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Topic: Relationship started and ended with this series of eclipses
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happyleo
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posted September 05, 2016 01:23 PM
  
My last relationship started the night from 12th to 13th of September 2015 and ended on Sept. 1st 2016. It has been a struggle since perhaps February this year, it is all so exact! Can anyone explain me why exactly? I will be posting our synastry in a minute, it would really help me move on.
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happyleo
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posted September 05, 2016 01:28 PM
I am on the inside he is on the outside  IP: Logged |
waxlobster
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posted September 05, 2016 04:53 PM
Well what jumps out at me is that there are no planets of his aspecting your Venus? And your poor Moon has that opposition from his Saturn, sure there's a Mercury sextile, but in order to cope with that Saturn on your delicate Pisces Moon you'd want a few more warm and supportive aspects. I don't get the feeling your needs, or emotions were his top priority, or even factored into his consciousness often enough....? It look like his Pluto is square your Mercury too and yet your Pluto and Saturn make no aspects to his? The last thing I want to see in synastry is an uneven distribution of 'power'. If I see hard Saturn or Pluto aspects, I like to see them go the opposite way too, otherwise the outer planet starts to take too much control in the relationship. Hard aspects per se I don't have a problem with, there's no point being with somebody who doesn't help you grow....usually though it only becomes growth if that works both ways. I have a feeling you were stifled and whilst his Mars and Moon on your Sun felt exciting and fun for a while, if you've been struggling for months already the relief will kick in soon after the grief ;-) IP: Logged |
happyleo
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posted September 05, 2016 05:44 PM
Wow, you are good!
I felt exactly like this. He was very tactless and when I tried to piont it out gently, he'd be the one insulted. Lots of blaming and no self reflection at all, hypercritical and so on.
My feelings had no place there, it's like he never realised I got some too. Actually he seemed to enjoy seeing me hurt. I hate sounding like a victim but I feel conned. He was behaving perfect at first and then switched to the complete opposite, I still can't figure out how that could happen? Usually I am very good at choosing a partner. I also never gave away so much power before in my life.
I thought it's significant both dates were eclipses.
I hope you are right and mourning the illusion he presented me stops sooner rather than later.IP: Logged |
waxlobster
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posted September 05, 2016 08:06 PM
Ah you see you're getting there already. There's nothing you've said that gives me any idea that you miss him, or would like to be back in that situation. It's the shock of break up you're going through, but I don't think you will genuinely miss him once that passes. Onwards and upwards, what you probably will feel over time is some anger - at him, but also at yourself for allowing your feelings to be sidelined. Try to focus on self love, really being kind to yourself and being around people who make you laugh. Eclipses bring lessons, the next one - the lunar one will oppose your Saturn and help you bring the focus back to you (Saturn ruling your Ascendant). Letting go of 'giving ones self esteem away' - another facet of the 8th House (being opposed to the 2nd House). Reiki hugs x IP: Logged |
happyleo
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posted September 06, 2016 03:16 AM
Waxlobster, thank you!
Oh no, I do miss him terribly, then I hate his guts, just to go back to just loving his wounded core, even though I just assume there is a wound...
It's painful to not be able to remain friends as I usually do. Or to at least have an adult conversation even at this point. And I am angry because I took his efforts in the beginning seriously. I don't even count as another human being for him, in turn I don't think of him as being particularly intelligent or capable of a real encounter.
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SunAscendant
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posted September 06, 2016 05:01 AM
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Originally posted by happyleo:
My last relationship started the night from 12th to 13th of September 2015 and ended on Sept. 1st 2016. It has been a struggle since perhaps February this year, it is all so exact! Can anyone explain me why exactly? I will be posting our synastry in a minute, it would really help me move on.
I met this guy February 4th and we ended things at the end of Feb/beginning of March before March's eclipse. Eclipse effects have a 6 month affect on people. So 6 months from late Feb/early March is basically right now Aug/Sept. The last partial eclipse about three weeks ago helped me get over him. It took me 6 months. For the past 6 months I've been in agony over losing him. I've tried in vain to get him back, but no lie on the day of the eclipse on August 18th or something like that, I woke up that morning and was just like "F*ck him". Yesterday was his birthday actually, and I didn't text him because I know he'd never even be mature or have the good manners to respond.
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happyleo
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posted September 06, 2016 05:26 AM
SunAscendant, I am surprised, I never paid attention to eclipses before. I am glad you feel better now. Sounds like you were in a similar situation. Do you have some of the same placements or transits that correspond to mine?IP: Logged |
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