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Topic: Taurus males - slow to commit?
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SparklingSag
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posted October 17, 2016 05:14 PM
  
Hey all
As a saggie female I am finding my other's half's slowness in committing quite tough. He is a planner and loves to plan but I feel he thinks everything but does not always share (says my Libra mars and venus!).I am not sure how to handle this... Any others experience Taurus male energy?
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Aries23Degrees
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posted October 18, 2016 05:47 AM
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Originally posted by SparklingSag:
Hey all
As a Saggie female I am finding my other's half's slowness in committing quite tough. He is a planner and loves to plan but I feel he thinks everything but does not always share (says my Libra mars and venus!).I am not sure how to handle this... Any others experience Taurus male energy?
Sparkling
I have Mars in Libra myself ...holla  Okay, well Taurus is slow to do anything  Especially if Taurus is on the Solar position. Does he have Aries/Aquarius placements anywhere? What does his chart look like? Its hard to judge from Sun sign alone. IP: Logged |
charlie
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posted October 18, 2016 06:23 AM
My husband has a Taurus Moon (Aries Sun). He is extremely fast IN, and extremely slow OUT. If that makes sense. I am always weary of men being slow to imitate things because I interpret it as if interest level is not up to par. But that's me.Edit: I meant to write slow out-for those that read the opposite. IP: Logged |
ReadingTheStars95
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posted October 18, 2016 07:16 AM
I'm a Taurean male. In regards to relationships, I can be quite slow. I personally think it's foolish to begin "dating" someone you've only known for a short period of time, but then again maybe that's because I tend to be a very serious person in certain regards. Idk.. why start a commitment with someone you barely know? Personality is obviously a motivator, but give that a year and you realize that really you may not have as much in common with each other as you thought.I have Venus in Aries, and I think that's maybe why I'm slow into things now. I always rushed into things without much thought when I was younger.. in regards to relationships that tended to not usually end up in the best favor of me or the other person. I don't really understand how some people start dating someone they've literally been talking to for only a few weeks. I even consider a couple months to be relatively quick. I feel like Taureans like to weigh their options. Partly why I think they tend to be considered to be stubborn. They've spent time thinking on their decisions, so once they've made one they aren't quick to sway from it. They can be very slow, but generally it's to make sure they are truly comfortable with the option it is they make. Taurus is a sign of comfort and this is one way I feel it comes into play. They aren't going to choose something until they are or have grown very comfortable with that choice and weighed it against the pros and cons of all the other decisions they could think of. Now, this paragraph I am not speaking in terms of relationships but I'm sure it can translate that way too at times. I also do feel that you may be onto something in regards to them not sharing. Taurus does rule the throat and this may very well also wrap in a bit with vocal expression. They may put a lot of focus into what they are sharing. Not to mention Taurus's energy's relation to the second house of possessions and values. I feel like they tend to be rather quiet in regards to what they actually share. I feel Taurus can be a very straightforward sign, and try to really say what they mean. They seem they can be delicate with their words too.. But I feel like a Taurus wants you to realize both the power of your words and their's. I guess in a way, they seem they could be a sign to put a lot of weight on their words. They may not always share everything going through their mind but they want you to know the moment they actually say something they mean it. That when they say "I love you" they mean it in the purest sense with all their heart. IP: Logged |
ReadingTheStars95
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posted October 18, 2016 07:43 AM
^^ of course in the regards of how Taureans share im sure it depends on a few things. For example, I have my Mercury in the 9th house. This could lead me to want to go within and explore things before really putting them out there. Along with a few other factors..So it varies. A whole person's chart needs to be taken into consideration.
(EDIT: on a total side note. I don't know what it is about the signs Taurus and Sag and their link to each other.. I've seen the signs pan out with one another in a lot of different scenarios. Such an odd combination. I definitely see common ground but it's like.. in some ways the energy just clashes. It seems like Sag often wants to get things moving when Taurus is still getting out of bed, metaphorically. This can be frustrating for the Sag and the Taurus. The Taurus likes to take its time. The sag doesn't always have the patience. I feel like the combination is somewhat challenging but at the same time oddly well-rounded and pleasant at times. It definitely seems to create friction, but at the same time that certain area of common ground can make for a relatively appealing time for the two. I don't often feel like the signs ever really "get" each other completely but at the same time I don't think they feel the need to 100%..... I feel like with the whole thing with Taurus not sharing, at times, combined with Sag's occasional bluntness can frustrate the Taurean.. possibly making the Taurean feel as if they aren't getting through to the Sag. )
Idk. There's much more that goes into it.. and I may be totally off about that last bit, as I've been up all night.. overall I feel the combination of these signs seems to pop up A LOT, and for better or worse they usually wind up in a close vicinity, pushing each other into change. IP: Logged |
yungang_grotto
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posted October 18, 2016 10:51 AM
 Interesting! Not thought at length about the implications of that quincunx by sign, but yeah... Sag-Taurus... hmm! IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees
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posted October 18, 2016 04:53 PM
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Originally posted by ReadingTheStars95:
I have Venus in Aries, and I think that's maybe why I'm slow into things now.
I thought that as a Taurus Sun with Venus in Aries position,you'd be "full steam ahead" ..hmmm I am Sag Sun with Venus in Scorpio and I rush into dating. I love the initial stages. But am really slow into committing- as I feel that that is when things start to get too serious. Lol Oh and I love what you said about Taurus. I think what Taurus wants most times is "substance".And Sag is all abstract but very little substance(barring other planetary placement influences) You'd think the Taurus would step back and say "this is not for me". But most often times, they don't(Cancer too). The in-conjunct connection rivals even the trine when it comes to mates/relationships I have seen(no doubt). It must be that one feels like they are exploring something with the other that they won't be able to easily explore with anyone else? I don't know... It should not work really, but it does IP: Logged |
yungang_grotto
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posted October 18, 2016 05:02 PM
^^^  It doesn't, so it does. Yeah.IP: Logged |
florence
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posted October 18, 2016 05:34 PM
The Taurus - sag connection is so true. I connect well with sag and Ive seen a lot of others with this combination. I've tried to figure it out myself. Sometimes I feel nervous with sag that I won't be entertaining enough but then .. There's a moment I recognise my groundedness comes into its own and suits them. I think there are a few well known taurean philosophers and there's something on that level the signs connect with. (I sometimes wonder if a new ruling planet is ever attributed to Taurus, whether a big part of that will make sense of the connection - if Taurus is less materially orientated). Sags are so entertaining and I admire that they can be out of their shell & so verbal but I really feel I see them beyond just that .. That I can just -be- with them, am calming, don't need the show. It's hard to explain though but it feels like a mutual respect which could just be their skill with people. It's like they've the gift of speech (but a bit more grounded than Gemini) which Taurus can admire but as a quiet sign we know that that's not the only important thing and the sag can be free to not entertain. & in turn sag opens up the potentials of relating for Taurus. No, can't describe it. I think there's some sharing of similar inner tensions that one sign extroverts and the other introverts, which I suppose is the quincunx aspect. It's a very nice feeling, like a hidden dimension .. But, then there are problems involved in that too. -- To answer the Q ..I think Taurus are in relatively quickly but if there's stalling it's down to some fears. & like Charlie said out slow which is why the fears are so paralysing IP: Logged |
Aries23Degrees
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posted October 18, 2016 05:40 PM
Oh yes, And i also forgot to mention that one of my very good friend in varsity, was TaurusMe: Sag 29 Deg
Him: Taurus 29 Deg There is a not a day that passed that we didn't have things to share and laugh about. He hated going out or being around others- which I also respected and made room for. So there ya go!
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teasel
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posted October 18, 2016 08:24 PM
I think Taurus are usually pretty fast. I've only known those with planets in the fire signs, though, so maybe that explains it. IP: Logged |
polkadotstars
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posted October 18, 2016 08:33 PM
I've always heard Sag and Taurus are really bad together, at least in relationships. After my ex and I broke up (Taurus) he dated a Sag girl. They always had a thing for each other, but they were terrible together. I think they did the whole on-off thing for many years.
I have a friend who did the same thing with a Sag, she was a Taurus. Very on-off as well for many years, until they called off the engagement and ended it for good. As far as Taurus goes, I'd say they typically take their time when it comes to relationships. Unless they have a lot of Aries in them, they are typically the types who go at their own pace. Especially if they have Taurus Venus. My boyfriend is a Taurus Venus and argh, the initial dating phase was torture to me (an Aries Venus) lol. IP: Logged |
ReadingTheStars95
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posted October 18, 2016 09:44 PM
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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
I thought that as a Taurus Sun with Venus in Aries position,you'd be "full steam ahead" ..hmmm
Yeah, that's sort of what I was saying. When I was younger, I DID rush into a lot. And because of that usually only going so well, I'm now much more cautious. (I have a bit more I want to say.. Hopefully I'll try and come back to this in a sec) IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted October 19, 2016 01:15 AM
My mum and dad were a Taurus/Sadge couple. They were married less than a year after meeting, and he's the only person to get her down the aisle. They were divorced for a while, and then remarried. He's feeling pretty lost without her. He visits her grave just down the road, every day. IP: Logged |
ReadingTheStars95
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posted October 19, 2016 01:24 AM
^^^My parents are a Taurus Sag couple too. My Mom being the Taurus. My mom and I both have our Moons in Sag
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Kannon McAfee
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posted October 19, 2016 05:23 PM
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Originally posted by SparklingSag:
Hey all
As a saggie female I am finding my other's half's slowness in committing quite tough. He is a planner and loves to plan but I feel he thinks everything but does not always share (says my Libra mars and venus!).I am not sure how to handle this... Any others experience Taurus male energy?
Sparkling
Yes, I'm a Taurus male (sun, saturn, merc, venus) and there is no revelation in the fact we tend to be slow moving. It is the principle of inertia. Once we get into a place of comfort we can be difficult to rouse to action or a more proactive posture. You could approach this in a practical way. Schedule a sit-down planning session with him in which he tells you what he's got in mind for your future. Tell him you want that -- to hear what he's been thinking about that way. Then take his own thoughts and wrap them up into an acceptable plan moving forward. In a sense it is a communication matter. Then lead him step-by-step forward with this plan towards commitment. You can lead a Taurus, but if you get pushy - well, forget it. Nagging or pushing will get you nothing. Wait around forever, and well you may find you've had a long life together -- with or without a ceremony.
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elixir
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posted October 21, 2016 06:56 PM
Taurus and cancer really need to feel things out. It has to feel intuitive and right. When they're in, they're all in.IP: Logged |
SparklingSag
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posted October 22, 2016 02:22 PM
Hello All!So sorry for my delay in replying (in middle of moving country - very Sag!). My partner does not know his exact birthday ( he was born in the village and not in a hospital) and so his dad could not remember his exact date in early May. So frustrating for me in terms of not knowing his other placements. In terms of how he is: generally very calm and quiet but does love to laugh and PLAN. He may not communicate the plan but he is thinking ALOT all the time. Has a caring nature, considering others all the time. When it comes to confrontation he does not like to talk. He very much SHOWS how he feels ( have you eaten enough, i'll walk you, are you okay, are you comfortable? etc. So am sad not to know his chart or other planets. Sparkling IP: Logged |
SparklingSag
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posted October 22, 2016 02:26 PM
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Originally posted by Kannon McAfee:
Yes, I'm a Taurus male (sun, saturn, merc, venus) and there is no revelation in the fact we tend to be slow moving. It is the principle of inertia. Once we get into a place of comfort we can be difficult to rouse to action or a more proactive posture.You could approach this in a practical way. Schedule a sit-down planning session with him in which he tells you what he's got in mind for your future. Tell him you want that -- to hear what he's been thinking about that way. Then take his own thoughts and wrap them up into an acceptable plan moving forward. In a sense it is a communication matter. Then lead him step-by-step forward with this plan towards commitment. You can lead a Taurus, but if you get pushy - well, forget it. Nagging or pushing will get you nothing. Wait around forever, and well you may find you've had a long life together -- with or without a ceremony.
Yes, I agree - he seems to not like me saying lets talk! He visibly gets uncomfortable and told me he does not talk well.So a plan in a gentle approach and non- fiery. Although I am very Libran in love (mars and venus in libra) so I like to take and share so is defo communication issue. Sparkling
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SparklingSag
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posted October 26, 2016 05:26 PM
Today I was having doubts about it all - I am moving half way across the world - how can I do this if not sure my other half will commit?Sparking  IP: Logged |
SparklingSag
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posted November 13, 2016 02:08 AM
Today he said Hello Sunshine....Awww. He has never called me that before. I must light up his life IP: Logged |
girlwiththerainysoul
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posted November 13, 2016 02:18 AM
taurus isn't a relationship-oriented sign (in contrast to leo, virgo, libra and scorpio). it's more about personal achievement and might sound shocking but they love freedom and time for their own. like other fixed signs.when a taurus decides to commit it always must be a relationship with both elements of love and materials in it. IP: Logged |
SparklingSag
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posted November 13, 2016 04:52 AM
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Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:
taurus isn't a relationship-oriented sign (in contrast to leo, virgo, libra and scorpio). it's more about personal achievement and might sound shocking but they love freedom and time for their own. like other fixed signs.when a taurus decides to commit it always must be a relationship with both elements of love and materials in it.
I can understand that - my other half likes the fact I have a good job with prospects and how that looks to his family. IP: Logged |
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