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bananaz
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posted January 20, 2017 10:19 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for bananaz     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This is my sister's chart. She has no lack of male attention, but it seems to mainly come from men who are taken. Some of them hide the fact that they're in relationships, and she finds out later. Some don't even try to hide it. She really wants to find the right guy. I've been looking over her chart and transits, but can't seem to give her good answers. Is there something in this chart that shows attraction to taken men?

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Julz87
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posted January 20, 2017 10:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Julz87     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Bananas,

From what I've seen (not generalizing!), stress aspect between Venus/pluto, moon scorp (specially attracts troubled partners or people with some sort of addiction) and Pisces placements mostly Venus in Pisces.

But Venus/Pluto defnitley one I've seen in serveral charts with women that exude sex appeal however attract some sort of forbidden love, married, distance etc.

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Faery
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posted January 20, 2017 11:06 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Faery     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm not too good at interpreting charts but I noticed that the ruler of her 7th is conjunct the ruler of the 12th house. Since the 12th house represents secrets and hidden things maybe Venus (ruler of 12th) conjunct Jupiter (7th house ruler) could possibly mean she attracts people with secrets

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hypatia238
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posted January 20, 2017 11:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hypatia238     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Honestly that whole stellium in the 7th house explains it well, I feel bad for her. It might help to some extent to relocate so the stellium at least does not fall in the 7h but Mars conjunct neptune on its own already its heading in that direction and you add Saturn and Uranus there conjuncting that widely too and it screams unavailable men, thanks for sharing, that is nice of you.

Mars is what you are attracted to if you are a straight woman and it conjuncts neptune which tends to be attracted to the unattainable, what is hidden or a fantasy rather than reality. Saturn represents restrictions and Uranus likes freedom and non-attachment.

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girlwiththerainysoul
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posted January 21, 2017 01:25 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for girlwiththerainysoul     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by bananaz:
Is there something in this chart that shows attraction to taken men?


venus op. pluto

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Aries23Degrees
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posted January 21, 2017 10:09 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aries23Degrees     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Jupiter/Venus conjunct is "open-ended" , "don't tie me down" love. And when placed in the 11th house, it takes on some of the qualities of Aquarius and makes the love life have a Uranus quality to it.

Uranus/Neptune conjunct in the 7th house.

Neptune in 7th often speaks of an attraction to people who are "open-ended" or are prone to tell "white lies".

Whilst the Uranus conjunction emphasizes the nature of the partner not being consistent or full of surprises etc.

She has Mars in 7th and I have Mars conjunct the 7th house. This also may suggest that she is attracted to people who are independent or not into making "we" decisions.

The conjunction to Uranus(independence) and Neptune(open-ended) works with this.

Even though the 7th is really all about "us", the conjunction of Neptune to all those planets suggests that the partners she is attracted to conceal/hide things a lot(at worst). Or are just chilled and easy-going(at best). And I think she got the former rather than the latter.

It's really weird because Moon/Pluto are conjunct in the 5th- it is in the love-life that she seeks to be nurtured and loved in a profound and deep way.

Though Moon is in 5th and certainly adds spunk and a fiery nature. The conjunction to Pluto dilutes that a great deal and makes relationships a lot more serious i.e romance and flirtation are often expected to lead to "more".

This "hunger" for love is emphasized by Chiron in 1st squaring the Sun/North node in the very public 10th.

I wonder if she goes around telling people of her woes in relationships?That Mercury in Aquarius and the 9th house emphasizes communication-even with strangers.

So people will often see her pain, suffering or lack of confidence(Chiron in 1st) as a part of her projected image (square to Sun in 10th) i.e "woes me. Why do people take advantage of me?" etc.

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nordicsoul
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posted January 21, 2017 03:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for nordicsoul     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by Faery:
I'm not too good at interpreting charts but I noticed that the ruler of her 7th is conjunct the ruler of the 12th house. Since the 12th house represents secrets and hidden things maybe Venus (ruler of 12th) conjunct Jupiter (7th house ruler) could possibly mean she attracts people with secrets

thanks for bringing this up. i have noticed that with people with venus in 12. but using the rulers is another way to look at the same patterns. also hypathia pointed out to mars-neptune. since this planet is generational, most people she attract of her age are going to bring their neptune to her mars. normally, mars neptune is proclive to lying and cheating when in synastry. so probably dating people of different age groups may help lol

but also, she may need to come to terms with that mars neptune aspect in her natal. probably focusing in that aspect alone can make a difference.

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bananaz
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posted January 21, 2017 04:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for bananaz     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you everyone for the replies! I directed her to this post to look them over.

Julz87 Thank you. I have the venus/ pluto trine. Crazy how different the energy is in opposition.

Faery Yeah that makes sense

hypatia238 This makes so much sense. I have noticed that the relationships she's been in, she feels restricted. I need to read up about relocation charts. I keep seeing people mentioning them on here but never did much of my own research

Aries23Degrees Thank you so much for going into detail. It's like you know her. Lol. Three of the guys she's talking to currently are several states away (Open-ended for sure!)
She does enjoy talking about relationships/ her search for love, and is very honest and open about it.

nordicsoul out of all the aspects in her chart, mars/neptune is the one I had figured was the main culprit. Recently, she has been wanting to date much older guys, and maybe that's where her answer lies

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Sandra018
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posted January 21, 2017 05:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Sandra018     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Lovely thread.

i have venus opp pluto...my venus is in the 12th house- similar to ur sisters in Pisces and can agree to all this. i have same issues with attached/unavaible men.
my Uranus is in the 7th- so maybe that has something to do with it also
as well as Mars trine Neptune.
my stellium is in the 12th- sun, venus and mars..

i can totally relate.
sending hugs her way!

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