posted October 09, 2016 04:36 PM            

Caps are very sensitive to cues about where they can and cannot let their guard down. So this seemed like a kind of testing of the waters. There's a lot you can tell about a person based on how they would handle a situation like that: whether the dance partner is too into it and using it as an opportunity to sort of emotionally manipulate things (giving puppy eyes, expressing desire for greater commitment) or not into it enough (laughing and god forbid mocking) or...all kinds of communications that come across in that circumstance.

His Aqua moon might feel like it has to follow the cues of your Aqua sun (right?) and that could explain some distance from the mushiness, too. Like he felt that on some level, you are not about that stuff.

posted October 09, 2016 05:06 PM            

ETA: I mean real love isn't necessarily about dancing to mushy songs.

posted October 09, 2016 08:24 PM            

The issue here could be that you two have differing "lovestyles" i.e you have differing ways in expressing feelings and emotions. And because of this difference, one of you can feel "robbed" by the other's lack of voluntary reciprocation or wishing that they could give concrete "evidence" of their appreciation of you.

I can imagine how unsatisfyjng it must be to try and guess how the other feels about you so much so that getting them to do something that brings you closer to them, is like pulling teeth.

I would totally understand someone not being comfortable with getting close to you by dancing around the room etc. But then they must also be willing to show affection in alternative ways that you can discern and appreciate. Because u want them to "want" to show you and not force their hand.

Not all Caps are uncomfortable with displaying affection. Some are quite romantic (but that also depends on their placements).

The common thing i have noticed with many is that they roll their eyes to anything that is more of a "superficial" display of affection and if willing, will find more authentic ways of showing you that they care.

If your Cap dislikes getting "deep" with you in that way, then perhaps you should explore his love style and see whether or not it is compatible with yours?

Cap Venus people i know for instance may not serenade you with flowers and candy. But they may be more predisposed to cooking for you, taking care of you, making sure that your life is organized and being the voice of reason when in an emotional dilemma.

Moon in Aquarius may have them nurture you through intellectual rapport and sharing ideals than physical stimulation. But this will also be in conjunction with the house placement of the moon.

Now if you are the type who loves hugs,kisses and sweet nothings whispered in your ear, the Moon in Aqua/Cap Venus lover may come across very awkward, "cold"or difficult to get close to from that perspective.

posted October 10, 2016 02:13 AM            

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Originally posted by StelliumH6:
Aries23, I agree with what you told me. He does show he cares for me by preparing homemade delicious meals and being supportive by listening and giving life advice. He almost has a fatherly way in loving me, if that makes sense?
I am Aquarius Sun and Capricorn Moon, so I get where he is coming from.
He gets closer, then steps back a little. He gets close again. Slow and steady.
I was thinking perhaps he said the dance was getting too deep as he was overwhelmed with emotion and that he needed to regroup.

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The fatherly way in loving you is very much Capricorn Venus Take it from me, Venus conjunct Saturn that this is the most confortable way that i also express affection.

If there is a pulling back, dont be discouraged. So long as its not a complete shutdown it is likely that he doesnt want to expose his more emotional mushy centre as he may feel that that may degrade the external fatherly protective mode that he wants you to think of him as being.

Some guys have really fragile egos am afraid and their idea of masculinity leans very much to stocism. Emotions threaten that comfort zone very much.

posted October 10, 2016 12:24 PM            

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Originally posted by StelliumH6:
We used to see each other back in high school when we were 15 - 17 years old. 30 years later we are back together. Our first date, the second time around, was February 2015.

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Saturn can't be that strong for long. Especially with someone they have known for yonkers.

The walls are cracking on him and he is really nervous that the dam will spill. Just you wait and see....

Love a Venus in Cap 1st time around. And its usually not so pleasant.

posted October 10, 2016 12:44 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Saturn can't be that strong for long. Especially with someone they have known for yonkers.

The walls are cracking on him and he is really nervous that the dam will spill. Just you wait and see....

Love a Venus in Cap 1st time around. And its usually not so pleasant.

Love a Venus in cap the 2nd time around. And there is much more to be enjoyed

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posted October 10, 2016 01:26 PM            

You know, the constellation LYRA is in Capricorn. And there are so many famous male Capricorn singers....

Maybe because Caps like to be in control of the exact message they put across, not dance to another person's tune.

Dave Matthews wrote this one for his wife:
Crash Into Me

(Not just, come a little closer)

John Legend, for his wife:
All of Me

(Not most of me, or half of me)

This is the only song I know of, that Elvis explicitly dedicated this to his wife:
Always on My Mind

(Not sometimes on my mind)

R.E.M
The One I Love

(Not the few that I love)

Actually the Flight of the Conchords made a few parodies of half-a$$ love songs... the singer/writer is a Cap:

The Most Beautiful Girl (In the Room)

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Sorry this is a little off topic. Just wanted to round out the study of Capricorn men and their feelings towards music.