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Topic: Advice for venus in cancer breakup!?
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alludeu
Knowflake Posts: 67
From: Australia
Registered: Aug 2016
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posted September 12, 2016 05:45 AM
  
I met this guy with his venus in cancer (around a month ago) and I think he might be really falling for me, however I don't want to be with him. He is a gemini sun, scorpio moon and Aquarius rising. My north node (conjunct his descendant), sun, mercury and venus (in leo) fall in his 7th house - but for me the only relationship house overlay for me is his moon in my 8th house and nothing in my 7th or 5th.. I know it might hurt him, but does anyone have any idea how I should handle this situation (to make it easier for him)?IP: Logged |
Electro DGX
Knowflake Posts: 1216
From: Plutanus/Uruno
Registered: Jul 2015
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posted September 12, 2016 11:16 AM
You need to be honest with him, but don't necessarily be upfront. He needs to know that you don't feel the same way about him but you should acknowledge his feelings and let him know that you do appreciate his feelings towards you despite not feeling the same. If you straight up tell him and be too upfront, you could end up hurting him more than intended, but you also don't want to create a string of lies by avoiding the situation as his feelings for you continue to build up. Doing it now will avoid a severe downfall, but try to be considerate of his feelings and let him know that you do value his feelings to some extent (not that you feel the same but that you understand where he's coming from). Stellium in 4th house including Venus with four planets conjunct IC. No natal planets in Cancer though. ------------------
Scorpio Ascendant
Aquarius Sun in 4th
Gemini Moon in 8th
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Aries23Degrees
Knowflake Posts: 3291
From: South Africa
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted September 12, 2016 01:29 PM
Just tell him that you just dont feel the same way. There is no way to make it "easy". Just do it a lot sooner than later.IP: Logged |
Lucia23
Knowflake Posts: 511
From:
Registered: Jun 2016
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posted September 12, 2016 03:09 PM
I have Venus in Cancer.Tell him as soon as possible, and say something like, "It just doesn't feel right to me for us to be a couple. I want to be as clear and honest as possible." If he wants reasons, just say, "It's just not what I want." Make sure you never do any back-and-forth or mixed messages. IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees
Knowflake Posts: 3291
From: South Africa
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted September 12, 2016 07:43 PM
Just tell him that you just dont feel the same way. There is no way to make it "easy". Just do it a lot sooner than later.IP: Logged |
PixieJane
Moderator Posts: 8280
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted September 12, 2016 09:10 PM
Offhand (and not knowing the nuances), all I can say is just stick with, "I'm just not feeling it. I'm sorry." Don't give reasons, other than there's no point talking about it as there's no reason, but it's kinder for his sake as well as your own to break it of now. If he presses so you repeat yourself, leave on the third time. IP: Logged |
colorful butterfly
Knowflake Posts: 491
From: Durham north carolina usa
Registered: May 2015
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posted September 12, 2016 09:21 PM
What's his mars placement? Mars is how we handle war and anger. Venus in cancer is a very sensitive placement so just be gentle and I've always felt it best to let men know your always a friend even if they are not interested. Some guys are mature enough to handle those things and some guys haven't reached maturity for it but atleast they still know you care for them just in a different way. IP: Logged |
alludeu
Knowflake Posts: 67
From: Australia
Registered: Aug 2016
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posted September 12, 2016 09:26 PM
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Originally posted by colorful butterfly:
What's his mars placement? Mars is how we handle war and anger. Venus in cancer is a very sensitive placement so just be gentle and I've always felt it best to let men know your always a friend even if they are not interested. Some guys are mature enough to handle those things and some guys haven't reached maturity for it but atleast they still know you care for them just in a different way.
His Mars is in Aries in the 4th house.
Thanks everyone for the advice!IP: Logged |
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