.

I have a 1st House NN in Aquarius, so I am learning to be objective and free on my own, so I don't become draining or let myself get drained in relationships. I don't know if you have any 1st House placements. But, regardless, I think 7th House Sun people need to focus on cultivating a bit more independence first. Then, we can not complain about what we're not getting from the other or what we're giving to the other because we will already feel complete and much less likely to be drained of our energy.

posted August 24, 2016 09:08 AM            

Am curious though. Does the Sun not strengthen the 7th house and sort of "take over"?

Or it could be that wherever the Sun is placed is where we tend to give out a lot of attention? So in the 7th, it could be that the partners(7th) can be overwhelming and self interested. Especially since the Sun isin Leo.

Also Sun in 7th is very similar to Sun in Libra in temperement. Especially since the Sun here depends so much on other's corporation for it to be expressed. And this is not always an easy feat for a Sun in Leo.

posted August 24, 2016 02:05 PM            

Yes, with a 7th House Sun, the significant other, close friend, business partner can be self-absorbed, overwhelming, demanding, etc. But, this is ALSO how the 7th House Sun person can be in close relationships, when they're operating negatively, especially with a Leo Sun.

I think that's why meeting in the middle is such an important concept here. Both people have to be willing to be their best selves. Just one person complaining about the other will often be a case of the pot calling the kettle black because that person can be just like the other person, in some way or another.

Also, yes, it can feel like, with a 7th House Sun, you can't fully be "yourself" without being around someone who is expressive, fun, truly alive, etc. But, this is why the 7th House Sun person has to own their force of personality first. Because those who know us well would actually describe us as being very lively and fun and authentic. We just have to know that about ourselves and know that we bring that to the table in our relationships. That makes us feel more complete and independent.