posted October 13, 2016 05:14 PM            

Though interesting enough, I was invited to a threesome by a husband AND wife. They both asked me at the same time, and I believe they both were sincere about it. We went to the same fitness club, and both were fine looking specimens for their respective gender, so it's not that they needed a pretty face for them to get into it again (though I expect adding me would still be a bit of spice for something getting a little stale, a little adventure and new anticipations to counter the predictability). We'd also talked for a long while, though not that deeply (I can barely recall what led up to the offer), and I liked them both as casual friends. That was one of the rare moments I was actually intrigued the idea (but then I had gotten comfortable with them both, as opposed to the many strangers trying to get into my pants), but I sincerely regretted telling them no as I was in a monogamous relationship (even as my own partner who championed monogamy as the only way to be was cheating behind my back, but I wouldn't find that out for awhile yet--and it's not that she was bored with me because she fought like hell to keep me when I said it was over).

posted October 13, 2016 05:37 PM            

But seriously, Venus-Pluto energy does give a person a "forbidden fruit" kind of appeal. The messed up thing about this placement is that the person can be more attractive to the other when either the Venus-Pluto individual is somehow unavailable or unattainable or when the other is unavailable or unattainable. But its important, if you have this placement, to stop and wonder if you are possibly attracting this kind of drama into your life.

It can be applicable to men and women with this placement, of course. In a situation with a male and a Venus-Pluto female, it can be especially powerful. But I am not big on gender attachments to the planets.

posted October 13, 2016 05:44 PM            

I have been told that I look like trouble. A random guy actually said that when I was with one of my guy friends that really liked me and told him to watch out for me. All I did was walk into the building while eating my delicious frozen yogurt and I got that reaction! How exactly? I wouldn't know.

I'm still confused when I read on here that we Venus/Pluto attract unavailable people, like do we just have this magnet that attracts these taken people or what? I do believe it might be a certain look we give out though.

posted October 13, 2016 07:35 PM            

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Originally posted by Readytochill:
I sure hope not

I have been told that I look like trouble. A random guy actually said that when I was with one of my guy friends that really liked me and told him to watch out for me. All I did was walk into the building while eating my delicious frozen yogurt and I got that reaction! How exactly? I wouldn't know.

I'm still confused when I read on here that we Venus/Pluto attract unavailable people, like do we just have this magnet that attracts these taken people or what? I do believe it might be a certain look we give out though.

What look can I give to attract single men? Lol

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Haha Pluto energy is actually at its sexiest and most attractive when the person is not trying to be sexy. Its like the sex appeal functions best when it's as much of a mystery to the Plutonian.

So just keep eating your frozen yogurt and the men will continue to flock your way.

posted October 13, 2016 08:34 PM            

Oh em gee, guys! This is the most perfectly timed post I've ever encountered in my time here. I am a Venus-Pluto female (Aqua Sun, Libra Rising, Cap Moon, 6H Pisces Venus). I could really use added perspective and advice, so please add to the thread. It's moments like this where I'm especially grateful for this LL community .

I actually signed on weary and watery-eyed about a culmination of all the scenarios so many posters have described. The Venusian/Plutonian aesthetic is supposedly legendary (and advantageous?), but man, it feels like a burden when you carry that essence as a woman. Men get wildly attracted to us and overstep boundaries. It gets creepy really quickly.

I've encountered all of the themes others have mentioned: Imposing, taken men. Obsessive and taboo attractions sent my way. I always turn them down, even when I might find myself initially attracted (before learning they're in established bonds). I'm big on monogamy and loyalty, so I'm actually super offended to even be considered as mistress material!!! Yet, these shady propositions come my way. It makes me feel like a harlot, a **** , or a concubine. It makes my femininity (which I otherwise enjoy) seem more like a liability.

And lastly, it'll always baffle me how often I attract attention while minding my own business or even trying to go unnoticed. Sorry for the rant guys. It's rare that I can really rant about this without feeling like I sound narcissistic.

QUESTIONS: I don't get what it is about the supposed 24/7 sexy Plutonian "vibe". I love it when I'm going for a sensual look, but how do I turn this thing off?! What can be done to harness this energy and lose the taken creeps? Also, what could be the motivation to attract these troublesome scenarios, if that's the case? What's at the core of such a compulsion???

posted October 14, 2016 10:15 AM            

I can tell you it does NOT always result in arising these creepy, obsessive tendencies in other men. I think that has more to do with how you carry yourself, what your "look" is, what type of "vibe" you put out and how you present yourself to the world on a daily basis.

I am about as "normal" as they come in terms of my appearance, how I dress and style myself and also how I present myself in public. I also am fairly quiet and keep to myself most of the time. As such, I don't unintentionally invite people (men) to become that "friendly" with me when I haven't given them any reason to approach me.

Let's face it, men are visual creatures. If you walk down the street and stand out in some way, either because you are drop dead gorgeous, are volumptuous/wearing revealing clothing, have something "unusual" about your look or are simply "vibing" the right way, someone will inevitably stare at you or try to approach you if possible. This is what initiates the attraction/conversation which then leads to any number of possibilities.

I think we have complete control over the situations we find ourselves in and perhaps even unintentionally we invite the types of people into our lives who would put us in these kinds of positions.

I'm only saying this because in 30 years of life, I have never had a man want to make me his "mistress" or anything like what has been described so far.

For me, it is much more of a PERSONAL struggle as my relationships have been nothing short of tumultuous so far, and I try every single day to NOT let my paranoid, suspicious feelings ruin what could otherwise be a great thing. It's constantly feeling like you're waiting for the other shoe to drop or that someone will inevitably let you down that is exhausting. To just trust and let go is almost impossible. I am also guilty of being a little obsessive and maybe even a little controlling in my relationships.

posted October 14, 2016 11:10 AM            

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Originally posted by Readytochill:
I sure hope not

I have been told that I look like trouble. A random guy actually said that when I was with one of my guy friends that really liked me and told him to watch out for me. All I did was walk into the building while eating my delicious frozen yogurt and I got that reaction! How exactly? I wouldn't know.

I'm still confused when I read on here that we Venus/Pluto attract unavailable people, like do we just have this magnet that attracts these taken people or what? I do believe it might be a certain look we give out though.

What look can I give to attract single men? Lol

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I have gotten that too numerous of times throughout my life.

posted October 14, 2016 11:26 AM            

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Originally posted by Readytochill:
I sure hope not
I'm still confused when I read on here that we Venus/Pluto attract unavailable people, like do we just have this magnet that attracts these taken people or what? I do believe it might be a certain look we give out though.

What look can I give to attract single men? Lol

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posted October 14, 2016 11:31 AM            

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Originally posted by RogueReader:

Oh em gee, guys! This is the most perfectly timed post I've ever encountered in my time here. I am a Venus-Pluto female (Aqua Sun, Libra Rising, Cap Moon, 6H Pisces Venus). I could really use added perspective and advice, so please add to the thread. It's moments like this where I'm especially grateful for this LL community .

I actually signed on weary and watery-eyed about a culmination of all the scenarios so many posters have described. The Venusian/Plutonian aesthetic is supposedly legendary (and advantageous?), but man, it feels like a burden when you carry that essence as a woman. Men get wildly attracted to us and overstep boundaries. It gets creepy really quickly.

I've encountered all of the themes others have mentioned: Imposing, taken men. Obsessive and taboo attractions sent my way. I always turn them down, even when I might find myself initially attracted (before learning they're in established bonds). I'm big on monogamy and loyalty, so I'm actually super offended to even be considered as mistress material!!! Yet, these shady propositions come my way. It makes me feel like a harlot, a **** , or a concubine. It makes my femininity (which I otherwise enjoy) seem more like a liability.

And lastly, it'll always baffle me how often I attract attention while minding my own business or even trying to go unnoticed. Sorry for the rant guys. It's rare that I can really rant about this without feeling like I sound narcissistic.

QUESTIONS: I don't get what it is about the supposed 24/7 sexy Plutonian "vibe". I love it when I'm going for a sensual look, but how do I turn this thing off?! What can be done to harness this energy and lose the taken creeps? Also, what could be the motivation to attract these troublesome scenarios, if that's the case? What's at the core of such a compulsion???

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posted October 14, 2016 01:33 PM            

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Originally posted by sarahhm:
venus conjunct pluto here.. no idea what you guys are talking about. never experienced anything like this.

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posted October 14, 2016 01:45 PM            

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Originally posted by sarahhm:
venus conjunct pluto here.. no idea what you guys are talking about. never experienced anything like this.

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posted October 14, 2016 02:08 PM            

I don't realize if it can give the vibe, but one thing I am very sure is that my friendship with my male friends will turn awkward after their women want to meet me and finally see me.

posted October 14, 2016 03:26 PM            

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Originally posted by hearttreasure:
does venus trine pluto 1' count?

I don't realize if it can give the vibe, but one thing I am very sure is that my friendship with my male friends will turn awkward after their women want to meet me and finally see me.

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Haha i have experienced something similar with guys i have befriended. But with me they are the ones that will turn awkward and sometimes get the wrong idea about me, like suddenly thinking i am into them just bc i like to hang and talk with them sometimes and they get awkward bc they don`t feel the same or its the other way around that they are starting to develop feelings for me and they start acting awkward bc of that.

posted October 14, 2016 05:58 PM            

i'm in my early twenties and in university so a majority of the guys around me are still awkward turtles and insecure and i've been told that i look like i'd automatically turn them down if any of them tried to come up to me <- that usually follows the whole 'i'm surprised you're so sweet!'

but i now remember i once had a married man tell me about his past infidelity that lasted 10 years and ended it with.. 'you know, you remind me of her so much'

so maybe it's an age thing and in a decade or so ill be able to relate to your posts fellow venus/pluto sisters

posted October 14, 2016 06:29 PM            

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Originally posted by sarahhm:
now when i think about it - what are you guy's age range?

i'm in my early twenties and in university so a majority of the guys around me are still awkward turtles and insecure and i've been told that i look like i'd automatically turn them down if any of them tried to come up to me <- that usually follows the whole 'i'm surprised you're so sweet!'

but i now remember i once had a married man tell me about his past infidelity that lasted 10 years and ended it with.. 'you know, you remind me of her so much'

so maybe it's an age thing and in a decade or so ill be able to relate to your posts fellow venus/pluto sisters

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posted October 14, 2016 06:29 PM            

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Originally posted by sarahhm:
now when i think about it - what are you guy's age range?

i'm in my early twenties and in university so a majority of the guys around me are still awkward turtles and insecure and i've been told that i look like i'd automatically turn them down if any of them tried to come up to me <- that usually follows the whole 'i'm surprised you're so sweet!'

but i now remember i once had a married man tell me about his past infidelity that lasted 10 years and ended it with.. 'you know, you remind me of her so much'

so maybe it's an age thing and in a decade or so ill be able to relate to your posts fellow venus/pluto sisters

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Not likely. It's much stronger when you're younger. And I've noticed I get less male attention when I'm with a teenage girl (though they have the good taste not to try to chat her up at least...not when I'm present anyway; ETA: she has Leo Venus, Sag Pluto). I had to deal with that as a kid myself.

And there were 2 guys who looked like they went to a local community college. The way they dressed (and their ages) suggested it but it's not actual proof they did. One of them (with no protest from the other) said to me as he passed, "You just scream 'rape me.'" (I was in my early 30s by then, while they looked about 20.) I'm not certain what that was about, though my guess is they built themselves up by tearing others down (they kept going without turning around, which tells me they weren't entirely confident in their behavior), and if they'd talk that way to me, then surely they'd talk that way to women their own age (though if universities stomp down on that behavior then maybe not if you're IN Uni).

posted October 14, 2016 06:34 PM            

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Originally posted by DopGang:
So I wonder how many women who DON'T have this aspect feel the same way?

I bet a lot.
I think this bridges over to a societal issue.

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Good question!

I used to think it was about a universal experience, but apparently it's not. It's still pretty common.