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Topic: Disliked by the same sex
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Readytochill Knowflake Posts: 292 From: In my head Registered: Sep 2015
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posted November 05, 2016 02:12 AM
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Aries23Degrees Knowflake Posts: 3522 From: South Africa Registered: Dec 2012
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posted November 05, 2016 04:06 AM
quote: Originally posted by Readytochill: I was curious what placements or aspects would cause the same sex to dislike the other.Kind of bummed out by dinner last night. Tried having a convo with one of my coworker's wife and she wasn't having it. It's like this with most women which is why I don't have many girlfriends. They don't even want to approach me. It's like I have leprosy or something lol So it made me think that there's something wrong with me and it's bumming me out. I know I shouldn't be trying to get any sort of validation from others but I can't help but wonder.
It is natural for one to want to have a mutual exchange with another(regardless of sex) that can go from being frivolous to deep.
I also get turned off by people whom don't respond with the same fervor as I do when I initially make "contact". But many times, most people are not in the "receptive" mode. Don't be quick to take it personally as some people may not be open or comfortable with strangers. It is something that I myself am learning to appreciate. Some of us out there don't care to increase the friendship/acquaintance circle we have and are fine with just the few people that we know. I often find that opening the conversation and talking about the other person more, tends to break the ice. And if they are still uncomfortable, I quickly abandon that ship and talk to anyone(regardless of sex). In dinner settings, I include everyone in the conversation so that I don't have to deal with having to have a linear "weather" type conversations with someone whom I have little in common with. Some people are just not that interesting so they keep to themselves because they fear that you will find that out about them too. Shake it off IP: Logged |
Soltze Knowflake Posts: 1182 From: Registered: Mar 2015
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posted November 05, 2016 09:13 AM
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Readytochill Knowflake Posts: 292 From: In my head Registered: Sep 2015
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posted November 05, 2016 01:10 PM
quote: Originally posted by Aries23Degrees: It is natural for one to want to have a mutual exchange with another(regardless of sex) that can go from being frivolous to deep.I also get turned off by people whom don't respond with the same fervor as I do when I initially make "contact". But many times, most people are not in the "receptive" mode. Don't be quick to take it personally as some people may not be open or comfortable with strangers. It is something that I myself am learning to appreciate. Some of us out there don't care to increase the friendship/acquaintance circle we have and are fine with just the few people that we know. I often find that opening the conversation and talking about the other person more, tends to break the ice. And if they are still uncomfortable, I quickly abandon that ship and talk to anyone(regardless of sex). In dinner settings, I include everyone in the conversation so that I don't have to deal with having to have a linear "weather" type conversations with someone whom I have little in common with. Some people are just not that interesting so they keep to themselves because they fear that you will find that out about them too. Shake it off
Thank you sososo much for this! Definitely needed it IP: Logged |
LiOnfshh78 Knowflake Posts: 33 From: Florida Registered: Aug 2013
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posted November 07, 2016 12:52 PM
Women are like this with me also. I'm taking a guess here saying it might be my Mars/venus/pluto all conjunct. Men love it, for the wrong reasons, women think I'm some kind of man eater before even speaking to me. I generally get along better with men, so they tend to scoop Thier men up around me, even though I'm not the type to ever go near someone else's man. You probably put off some kind of sexual aura without even trying toIP: Logged |
hypatia238 Moderator Posts: 5202 From: Colorado Registered: Sep 2014
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posted November 07, 2016 12:58 PM
Moon in hard aspect to Venus. 12H ruler in hard aspect to the Moon or Venus; I think it makes women suspicious of you bc they can't really read you or figure you out or they project their subconscious insecurities unto you.. Why don't you post your chart so we can take a look and give feedback? 12H is the house of hidden enemies so the 12H ruler in hard aspect to moon or venus I think can do this. Also 7H ruler in hard aspect to the Moon or Venus as 7H rules open enemies. IP: Logged |
leo_moon Knowflake Posts: 43 From: neptune Registered: Oct 2016
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posted November 07, 2016 01:01 PM
Mars, Venus, Pluto hard aspects.IP: Logged |
hypatia238 Moderator Posts: 5202 From: Colorado Registered: Sep 2014
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posted November 07, 2016 01:15 PM
quote: Originally posted by leo_moon: Mars, Venus, Pluto hard aspects.
I could see that, such females can come off as controlling and pushy which obviously can irritate other females. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa Knowflake Posts: 11690 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted November 07, 2016 01:17 PM
^^ maybe... my friend has this problem and she has Moon in cap, and Venus conj. Pluto and Venus in the first house conj. Scorpio ASC. She tries to be friends with girls but complains they steal her chair or is paranoid they're talking about her. In some cases this is true and in other cases I think (like perceiving her chair at a table is stolen) she takes some things personal, feels rejected and thus rejects socializing with them altogether to avoid it. I understand, I just wonder what would happen if she shrugged off someone taking her chair as just being oblivious and continued on. Maybe she'd have a diff. experience? Anyway, the runing theme is girls are definitely not comfortable around her unless they're odd. Hence me. IP: Logged |
hypatia238 Moderator Posts: 5202 From: Colorado Registered: Sep 2014
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posted November 07, 2016 01:23 PM
quote: Originally posted by hannaramaa: ^^ maybe... my friend has this problem and she has Moon in cap, and Venus conj. Pluto and Venus in the first house conj. Scorpio ASC. She tries to be friends with girls but complains they steal her chair or is paranoid they're talking about her. In some cases this is true and in other cases I think (like perceiving her chair at a table is stolen) she takes some things personal, feels rejected and thus rejects socializing with them altogether to avoid it. I understand, I just wonder what would happen if she shrugged off someone taking her chair as just being oblivious and continued on. Maybe she'd have a diff. experience? Anyway, the runing theme is girls are definitely not comfortable around her unless they're odd. Hence me.
You are right, good thing she has you in her life. IP: Logged |
hypatia238 Moderator Posts: 5202 From: Colorado Registered: Sep 2014
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posted November 08, 2016 08:18 PM
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Readytochill Knowflake Posts: 292 From: In my head Registered: Sep 2015
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posted November 11, 2016 12:25 PM
quote: Originally posted by leo_moon: Mars, Venus, Pluto hard aspects.
Oh yeah, I definitely have those. IP: Logged |
Hemilla Knowflake Posts: 440 From: Winterfell Registered: May 2015
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posted November 11, 2016 12:55 PM
quote: Originally posted by hypatia238: Moon in hard aspect to Venus. 12H ruler in hard aspect to the Moon or Venus; I think it makes women suspicious of you bc they can't really read you or figure you out or they project their subconscious insecurities unto you.. Why don't you post your chart so we can take a look and give feedback? 12H is the house of hidden enemies so the 12H ruler in hard aspect to moon or venus I think can do this. Also 7H ruler in hard aspect to the Moon or Venus as 7H rules open enemies.
This makes sense to me My 12th house ruler is moon its squaring my venus,opposing my mars and squaring pluto - bihes often dont like me and i tend to belive its because they see me as prepotent competition :c and yeah,its mostly my generation of women who dont like me,older ones...i can deal with older women IP: Logged |