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Topic: Scorpio Moon Sting (Really Needing Help)
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PiscesCancerTaurus
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From: Finland
Registered: Jun 2013
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posted October 01, 2016 12:41 AM
  
Sorry, kind of long. PLEASE HELP!
I am a girl, in love with another girl. She pursued me at first (so it seemed), I was hesitant but finally caved and then opened up about my feelings towards her. Ever since then it feels like she has been trying to get back at me for having feelings for her. She is a Scorpio moon, Gemini sun and it feels like after I told her how I felt she played me. I held it in for months but I could tell it was different between us after I told her how I felt. She completely changed and did a 180 with her personality. One night her games got to be too much and I said she was acting desperate because she was. She was constantly talking about how if she does this she might meet a man or if she acts this way she will meet one. I was getting really annoyed by it. By the way, she said she only liked me as a friend and I tried to break it off with her but the two of us were to sad to not be in each other's lives so we remained friends. Finally, when we broke things off for good, she said to stay out of her life and that we were not friends, but she was always around me. Anyway, cut to right now, she blocked me from her phone and FB and everything else, but at work she is constantly in my department. I was so hurt that she cut me off that I was like forget this, I don't want to see her anymore but the recent Mercury Rx kept making us run into each other in the most random places. Example, I would be at work really early before anyone else and out of nowhere there she is standing near my desk talking to another early bird. We ran into each other in the hall way that is on the complete opposite end from where she works. In reality, we work in two separate areas of the company so we really should never see each other at work, EVER. But there she is, standing or socializing right in front of my office. She is currently going through her Saturn return at the moment. We met right before her Saturn return started, right after her BF cheated on her and dumped her. She began showing me signs that she too was interested in women so that is why I thought it was safe to tell her how I felt. (That was also why I was hesitant with her at first) I don't understand Scorpios too much or Saturn returns I guess. I'm not sure why she is acting this way. She has manipulated me a few times to get things she wants and although everyone keeps telling me that she has shown me her true colors, I don't believe this is who she really is. Her personality has changed for the worst. She has started to act like a high school girl, immature, ruining her reputation by making people believe she is dating so many guys and sleeping with them, trying to be best friends with other girls BF, being obnoxious around large groups of people to make everything think she is popular and loved by everyone. She goes out clubbing and drinking every weekend.
She has told me numerous times that I know her better than anyone and that she feels I know her better than even her family, yet she treats me like I never existed in her life. She told me too that she feels we were brought into each other's lives for a reason. I know everyone says to let her go, but it's not about the feelings anymore, I feel like I am supposed to be in her life to help her, not to just sit back and watch her ruin her life.
If she wants me out of her life, why won't she stay out of mine? Is all of this because of her Saturn return? Can someone read her chart and explain this too me? PLEASE!?  Synsatry
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Aries23Degrees
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From: South Africa
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted October 01, 2016 04:39 AM
I dont think that this is sign specific as much as it is douche specific  This girl can sense that hse can play with your emotional nature. And so she does... The best bet is to slowly distance yourself from her. Not cold turky, but over time. She didnt ask for your "help", so dont extend it to her please
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hearttreasure
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posted October 01, 2016 05:32 AM
Similar to my on-off-on-off-on (well, hundred times I guess lol) relationship, but has different moon sign (the draconic in Scorpio tough). I've been hurted so many times that I lost my happy face.I'm not really good at reading chart, but I think she is still in resentment and can not let go the hurts, so she plays the game to let you know what hurt is. I think you need to stay away for awhile and don't put your thoughts on her until she realizes her actions. I know it's hard, but remember that you need a happiness without games. I made a lot of mistakes by staying longer, I wasted lot of time trying to help, but I realized that I need to help me first out from the games and take control of myself. IP: Logged |
Astra
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posted October 01, 2016 05:35 AM
When someone shows you their true colors, believe them. This girl is a massive, manipulative jerk. Her ego probably got bruised from being dumped by her ex, but that is no excuse to play around with your emotions. She manipulated you into thinking she likes girls because she wanted the ego boost by having you show interest. Once you succumbed to her pursuit of you, she felt like she had achieved her goal and you no longer interested her. You could say she likes the "chase," but doesn't care about the "prize." Your purpose was to heal her bruised ego. That's it. She doesn't care about you at all.If you have to speak to her at work, then be cordial. Do not treat her like a friend. Keep your interactions with her brief. Do not speak to her about your feelings or personal life. This is not the type of person you should invite into your life. You deserve so much better. A person who cares about you will treat you with respect. IP: Logged |
florence
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posted October 01, 2016 07:38 AM
I think she has a hard chart & is probably in a lot of pain. The best you can probably do for you both is to ensure you are grounded, not affected by the games, live your life. if you can do that, truly and not be affected, she might learn to look through her own aspects / games.IP: Logged |
PiscesCancerTaurus
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From: Finland
Registered: Jun 2013
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posted October 01, 2016 11:19 AM
I appreciate all of your feed back. I don't understand why she sought me out just to hurt me. I have never met her before her seeking me out, so I don't know why I had to be her victim.
We work in the same building and it is a big building. We are in two separate department. I have tried to stay away from her. I have asked her several time to stay away from me. I hardly leave me office unless I need the restroom or for lunch. So it's not like I am seeking her out, she is just always hanging around my office, right in front of it, right in my line of sight. I guess I am curious how to win at this game she is playing or at least get her to understand her BS? I def do NOT want to hurt her or anything but just kind of make her realize what a psycho she has been and show her how annoying it is the games she is playing. Anyone ever have experience with a Gemini sun, Scorpio moon, Cancer Asc, Cancer mars? IP: Logged |
12muddy
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posted October 01, 2016 01:11 PM
^ I ran into trouble with one that had all the same placements as this girl you're dealing with, except for the asc.What you described was just like what the girl I knew did. Over the years I have known a handful of gem sun/scorp moon people. The ones who acted "negative", often it was because they tore themselves up by thinking, analyzing, anticipating the moves, obsessing, crawling at their past trauma. People around them just got swept up in the mess. IP: Logged |
scorpiogirl
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posted October 01, 2016 04:43 PM
It sounds like this woman just wants to play games with you and manipulate you.Some people are unhappy and feel lost in their lives so they behave that way. Don't let her suck your energy like that. Put up walls, but carefully, since you see her at work. IP: Logged |
whaaat
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posted October 01, 2016 06:25 PM
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whaaat
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posted October 01, 2016 06:32 PM
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EmGem
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posted October 01, 2016 07:01 PM
She's a hot mess. YOU DESERVE BETTER!!!! IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted October 01, 2016 11:55 PM
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Originally posted by PiscesCancerTaurus:
I appreciate all of your feed back. I don't understand why she sought me out just to hurt me.
"People can only meet you as deeply as they've met themselves". Maybe she doesn't realize she's seeking people out just to hurt them, but it sounds like that's what she did. I also get the feeling it's an ego trip and Scorpio can definitely be full of a lot of ego. I'm realizing a darker personality trait of theirs is they like to have their cake and eat it too. Some Scorpios / Scorpio-influenced people are more evolved though and can be hilarious, sweet, and very comforting / protective so I hope this experience doesn't deter you from them forever. quote:
I have never met her before her seeking me out, so I don't know why I had to be her victim.
Probably because she could see you were genuine which in her mind as a Gemini / Scorpio would be easy to play. I was thinking about this with Gemini's today, about applying / translating their textbook definitions to real life. A pattern I see with this sign is they enjoy annoying people. Poking the bear and seeing the reaction, to file it away in their mind and somehow that's how they feel more comfortable. Then you combine it with forever-skeptic Scorpio and ...oy. I mean you'll never know what personality you get and just when you think you've got the hang of it that Moon will come out, say one word, and blow your whole theory...which was probably right all along but they don't want you thinking you actually KNOW them. << take this with a grain of salt, I'm reliving my experiences with my quadruple Scorpio / Pluto friend >>
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I guess I am curious how to win at this game she is playing or at least get her to understand her BS?
Don't, just live your life. Think of how silly it is that she's playing a game ...all by herself. It's insane. My supposed "best" Scorpio friend and I just randomly stopped talking for a third time, two years ago. In the past I initiated contact with her and coaxed her out of her shell but it was so much work for so little reward. This time I did not initiate and here I am two years later finding out she misses me at times and hasn't reached out because it's been too long. It's a cold war with Scorpio because they're the most comfortable with power plays. They might not like that they do it but it's what comes naturally. quote:
Anyone ever have experience with a Gemini sun, Scorpio moon, Cancer Asc, Cancer mars?
BLECH AND Cancer mixed in there? I can only imagine how many times I would roll my eyes if I was you!!! Hang in there, you sound down to earth. Don't let her drag you down to her level by "making her understand." People like that have baggage...why take it on after being treated like you have?! IP: Logged | |
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