posted December 27, 2016 11:33 AM            

How do you feel about love?
How do you deal with love/relationships?
How was your relationship with your mother?
Do you "settle" for people because you just want to feel loved/accepted (or is this just a stereotype)?

Anyway, feel free to add whatever experiences or observations you have to offer. Just tossing around some basic questions for anyone interested in replying.

posted December 27, 2016 11:51 AM            

I'll answer you back to front.

1-i will never settle and never have!! i'd rather die alone.

2-strained, due to her alcohol consumption, for almost 37 years but better now.

3-I am slightly aloof in relationships. My husband understands me though and can "read me" without asking the wrong questions and this is a HUGE relief for me!!! I demand honesty on all accounts. If I sense lies you are out. Simple as that.

posted December 27, 2016 01:46 PM            

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Hi, Violets.

I will try to answer in her place as I know quite a lot about her love life/views (she shares a lot with me).

Love is very, very important to her. She says she cannot live without it, that she feels like she's dying/fading if she doesn't have "love". Which is passion, affection, romance (for her). I must add that she has Pluto in the 5th and a Leo Sun (hence the importance of love is magnified).

She has a problem with desire versus need. That's a very common experience for her: she'll see someone who's younger, attractive, sexually appealing, and she'll get quickly "infatuated" with them, and then she comes back to reality when she realizes it's not a "realistic" option - the other person sees other people, doesn't want to settle, etc.
And all the "serious" people who are more of her age, aren't appealing to her because they're either too boring, too "ugly", and what not.

Can't speak of her relationship with her mother, all I know is that she loves her dearly, respects her, and wants the best for her. She always protects her even though they live very far away from each other. When she was a kid though she barely saw her mother and didn't really have a close relationship with her.

My mother definitely "settles", just not to be alone, yes. Well, less so now. But she still needs male attention/some action in the romance department or else she gets very depressed. She put up with abusive behavior from several people, for years... although it's less of a thing now, gladly.

But it's hard for her to reconcile her desires which are very Libran (Venus): she wants someone good-looking, socially graceful, intelligent, romantic and fair; and her actual needs (Moon) which are emotional security, stability and a long-term partner.

She can be very temperamental - angry one minute, then all affectionate the next... quite turbulent.

But the need for affection is paramount, as is the need for physical intimacy.

In her case though, it seems like a very problematic aspect that I can see play out very clearly in her life.

posted December 27, 2016 03:18 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Room mate had the opposition of Venus in Libra to Moon in Aries and it created a strongly romantic nature.

He was in search of the "ideal" and rarely ever found it hence he had a string of exes

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Need I say more?! My gawd!

Leo V. > Aqua M.

I am hungry. Never enough and then when it comes close I will push it away. Blegh!

Mother is awesome, I could really get along with her.