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saadsarah8
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posted April 04, 2017 01:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for saadsarah8     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Beautiful_Light
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posted April 04, 2017 02:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Beautiful_Light     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I feel this way too whenever I go somewhere, whether that's on a trip or a camp and make new friends, then it ends and you have to say your good-byes and go back home and not see them anymore .

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Randall
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posted April 04, 2017 03:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It's something people won't understand unless they have experienced it. Even if there's a lot you dislike about college, once you move on, it leaves a gaping hole in your heart. Have you considered perhaps getting a Master's?

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Aries23Degrees
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posted April 05, 2017 05:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aries23Degrees     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Instead of clinging on to the past. Why not look at this chapter closing as necessary to open yourself up to futher expansion?

Remember that the "past" was once upon a time the future 😊. Its hard for Moon in 8th to stop thinking about the fears of the future.

The moon is the emotional mind. The 8th house is sudden ups/downs. So when the Moon is in the 6th/8th, there is a tendency of feeling like life is chaotic ,stressful, scary and unpredictable.

But if you become the "centre" from which your home/safety net is built,its not so bad.

The truth is that change is inevitable. And even if you stay where u are, your friends will grow up and move, renovations will be done around the college,your crush will also finish and even your routine will change.

It will all still be your college. But it would have changed and it is likely not to feel like it used to.

So it will not be "home". And it will feel like change .

There is a saying I like to recall now and then "rather initiate change than have change be initiated on you".

The home you want is in your head. And luckily your head is wherever you are. So maybe consider making a home wherever you are.

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posted April 10, 2017 11:11 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Distraction and focus. Go out, find and live your passion in life. Create the life you want and others will fall into place for you.

A few thoughts off the top of my head and a part of my story for you...

My love life since it started has had many horrific heart breaks. I can't tell you how many times my heart was shattered to smithereens..me longing for a family. I have a very strong moon in cancer and Venus in Pisces. Venus in Pisces loves everybody and gets easily attached...I've had professional relationships that have ended and it was sad to see them go.....ive had a few personal relationships go.....

I guess one needs to learn of detachment and objectivity.... it could help....I had to learn that when I worked in homecare with seniors and I saw death a lot.

I'm similar to how you are. Never wanting to let go and clinging to a memory.... that soul mate from long ago and wishing they were still around..... but the truth is that we evolve, grow and change... my late cancerian father had told me once that all relationships are learning experiences.

Many moons have passed and I'm a lot older. Love comes and as do children.... although I was only 31 when I had my first child.

I may hurt like the dickens now, but in time the pain will lesson.... be excited and open to new adventures in life.... look at it as personal growth and evolution and soon you'll find that special somebody to grow with.....I believe in this quote people come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime, just figure out which is which... remember the happy times.... wish them well and move forward......

I hope this helps.....

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posted April 10, 2017 11:13 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Sagical:
Distraction and focus. Go out, find and live your passion in life. Create the life you want and others will fall into place for you.

My love life since it started has had many horrific heart breaks. I can't tell you how many times my heart was shattered to smithereens..me longing for a family. I have a very strong moon in cancer and Venus in Pisces.

I'm similar to how you are. Never wanting to let go and clinging to a memory.... that soul mate from long ago and wishing they were still around..... but the truth is that we evolve, grow and change... my late cancerian father had told me once that all relationships are learning experiences.

Many moons have passed and I'm a lot older. Love comes and as do children.... although I was only 31 when I had my first child.

I may hurt like the dickens now, but in time the pain will lesson.... be excited and open to new adventures in life.... look at it as personal growth and evolution and soon you'll find that special somebody to grow with.....I believe in this quote people come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime, just figure out which is which... remember the happy times.... wish them well and move forward......

I hope this helps.....


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posted April 10, 2017 11:14 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
trying to find that place to call home

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Randall
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posted April 13, 2017 12:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by soren:
trying to find that place to call home

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polkadotstars
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posted April 14, 2017 08:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for polkadotstars     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I know it's easier said than done when it comes to advice. But, change isn't always a bad thing.

How did you feel before you started college? Did you have the same feelings you are now when you left high school? Was there the anxiety of leaving the old and starting new back then?

Just because you are ending college doesn't mean you have to leave your happiness behind. Yes, you won't get to see your friends as often as you did in college. But it doesn't mean you have to lose all contact with them. I know a lot of people who are still really close with their college friends well into their adulthood.

As a military brat, I moved around a lot as a kid. I was shy and I was always so scared of having to leave what I already had worked so hard for at friendships behind. I was so mad at my parents for having us move when I just wanted to stay in my comfort zone that I had already built. But, for some reason, whenever I moved, after the adjustment period wore off, I found myself happy, with new friends and new experiences that I never even thought about happening. Now, looking back on all my different schools and different friends I made, it's made me a better person. I couldn't imagine if I had stayed in one comfortable spot all my life. I don't mean that as a bad thing, some people never move from their hometown, and that isn't a negative thing. I just don't think it's for me, now that I have so much exposure to other places and cultures. It's made me a stronger person because I find I can adapt to new situations quickly and I've picked up the skill of being able to talk to anyone and relating to them quite well when first meeting them.

I guess what I'm trying to say, is just because you're moving on to a new chapter, doesn't mean you won't have anymore happy days left. You'll find new experiences and new people that you never even thought about happening. If you always live in the past, you can't live in the present and you'll miss out on opportunities that will make you happy. Instead of looking at it as a doom and gloom situation, look at it as a new page with new adventures. You went to college and you had a great time, from what it sounds like. Imagine if you were having your anxieties that you are having now, back before college, and you decided not to go to college. You would have missed out on so many good things! That's how you need to look at the future.

The future can be scary when you don't know what's going to happen, especially when you love your past so much. But how you react to situations is very very critical. You can either go into something hating it or having an open mind about it. Which attitude do you think with help you have a better experience?

Good luck!

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saadsarah8
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posted April 14, 2017 05:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for saadsarah8     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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hypatia238
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posted April 14, 2017 06:41 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hypatia238     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by saadsarah8:
Thank you all for your lovely responses. They made me emotional (in a good way!)

@Randall: Master's isn't an option because my university doesn't offer it. Also, I really hate living where I do and I can't wait to leave.
But I guess the reason why I'm so attached and heartbroken (and I'm terribly embarrassed to admit this) is because I've attached myself to this guy at school and to the idea of us being together, even though it's never gonna happen.

I need to learn to be more realistic about my heart's yearnings.. and to only invest in those worthwhile


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DualGemV2
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posted April 14, 2017 07:14 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for DualGemV2     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Congrats.

Assuming you finished in Ottawa you'd either will be graduating from Carleton or uOttawa.

I actually have dual status at both schools, I know the pro/cons at both institutions and what its like so congrats if its from either one of the two schools.

My first question is do you like what your doing? or did you do a degree for the sake of getting a degree?

This is important when it comes to grad school. Some degrees and fields you will naturally connect to others you won't.

It might take some people more time to learn math or even write reports vs another.

For example even as I write this I'm reviewing for an exam on Monday for one of my electives.

I haven't keep up with the course but I know how much time it takes for me to learn and understand geoscience concepts and "wing" an A.

Now if I had stuck to geology I'd be alot happier and finished by now, thats when my good Gemini twin comes out.

But instead I let my ego get the better of me and decided to go with Computer Science and Software Engineering (Bad Gemini Twin).

I can do it but I don't have the same connection to geology.

The amount of time it takes someone to get an A for one subject vs another really defines what major or grad degree you should be pursuing.

The other thing is hopefully if you do go for grad school you aim for McGill or UofT, both well ranked in the US.

If not its not so bad... Many of the American users on lindaland will disagree with me on this but in Canada you don't get the same discrepancies between different universities and of course debt load.

So be happy...

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lalalinda
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posted April 14, 2017 09:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for lalalinda     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

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A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step...Lao Tzu

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Randall
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posted April 17, 2017 04:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Aw, that's bad that you have no Master's there.

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mirage29
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posted April 17, 2017 07:48 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mirage29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Saadsarah8 .... I'm Deeply Feeling you here on your dilemma. You are SUCH a strong and Beautiful soul for the way you are expressing all this. {{{ }}

In a lot of ways, I can relate. I've got a stellium Cancer H8 (and other things, I won't go into).

I understand the feeling of needing to be bonded in a secure relationship with someone, in order to be emotionally supported, and feeling like I've got someone physically 'on my side' or 'watching my back' in life.

I Admire the way you sitting with it; processing it; trying to understand it in a conscious manner.

Right now, Saturn is probably in square to itself in your transits (3/4 square) and Saturn is helping you test yourself.

Insecurity is felt at this time, and could also be 'in your vibe' to others (professional, friends). IF you know that already!, and you face this time Consciously, then you'll find an identity for yourself INSIDE you, that will become a securer part of you.

You should be having some more beneficial transits just ahead of you, and before you come to your 1st Saturn Return-- which is like a kind of Final Exam before entering the world as a full-fledged astrological adult.

Sometimes transits are occurring and affecting you 'inside' ... and that's what makes you notice the 'outside' things.

So... you already KNOW you're a great person and can function well in a college(future-job) environment AND handle being Valuable in a relationship.

Whether or not you'll be with THIS particular person would be up to him. IF you separate, you WILL be okay! {{{ }}} It just doesn't 'feel' that way.

You'll be fortifying yourself going through all this. Try not to fret... The insecurity-kind of feelings will run their course. You just BE OKAY in the DEEP FEELING part of you... I realize sometimes there's a desperate kind of feel at end of college, because I think a woman's body-clock is working with you too (mating, having children; wanting secure foundations; good income, good help; feather that nest-builder Cancerian energy).

You know.... in the Vedic systems? ... I think (I could be wrong) that around age 32 there's a window for good marriages?

Perhaps if 'this one' isn't 'the Right one' then someone Great is waiting for you off-stage by the wing-curtains?

(I'm thinking of the words to a song... Oh it's SAD to Belong to someone else, when the Right One comes along!

Think of your Adventure!!!
oh yesss. The other ones were just Practice?

Wishing you BLESSINGS for Right Relationships!

You are WORTH it,
This is 'not' the Last Chance,
And YOU are sooo totally Worth Waiting-for!

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mirage29
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posted April 17, 2017 07:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mirage29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Oh! And like Dual-Gem says...

HUGE Congratulations on your Achievement!

Graduating with a degree is a great BIG DEAL! Hurray!

Keep on Going.... You're ALMOST THERE!!!!!

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saadsarah8
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posted April 20, 2017 06:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for saadsarah8     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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mirage29
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posted April 20, 2017 10:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mirage29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Saadsarah8 {{hug!!}}
You're A Beautiful Work In Progress!
Always Perfecting, not expected to be 'perfect'.

ALL The Best!

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