posted October 08, 2017 10:42 PM            

I feel you I desire to have someone too and I'm extremelly romantic so this situation is hard for me.I broke up with my boyfriend 3 years ago hehe see we are having the same problem.

Are you feeling happy with yourself?Content with who you are?Maybe this is what is holding you back?I'm working on my self-love because my self-steem is current low.Actually I think I never had a healthy self-steem lol Is hard to admit but I sabotage my relationships.I don't let people get close because deep down I have some unresolved issues on my heart.

Honestly I think you have to avoid the negativity about this aspect,I mean stop reading that stuff.Just try to see what you need to change to be more available,sociable.You gonna find someone!

posted October 08, 2017 11:50 PM            

I like how this astrologer describes Venus Saturn aspects.

(topic) Venus Saturn aspect in natal chart, transits, and synastry (Veerle Debruyne, 2014) [23:56] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3zgVgA8UwR4

I have the opposition.

posted October 09, 2017 05:07 AM            

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Originally posted by CardinalT-Square:
I have Venus Square Saturn and I have been struggling with my love life as well, been searching for that right woman but to no avail. I want to like them a nvidia d trust them, but they always turn out to be flaky and untrustworthy, and they try to play "hard to get" games with me, but I lose interest fast. Anyone else experience people like that? What did you do about those situations?

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Are you a man? Venus in a mans chart shows what kind of women you attract to yourself energy wise. So you may attract saturnian women. The hard to get games is the norm. If you can't put up with that you can't win them! Also it may be that you mix "unsecurity" with "hard to get". As an example, I have an Aries venus so I'm very direct with the person I flirt with. If the person starts to flirt back I may feel like maybe I'm too pushy. I will get unsecure. I will start to be a bit passive and back off a bit. Just to see if the man is genuine and really likes me! If he does not get scared by my "coldness" I will feel safe again and be my warm Aries self. It's lots of emotions involved in situations like this. Saturn makes one feel vulnarable and tells you to back up a bit, to get a hold on your emotions so you won't do something stupid. This is stuff "games" men play too. It's hard to see the nuances sometimes. But for men its harder as the norm is that they have to pursue and they have to reassure the woman.

posted October 09, 2017 09:50 AM            

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Originally posted by Koniucha:
I have Venus conj. Saturn. I have been single for about 5 years now. It used to bother men, but no more. Unfortunately I attract mostly losers, so I would rather be alone. I have a 12th house Mars, so attract losers and men with issues.

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posted October 09, 2017 05:04 PM            

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Originally posted by Melinn:
I have Venus conj. Saturn. I have been single for about 5 years now. It used to bother men, but no more. Unfortunately I attract mostly losers, so I would rather be alone. I have a 12th house Mars, so attract losers and men with issues.

Hahah! sorry the "loser" thing made me laugh out laud! . Hmm in my case I seem to attract saturnian men and friends and I like it because they are very relaible. I like realible friends. The kind who when they say they will do something for or with you won't back out the last minute and let you hang, you know. I wouldn't assume you attract losers because of the Venus-saturn contact? It maybe due to some other aspects?

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posted October 09, 2017 09:07 PM            

Yes, I'm a man. For some reason these women come up with excuses to get out of a date..."I'm a lesbiane" or "Can we reschedule?" Or they'll just quit or get fired. If it's not any of that, it's something out of the ordinary such as this women I've been talking too, I was going to ask her out and get her number when suddenly the lights went out in the breakroom, at first we though it was lack of movement, it was just us, but she tried tripping the sensor, then I tried, it took for me to open the door to get them to come on again, that should not have been the case, we thought they were broke, afterwards it killed any rapport we built up, and she had to go back anyways. I swear, I just don't have any luck at all no matter what I try.

My Venus is in Virgo 3rd House, my Saturn is in Sag. 6th House.

posted October 10, 2017 01:47 AM            

I've also dealt with people who play games, and I'm sure others who don't have this aspect go through the same thing because it's one of the most common tactics used in romance. (My most favorite is the jealousy game in order to feel validation for their existence, and making it really obvious by taking side peeks at you while "flirting" with someone else. Why would anyone want to use someone to do that?)

posted October 10, 2017 01:59 AM            

I hope they get better for the both of us as well.

Another thing is when I'm on a break between courting a woman, one will cross paths with me, she'll either try to convince me to be her rebound guy after a bad break-up, or try to convince me to cheat with them when they're with some other guy.

posted October 10, 2017 04:18 AM            

its funny how the law of attraction works when one is looking for a relationship and not looking for one. Gawd. Life is complicated. When it comes to getting the things we want, is it a matter of chance? Timing? Growth? Experience? Guts? Is there an astrological transit we can look out for? Lol

Someday you'll meet someone at the right time and perfect situation who has all the right qualities and will want to be with you as you want to be with them. With 7billion people on this planet I truly think there's hope for all of us.

posted October 11, 2017 08:32 AM            

Yay!

I've had low self-esteem pretty much all my life, lots of self-doubt - but I'm starting to get a handle on it. I know my weaknesses, and I'm working with them now.

Because of my low self-esteem my romantic history is checkered with subtly abusive men in various ways. Thankfully I've now wised up to this and I'm proceeding with considerably more caution than in the past.

It's taken me one and a quarter saturn returns to nail this tho (last one was t. saturn opp venus, which was exact this time last year). And I genuinely think I'm finally overcoming some of this and have some optimism for the future.

Saturn is a teacher. I refer to him as a shouty gym PTI - he'll beast you and beast you til you put the effort in to earn your reward. Some people are quicker to catch on than others - in my experience, people with venus-saturn are too busy feeling sorry for themselves/victimised to realise they can change their perspective, and in so doing change the outcomes.

(And I say this in reference to myself.)

posted October 11, 2017 08:49 PM            

Its not that there is no one for me. Its just that I believe that it is the other person(not me) that is just so damne insensitive or harsh(Mars in 7th)

I attract very sexy people. Really. But they are waaay too abrasive and forward for me. Which offends my sensitivities.

I don't think Venus-Saturn prevents me in my case. As it adds social decorum to my interactions. I try not to come across too glib. So it makes me more attractive to others.

When I do marry, I suspect my partner will be the rough and tumble type. As Juno is in Aries opposing Pluto and square my Moon/Mercury/Mars T-square.

posted October 12, 2017 03:50 AM            

Its a bit convoluted with Uranus opposing as well. But I didn't really date until I 22. That relationship lasted 3 months and then my last relationship that ended 2 years ago - we were together for 4 1/2 years.

I don't have a problem attracting people but I run very hot/cold when I date people, always finding ways to not like them - resisting my feelings basically. Its isolating - and I also dated people who were takers, arrogant and undeserving of me.