posted August 17, 2017 05:55 PM            

there is this Scorpio guy I like for nearly a year. Yes, I'm single and never had a boyfriend. I'm twenty by the way. So, I like him really much and he has no idea what is happening inside of me when I see him or think of him.
When we first started being around each other at university, we kind of clicked and it was really nice to be around his company at least for me. But I think he liked it too. Anyway, I haven't seen a clear sign he might be into me. We were just like friends, you know.
Now... I'm really shy (triple Cancer...) and can sometimes be rigid or oblivious to attention from guys (virgo asc...). And I made my best to hide the interest for him (not sure how leo venus plays out here). Which I now think of as a mistake.
I thought, if he really likes me, then he will show it in a clear way. There would be no way that I would ask him out or even initiate flirting. But he didn't show me anything.
It was the opposite. We drew away from each other and made just little talk the past half a year. He was kind of nice and flirty with other girls, I was pretending that I don't care and sure I found ways to distract myself, but everytime in my head I go back to him and FEEL something. Something so strong, so intense I have never felt for any guy before.
Now... I know the only way to finally get over this is to show my interest to him and see how he responds. So I can move on or stay with.
But the reason I'm asking for your advice or opinion is that:
1. Maybe I'm setting myself up for failure, because when I "kind of" sensed his interest was a long time ago and now it could be all different. Besides, he never actually told me or did something "extra" to seduce me or something. I know it sounds silly, but I have experience where guys went full speed for me to get attention or affection in return. And with him... there were of course some smiles, long eye contacts from afar, touches. But again...long time ago.
2. And the most important one - I'm **** scared of showing the interest. My feelings for him or whatever are so strung up and so up in my throat that I'm almost choking. Year of secret crush is too much. I cannot act as a normal human around him anymore. I'm super shy, nervous, unnatural... It would be VERY difficult for me to ask him out! I'm going crazy

So... I don't know...

Should I show him interest in a CLEAR way (I mean, no smiles or jokes, or eye contact is working, because I'm already doing that, so a strong hint...strong one)?
Or maybe I'm making myself a too difficult task?

P.S. But I really really like him. I cannot forget him easily (I see him often!).

He is Cap Asc, Scorpio Sun and Merc, Virgo Moon and Mars, Libra Venus.
I'm Cancer Sun, Moon and Merc, Leo Venus, Libra Mars

posted August 18, 2017 01:38 AM            

go for it.

if you don't, you may regret it in the future, and blame yourself that he "became the one that got away"

posted August 18, 2017 06:47 PM            

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Sometimes it appears to me that he avoids my company. But it is all so awkward I even think that he's just as shy as me.

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Games. This is one of the games Scorpios are famous for, fleeing the scene just as you're approaching. This is the point where, if I were interested in one, I lose interest immediately. I then ignore them totally until they seek me out. When they come looking for me it's realized the chemistry has died.

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Can you tell me more about approaching scorpios and more precise experiences of your own, if you will?
Thank you anyway for responding. It helps

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posted August 18, 2017 07:23 PM            

With my Scorpio Moon and Mercury, you might think I'd be on the same page as a girl Sun of that sign.

Maybe on occasion I have been on the same page with a female Scorpio and didn't know it

Therein lies my problem with the Dark Sign - the only thing you'll ever know for sure is that you don't know. And the more you'd like to know, the less you're likely to know.

Why wade into an unknown swamp at 20? Males of that age, Scorpio or otherwise, are usually still boys.

The ability to wait is the Master Aptitude of life.

posted August 18, 2017 11:36 PM            

they're also quick at the uptake, and can tell almost immediately whether someone they meet is a friend and can be trusted or not

I wonder if you've been sending him mixed signals, especially since you mention you have cancer placements (occasional moodiness)

scorpios are after steadiness and stability (taurus) in relationships, because naturally taurus rules their 7th

posted August 19, 2017 08:13 AM            

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Originally posted by girlwiththerainysoul:
scorpios have a way of looking at things, even relationships as if they're investments; that's why they like and prefer it when the other person approaches, because then they are assured that they won't waste time or pride pursuing someone who isn't into them

scorpios are after steadiness and stability (taurus) in relationships, because naturally taurus rules their 7th

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I agree with you, rainy soul.

posted August 20, 2017 11:51 AM            

Men with this Venus sign are looking for a living Barbie doll. Someone who is naturally pretty, dresses nice, smells nice, and puts a lot of effort into her appearance.

Does this describe you? If not, maybe that's why he isn't making himself available to you.

posted August 20, 2017 03:29 PM            

Its no big deal whom makes the 1st move-so long as both parties are down. But I always think it better to test the waters before jumping in head first.

Fish to see if your feelings are reciprocated. Because if you jump right in and he responds in a manner that is uncomfortable. You could feel terribly embarrassed.

Most people may not walk up to u and tell you they like you. But there are tell tale signs of whether or not they are soft when it comes to you.

With Moon in earthy Virgo, cards are played very close to the chest but charm gets through to all people.

Re-establish a rapport. Chat to him. Find out what he is all about and chat to him about stuff you have in common and see if he keeps the momentum going.

Open an invitation to something that you and friends enjoy. See if he shows up.

Body language and eye contact. When we like someone, the whole world does not exist(for that time) and we give them undivided attention by focusing on them exclusively.

Random chats on chat applications esp a "Hi" initiated by him and long ass messages is usually a sign that they have the hots for ya.

posted August 21, 2017 03:11 AM            

I was kind of doing my best flirty moves back then when we were in contact like every day. And sometimes talking just us two.

But it never went past the limits or barriers. I'm blaming myself for that, because maybe there wasn't enough SIGN from my part.

But correcting mistakes after a lot time that has passed is really difficult. Maybe he moved on really well and I'm standing in this place alone. We weren't ar aren't really close to discuss that though.

posted August 24, 2017 08:11 AM            

It is funny tho because I think I am in a similar situation as you as in I met a guy this past weekend and he's been in my mind these past few days... I think I'm gonna go slow and steady on this one too