posted December 30, 2016 05:09 AM            

that's cool! Well done overcoming your fears!

And I agree; whichever house you have saturn in, with time you can get very good at it; far better than those who don't have that placement

posted December 30, 2016 05:31 AM            

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Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:
@vertiver

that's cool! Well done overcoming your fears!

And I agree; whichever house you have saturn in, with time you can get very good at it; far better than those who don't have that placement

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posted December 30, 2016 06:47 AM            

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Originally posted by vertiver:
I have Sag ASC w/ Saturn/ Uranus conjunct and Neptune all in the first and retrograde - but Saturn is closest to ASC - but too wide to be conjunct.

When I was younger I never approached people and was riddled with social anxiety and fear of rejection. But with Saturn in the first you learn to handle it and now I approach people, ask men out on dates. I'm pretty much fearless now. Although still terrible at job interviews

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My youngest (almost 15) is a Gemini asc with saturn in the first, I've noticed the same thing with her. She has slowly become more confident and will approach others, however I notice that she will kind of watch how people behave first. She is also very disciplined. I think this aspect makes people cautious, definitely mentally strong.

posted December 30, 2016 01:15 PM            

I can approach people, but oddly just the other day, I realized as a kid all of the friends I made actually came to me. I was a bit hesitant and reserved, but would open up once the other person started to engage more.

I'm still that way, but not as much (plus my line of work makes for the need to be outgoing).

But people do always say they think I was reserved/guarded at first for the most part...

posted December 30, 2016 05:35 PM            

I don't prefer one way over another. If they like me or wanna talk to me and I haven't noticed them then yeah by all means come n talk to me. I do the same when I like/want to talk to people.

I'm ok with asking people out n voicing my desire/affection. I have a saturn influenced chart, and it seems like the best most practical thing to do. If I like something, go get it. Like someone, let them know. Gotta start somewhere. Save time. Plus I have an impatient streak in my personality, so I'd much rather have a quick, clear answer.

Sure *rejections* don't feel that nice. Hell who am I kidding, even in everyday interactions, like when I start conversations and others don't response that enthusiastically I get a little miffed. But there's a myriad of reasons why they response the way they do, so I get over myself pretty quickly. Plus, you win some you lose some.

When I was younger it usually didn't occur to me to talk to/interact with other people. I was curious about a lot of things, except for people coz back then experiences taught me that people often = more trouble than it was worth. Then I grew up n moved to a place where the environment n people n vibes were different, so I started to like interacting with others after I had more positive experiences. Definitely worth the troubles.